Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
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I'm so sorry you're going through this
Its just not fair. My exh of 12yrs ended up cheating on me and it was abusive and the only reason I stayed away was because authorities threatened to take my kids if I stayed. It was a godsend in the end..2 yrs later I met what I thought was the man I'd been looking for. I got pregnant fast and he even put in an offer on a bigger house for all of us (I have 3 kids from my exh, oldest lives with him and I have our 2 youngest) but when I was around 20weeks he started acting funny and low n behold he was cheating 
Aren't there ANY good men left in the world? UGH This new babys father wants nothing to do with us and he even has his new girlfriend of a couple months pregnant now too. Its the hurt of the LIES he fed me knowing what I went through, I don't even miss him but I wanted that family life again. I'm happier now tbh and so excited to have this baby, she will be my 4th and last.
I think you will be okay hun, leaving is never easy. I know it hurts like hell but you working with him will make you stronger as a person. You will learn to deal with emotions, not that you are supposed to hide them away but you will be able to look him in the face and just KNOW you are better than him and you deserve better than him. These men can walk around spreading the seed and then don't want to own up, makes me sick. Do nice things for yourself, go get a mani/pedi or buy a new item of makeup..get a nice haircut after baby comes. You deserve to treat yourself
Things will be hard but you will just get through them and make it out just fine xo
I'm so sorry you are going through this. I basically went through the same thing when my son was 1.5. My ex left me and I found out a few days later that he was seeing his coworker. He lives with her now a year later.
All I can say is it gets easier and life goes on. It will be hard at first but you will get through it and be just fine. You don't need him.
It will be hard but you need to get a lawyer to protect your rights. You need to file for primary custody with him getting visitation. The good news is when your child is under three you have the upper hand because the child needs to bond with one primary caregiver which will be you. You don't even need to give your ex overnights until your child is three or older. Especially if you breastfeed your child cannot be away from you for overnights. I'm not sure what your situation is financially but you will need to file for child support and possibly alimony depending on your circumstances.
You will need your family during this first at least few months. I hope you have parents or other close family that can help you deal with all of this. It was hard enough when my son was 1.5. I can only imagine how hard if it was a newborn.
A good book to get is called Surviving the Loss of Love. It is a great little guide book with poems and simple advice that helps you go through the steps of the healing process. I highly recommend it.
I would try to get the custody and divorce papers filled out with a lawyer and have them ready to go when the baby is born. That way you don't have to deal with all of that plus taking care of a newborn.
Been there, done that. My XH was engaged to the homewrecker a couple of months after the baby was born. It is hard, no doubt. You should consider going to counseling. At some point hopefully you will be able to look in the mirror and say, "I deserve better."
I'm sorry to say this, but you need to file for divorce. Let this loser go, and focus on you and the baby. Your DD needs you to model a healthy realtionship for her, and you sure as hell won't get that by trying to work things out with this cheater.
I feel your pain. I am going through the SAME thing. My ex boyfriend of 5 years got another women pregnant and did not tell me about it untill TWO days after his son was born w/ her. While i stuck around to be there for him things were tough and then i got pregnant in Jan. Now i am 31 weeks and just found out that he married the women he cheated on me and wants full custody of my child. believe me there other women who are going through much worse but at the end of the day all you have to think about is your little one. That is the only person that you should be worried about. Let him take his lost and you be happy with your baby. i know its much easier said then done, but i feel that everything that happends is because God knows what he is doing. We may not see it now but in the long run we will be the better out come!
praying for you!