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2mommiesinoh · August 2012

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Two*True · August 2012

How are you doing? Like, really doing?

JGY · August 2012

What is your community like in OH? Do you have lots of support in your relationship and for you family? Or not as much as you'd like?

I'm curious.

Thanks for putting yourself out there!

2mommiesinoh · August 2012

Two*True:
How are you doing? Like, really doing?

Ah the million dollar question. Honestly I have my days where everything is okay and then I have them where I just do not want to do anything but go back to bed. I am seeing a therapist and I am mostly no longer angry at Ann (Well at least I am less inclined to feel the need to punch her in the face, that is a start right??)....even though she ineveitably will do something stupid again that pisses me off but I try to put it behind me...I am hurt more than anything.

I am working on taking some time for myself. I want to do things that I want to do and pick out things that I like and not have to think about if someone else approves. I told my therapist I wanted to buy the ugliest couch I could find but if I liked it then who cares...it is mine! I have a habit of putting everyone else first and worrying about making myself happy last. I am trying to take time to fix that. Right now is about me and Ky only.

I am also working on how I feel about myself. The last few years have been spent hearing how I am not good enough, I never make enough money, I am a bad parent, I am a nag, I am a terrible person, etc. I never realized how much all of that adds up. When we split up I really felt like I was not worth fighting for and that is how she moved on so easily and just did not care. In reality she is just selfish and with someone else already moved into our old bedroom that really is apparent. SO that was an extra blow to my already fragile self esteem.

Honestly if I could break all ties with Ann I would. I would NEVER talk to her again if we did not have Ky. There is no reason for us to communicate on a daily basis except that little girl.

2mommiesinoh · August 2012

JGY:

What is your community like in OH? Do you have lots of support in your relationship and for you family? Or not as much as you'd like?

I'm curious.

Thanks for putting yourself out there!

OH is anti-gay marriage so law wise there is not much here. My workplace is awesome and recognizes domestic partners and offers benefits and everything like that and I know we are not the only employer in my area that does so. My family is fantastic. They support me 100% and are completely accepting of me.

As far as the gay community...there really is not a big one where I live. I mean it is here and we have a Price but like no one goes. The gay community that is here is more of the single gay community and almost all of the lesbians know the other lesbians in some way shap or form....it reminds me of the Chart from the L.Word. So I do not have any gay friends that have kids. In fact the only gay friends I do have were friends of my ex that I met through her and stayed in touch after our seperation. If I lived in Columbus it might be different but I like my smaller downtown with easy access to nice suburbs that are not ridiculously expensive...

butterflygrooves · August 2012

How do you like living with your parents? How does Ky like it?

2mommiesinoh · August 2012

butterflygrooves:
How do you like living with your parents? How does Ky like it?

I am ok with it for now. I mean I am 28 years old and I feel kind of bad for it, like i am a grown up now so I should be living on my own. On the flip side I do so much for my parents now that I never realized they needed help with. my mom is seriously ill. She was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes at age 14 and after almost 40 years it has taken its toll on her. She jokes she is a 50 somehting year old but she feels like she is 80+. She works in a career that is not kind to her either, she is on her feet constantly and never has a set schedule so she cannot even eat on a regular basis to maintain her insulin/bs levels. When she comes home she is tired, and I do not mean normal you and me tired I mean fatigued to the point she probably should not ahve drove home. She is also often in pain. That is where I come in. I cook, clean, do laundry, and even go grocery shopping. Just last night I asked her what she wanted in MY kitchen when she came out while I was cooking dinner. Yes I wen thtere, especially since my mom does not and has never had the desire to cook.I feel like even though it is embarassing to live at home at 28 I am helping them more than anyone can ever understand.

Ky LOVES it. She is a mamaw's baby. She has always been more attached to my parents than Ann's. She is spoiled rotten (which I am working on moderation in all things with them in regards to her) and knows if mommy is busy mamaw's lap is right there. Their backyard is bigger than the one we had and a little safer in my opinion so if she wants to go play outside while I am cooking or doing dishes I have no problem with it as I can see right out the kitchen windows/back door. Even if I am folding laundry in her room I can see her as her room is the one that faces the backyard.

2moms2b · August 2012

What was your hardest adjustment to parenting?

What is your favorite age of Ky so far?

ctbride08 · August 2012

Do you have any siblings? What is your relationship like with them?

2mommiesinoh · August 2012

2moms2b:

What was your hardest adjustment to parenting?

What is your favorite age of Ky so far?

Hardest adjustment was accounting for the time it takes to get places. I like to be super punctual but I never realized how much longer it took to get ready, get Ky ready, get a diaper bag ready, load everyone in the car, etc. It is slightly better now that she is older but now I deal with dragging feet, but I want to bring this toy, but I need milk, but I don't wanna go______, etc.

Favorite age is a hard one. She was such a calm baby, she only cried if she needed something and was just sweet and content most of the time. But I liked the one year range too, she seemed more durable then and much more interactive. This age is trying BUT I love that she carries on actual conversations with me now, I love that she will sing songs and play games, and I especially love the random, "Wove you mama! Huggies? Kiss Kiss?". So I am going to answer all of them but the temper tantrum/biting/miss way too independent part of twos?

2mommiesinoh · August 2012

themommymonster:

How did you pick Ky's name? Does it have special meaning to you?

Ann and I picked Ky's name out WAY before we started TTC. We knew from the day we started talking about having kids a girl would be named Kylie Ann B. There is no special meaning to Ky's first name. We liked it. It is the only girl's name we both loved and agreed on. I like the more oddball names (Alexia, Gwendolyn, Willow...don't ask) while she likes the more traditional. Ann is actually a family middle name for Ann's side. All of the first born girls are given the middle name Ann starting with Ky's great grandma. It is R Ann (great grandma), B Ann (grandma), and A Ann (which is dada. I called my ex by her middle name it was my little pet name/term of endearment for her since everyone always called her by a shortened version of her first name. I still call her Ann even though it pisses her off out of habit. I have stopped myself from using the other pet names, hon, babe, etc but I cannot shake that one.) So Ky was destined to be Kylie Ann before we even started tyring for a baby. There was talk when I was 32 weeks pregnant of changing the first name (the middle was never going to change) but neither of us could come up with anything and we had been calling her Ky since 20w and when she was born she was our little Kylie Ann for sure.

So maybe more meaningful for Ann since it is her family middle name (my family does not have any traditions) and Ann's last name BUT I could never picture her as anything else...

2mommiesinoh · August 2012

ctbride08:
Do you have any siblings? What is your relationship like with them?

I have several although none of them are full siblings. In age order:

I have a half brother that is from my mom's first marriage, W. He is 7 years older than me and we got along more when we were younger. When we moved he was 15 and resented moving to a new school while in HS so he stayed with my grandma and finished school there. We grew apart then and the rift just got bigger when it became clear that we were as different as night and day. This is a case where biology clearly does play a part in who you are. I am more like my mom and bio father, I would say a 50/50 mix. He is hardly like my mom at all but is VERY similar to his bio dad. We try to get along now for my mom's sake BUT he is very...redneck. I really am not sure how to put it nicely. He would fit in just fine on his own acre of land in the deep south as long as no one came on it? He is okay with me but not really okay with gay people in general, especially gay men. We are just from two different schools of thought on a lot of issues.

I also have a half sister from my bio father's first marriage. She is about the same age as W give or take a few months. I stopped seeing her when I stopped seeing my father for weekend visits when I was 16/17. She got involved in some shady things and is finally trying to get her life together and provide for the two kids she still has custody of. I know of her through the family I am friends with on FB (including her) but I have not spoken to or seen her in over ten years.

I have a step brother (my Mom's current husband's son, that sounds terrible since they have been married since I was like 7 and call him dad...) that is younger than me, maybe 6 years younger? He stopped coming to stay with my dad on weekends when I was about 12. My dad tried hard to get custody of him as things were not going well for him at home but it never quite worked out. I have not talked ot him since then either. My dad still sees him sometimes but I think it makes him sad to know his only biological child ended up the way he did in and out of juvy and everything else when he tried so hard to reach out to him. He is part of the reason my dad pushed me to continue my relationship with Bob (my bio father), but I think he finally realized that I would turn out okay without Bob and I considered him my dad.

Kershnic · August 2012

What is your favorite kid's book?

If you ever left OH where would you live?

2mommiesinoh · August 2012

Kershnic:

What is your favorite kid's book?

If you ever left OH where would you live?

Kid's book....oh so many! I used to be an elementary school teacher so I have a huge collections and I love them all for different reasons. SO I cannot answr this question!

I would like to live someplace on the east coast. New England area. No idea whyt I just always have since I was little.

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