Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Kie310
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Re: Regarding a RCS
(read it. you know you want to.)
anderson . september 2008
vivian . february 2010
mabel . august 2012
Thanks for that
I remember it seeming like forever with my first & I had the most amazing nurse & my husband right there! They did a good job, but I was still having regular contractions, that probably didn't help!
I'm glad to know they will give me a little something to relax. I get weird with medical stuff. I have to take something when I get an MRI done, I can't stand it that much.
After my next u/s if this hasn't moved or changed, I'm going to bring it up to my OB, can't hurt to put it out there, right?
OP - I am currently having this anxiety and it's been getting worse each day. My RCS is scheduled for Monday. I'm excited for this to be over but I'm really nervous. I don't do well with needles and having my blood drawn. I've thrown up each time my blood has been drawn and once they even had to give me demerol (different surgery not preg related) because I was so tense they couldn't get enough blood out. I keep saying the same thing to my FI, that the last time after 44 hours of labor you just don't care what happens, I just wanted it over with. Now there is just so much preparation and anticipation. I figure that no matter what I do this is happening on Monday. Time isn't standing still for me and this time next week it will all be over with. That calms me down a bit.
MLF - To the bolded, did they make YH stay out of the room for the spinal? I just spoke with the nurse about the day of procedure and they told me that FI has to stay out of the room until they are done giving me the spinal. I really don't like that and neither does FI. It isn't like they make SO's leave in the middle of labor when an epidural is given and it is the same needle right? I guess they don't want people passing out but FI is more than ok with it and I feel like I really need him there with me the entire time
I'm going to try to keep that in mind, I swear. But it's the same needle basically
I'm fearing the only reason I got through it is because I had been in pain for over 14 hours and I just needed relief.
I'm going to ask for something to calm my nerves before it happens & definitely day of if I'm going in there feeling like I'm going to throw up the nothing I have eaten at that point.
I'm not saying I'm not being irrational, it's just how I am. I can't even watch someone else get needles or an IV without crying.
Yes, both times (different hospitals) they required DH to wait outside the OR until the anesthesiologist was done. Every c/s-having friend I've talked to has had that same experience. I have no idea what the reasoning is. Honestly, it happens so quickly that it doesn't bother me to have DH wait outside the room - the nursing team is obviously well trained to support you during that part. Obviously it doesn't hurt to question things, though, if you don't feel right about it! At least they might be able to explain why that policy is in place.
(read it. you know you want to.)
anderson . september 2008
vivian . february 2010
mabel . august 2012
They made my DH get out for the epidural when I was in the middle of labor. My hospital policy only allows a nurse and the anesthesiologist to be in the room while a spinal and or epidural is being given.
I am also someone who is terrified of needles, bloodwork, and all things medical. I always look away when I have something done, even as simple as having blood taken, that's how bad it is. My CS was unplanned but not emergency so I walked into the OR on my own two feet and you can only imagine what was going on in my head. But somehow last minute I was able to pull myself together - I told myself that for the sake of my son, I had to make this as positive of an experience as it could be. I told the medical team I was scared and they were great at comforting me - the nurse held my hand , the anestesiologist was cracking jokes, and before I knew the prep was done and they brought MH in. At that point I was just excited to meet DS and not as anxious. Try to hang in there - it'll be ok. (((Hugs)))
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OB visit; HB of 166 - 10/13/11
2nd US; HB of 163 - 10/18/11
A/S - 12/9/11 - It's a perfect healthy BOY!!!!
Our miracle baby boy - born 5/24/12
My water broke 4 days before my scheduled c/s (frank breech presentation) so I walked into the OR without really feeling the labor. It was weird leaving DH out in the hall but my OB was really sweet and handed me a pillow to hold on to and hugged me while the spinal was performed. Like PPs said, it is over very quickly and the OR team talked to me the whole time to distract me.
You can do it mama! I would bring it up with your OB to let them know ahead of time. Good luck to you!