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getting along for the sake of your child

SusanH.SusanH. member
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My sister and her ex did a wonderful job at their daughters wedding this past weekend.

They basically have zero contact ( their 2 daughters are grown) but were together for everything at the wedding. They sat together at the ceremony after he walked their daughter down the aisle. They were introduced together ..not as Mrs. & Mrs. but as Jane Doe & John Doe.  He even stayed till the bitter end with her ( DH and I were there too) to be sure everythiNg was taken care of.

I only hope that most parents can get past their problems with each other and just focus on important days in their childrens lives...no matter what age the kids. IT MATTERS!!!

 

 

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  • kllrbnnykllrbnny
    I had visions of days like that. Unfortunately, it takes two. No matter how hard you try you can't make the other person behave. Kudos to parents that are able to pull it off though. Especially for such an important day.
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  • NewMoM2Be10NewMoM2Be10 member
    agree but it does take 2...! CONGRATS
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  • cole2144cole2144 member
    My husband and I wish for this. I had this with my parents, mom, dad and step-mom are great friends.
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  • Littlejen22Littlejen22 member
    I made sure to get picks with DHs entire family even though his parents are divorced. They get along ok but make snide comments, it is still nice for DH to have a pic since his parents And us live on three separate continents. And the kids don't need to know their grandparents do not like each other.
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  • Moschic31Moschic31

    imagekllrbnny:
    I had visions of days like that. Unfortunately, it takes two. No matter how hard you try you can't make the other person behave. Kudos to parents that are able to pull it off though. Especially for such an important day.

     So true! 

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  • blush64blush64 member
    imageSusanH.:

    My sister and her ex did a wonderful job at their daughters wedding this past weekend.

    They basically have zero contact ( their 2 daughters are grown) but were together for everything at the wedding. They sat together at the ceremony after he walked their daughter down the aisle. They were introduced together ..not as Mrs. & Mrs. but as Jane Doe & John Doe.  He even stayed till the bitter end with her ( DH and I were there too) to be sure everythiNg was taken care of.

    I only hope that most parents can get past their problems with each other and just focus on important days in their childrens lives...no matter what age the kids. IT MATTERS!!!

    I do think parents should make an effort but I also think it takes two as PP have said. In addition I think the details of what happened are important when considering what "making and effort" means. I will not ever be dancing with my ex and I will not be sharing a table with him at any event. He is an abusive man who even now will make abusive comments when we speak. (which is very rare) I do not ever put him down and the kids have never heard anything negative about him from anyone in my famly.

    When children are adults I do think they need to understand that expecting your parents to be polite and civil is fair but expecting them to share a dance or something similar is not always ok.

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  • twister22twister22 member
    It definitely takes two. At this point, I would think BD and I could make it work for big events for DS.
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