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TTC after 35
IN TEARS!!!!! NEED TO VENT
I have posted a few times , my name is Sara and am an Army wife . DH just found out today that there is a huge change they are going to change his orders from he and i both going to Italy to him going to Korea or Kwuite. I am so upset , we are TTC after having a miscarriage and now this , It wouldnt be sad bad if i wasnt going to be 36 this year . So that means we couldnt try after he left for over a year till i was close to 38. Im sorry to be a baby , do yall ever feel like your running out of time ?
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Re: IN TEARS!!!!! NEED TO VENT
Me 41 DH 46 Not actively ttc, surprise BFP on 1/6/11! 4/1/11 m/c our sunshine at 16wks after complications from CVS test. TTC #2 **5th cycle 12/6/11 BFP! Missed m/c at 9 weeks 1/21/12, trisomy 14. Two Chemical PG 3/12&7/12
** BFP 8/16/12 beta #1 148! beta#2 407 beta #3 4000 u/s 9.10 1 lovely hb 126, Baby Boy is due 04/28/13!!
Yes. I'm 38 now, turning 39 in two weeks. I'm so sorry. I know how frustrating it is.
TTC since August 2011, Me = 40, DH = 38
Unexplained IF. Tried Clomid for 3 cycles. All BFNs. BFP 1/6/13. Chemical pregnancy.
Moving on to IVF#1. ER 11/26/13, 16 eggs retreived, 12 mature and all fertilized. 2 blasts transferred on 12/1. All other embies arrested so nothing left to freeze. Beta 12/10 = BFN. IVF #2 March 2014. BFP!!! TEAM BLUE!!!
3 failed IVF with OE and 2 failed frozen DE cycles
Last fresh hail mary DE cycle starting Feb 2013
PAIF/SAIF always welcome
Ditto this.
This. Heck-- Taiwan is close to Korea and their health care system is AMAZING! It's one of the best in the world, and it's practically free. Even if you aren't a citizen.
I am so sorry. MH toys with the idea of re-enlisting, but I have told him that he can't until we have a kid or two. At this rate, he'll be too old to retire from the Army let alone get back into it! Hang in there!
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Im sorry about your husbands orders and yes I feel like I'm running out if time or already have - fx that everything works out for you and your husband.
Me 38 MH 41 - TTC since June 2010 - dx with Severe MFI. Straight to IVF with ICSI. IVF #1 - ER 06/13/12 - 9 Eggs Retrieved - 4 ICSI'd - only 2 fert. 06/15/12 - 2DT - 3 cell & 6 cell with fragmentation. Beta 06/29/12 - IVF #1 = BFN. 07/20/12 - WTF Appt -Told by our RE to quit IVF. Second Opinion from RE is good. IVF#2 - November 2012. Estradiol Pills Started 11/6. Stims start 11/16. ER 11/26 - 7 eggs retrieved - all mature. 4 fertilized with ICSI. ET 11/29 Transferred 3 embryos. Beta is 12/10. 1st Beta 81 2nd Beta 160 and 3rd beta 360!!! First U/S 12/21/12 - We saw one beautiful gest. sac. 2nd U/S is 01/04/2013 - H/B 183 02/05/13 - NT Scan - everything looks good and IT'S A BOY! Aiden was born 08/20/2013.
IVF #2 is in progress. ER was 05/12/14 - 11 eggs retrieved, 8 fertilized with ICSI. ET was 05/15/14 - we transferred 3 embryos as we did on the cycle my son was conceived. We were able to freeze 3 embryos. Beta is scheduled for 05/26/14. 1st beta - 111. 2nd beta - 159 didn't double
3rd beta Friday 5/30) - not a lot of hope left. Beta # 3 is 247 - probably ectopic. Beta # 4 is 813 - possibly vanishing multiple sydrome? 06/05/14 - 5w4days - first U/S - we see a gestational sac and yolk - still have hope! 06/17/14 - 7w1day - U/S and saw and heard the heartbeat - Finally! 06/27/14 - 8w4days - Baby and heartbeat look and sound great 
EDD 02/01/14 and It's a boy!
"Everything will be okay in the end. If it's not okay, it's not the end."
ME:46 MH:44 DE IVF 2014
Met with RE 4/11. 2 IUI's BFN. DE best option. Switched clinics to do "shared" program. Had to retake all tests and a mamm that put me behind and then on a DE waiting list for 12 months. Picked a donor!! (10/13/13) Got matched. Estimated transfer in December. After 2.5 years of patiently waiting I will finally cycle....can hardly believe it. DE cycle got cancelled. One of her tests came back positive. Waiting for another donor. Donor picked!! (1/18/14)
DE IVF #1 (4/26) BFN DE FET #1 (6/4) BFP! Beta 1=339 Beta 2=852 Beta 3=9957 EDD 2/22/15!!
I can't image how hard this will be for you. I have complete respect for you (and your husband) because of the sacrifices you both have to make due to decisions that are made which are beyond either of your control. It has to be worse becaus of how they effect your TTC.
If finances are in your favour freeze his boys and try the IUI. Better yet, if you can time it, meet up with him and BD like crazy. I think in the end the cost will likely be the same for you. Or take advantage of the cheaper foreign IF treatments.
Do what you can within your means, because you don't want to be 38 and find you are having difficulties and wondering if you had tried at 36 if it would have been easier.
Just my thoughts.
Hope your DH is in deployed to Korea rather than Kuwait. Either way I hope he stays safe.
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Breast Cancer diagnosis 12/01/2010 - Survivor and Cancer free as of 03/22/2011
BFP#1 04/12/2011 - fetal demise - MC 05/28/2011
BFP#2 10/14/2011 - fetal demise - MC 12/13/2011
BFP#3 05/30/2012 - fetal demise - MC 07/23/2012
IVF#1 02/14/2013 - 2 Beautiful Blasts transferred
BFP#4 02/25/2013 - BFP - MC and ectopic 03/06/2013
IFV#2 07/02/2013 -BFP#5 - 07/07/2013
1st Beta 07/11/2013 - 483 (9dp5dt) - 2nd Beta 07/13/2013 1006 (11dp5dt)
1st U/S 07/31/2013 - TWINS! "The Minions"
IVF#3 BFP#6 09/01/2015 6dp5dt
1st Beta 09/05/2015 - 105 - 2nd Beta 09/08/2015 335
1st U/S 09/22/2015 - .......
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It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
I am so sorry for the relocation & being separated from your DH! I am currently temporarily separated from my DH due to relocation & not being able to sell our house yet. My RE is totally willing to freeze his sperm for us to start IUIs again in September. I was worried he might not consider it but he did not blink an eye when I asked about it! I think it is very common. It is unfortunately expensive if insurance does not cover it as at least my RE requires a full bloodwork panel to check for STDs, HIV etc. And we are being asked to sign a contract to document what would happen to the sperm if we got divorced, etc. Hope you are able to work it out to freeze his sperm so you can continue to TTC!
MauidAims can i have your email add or do you have facebook ???
ill PM you
what is PM , sorry im still kinda new