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Looking for good resources for private adoption

lindsayandleviadoptlindsayandleviadopt
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Hi there! We are wanting to adopt privately, we have our home study and a fabulous social worker. As well as our adoption attorney. However we are in a small town with little contacts to find a bm. Does anyone have any ideas. The Internet is pretty scary and there are a lot of scams out there, it gets discouraging!

Our website is up and running:

www.lindsayandleviadopt.com


Thank you for any advise! We know our perfect match is out there, we are just anxious to find them:
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Re: Looking for good resources for private adoption

  • silliestbunnysilliestbunny member

    Where do you live?  If you can use a facilitator, I'd consider doing so to expose you to as many situations as possible. 
    Network, get on mailing lists, let friends and family know.... and be patient.  It takes time.

    This site is really a supportive site for people of the triad.  It's not a place you'll have much opportunity to network but listen for stories of how others connected.


    FWIW-  I have an odd story.. not enough time to share but I will say through a strange twist of circumstances, a letter that was sent to an OB's office ended up in the hands of a birht family.  So taking time to send letters to as many law offices, social workers, OBs, etc is one tactic.  It sort of worked for us :)

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  • raecheleblue1raecheleblue1 member
    Just sent you a PM

    TTC since March 2010, BFP #1 11.09.10, ectopic, m/c 12.14.10 (10w)
    Clomid + TI=BFN, IUIs 1-6= BFN
    Application for domestic adoption submitted 4/18/12, matched 8/12/12, DD born 10/31/12


     

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  • lindsayandleviadoptlindsayandleviadopt
    I tried to look at your message but it reads error?
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  • raecheleblue1raecheleblue1 member
    Ok, I'll try again when I get home. I see the bump switched to the mobile format from my phone, so I'll try my computer when I get home.

    TTC since March 2010, BFP #1 11.09.10, ectopic, m/c 12.14.10 (10w)
    Clomid + TI=BFN, IUIs 1-6= BFN
    Application for domestic adoption submitted 4/18/12, matched 8/12/12, DD born 10/31/12


     

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  • IRRIRR member
    We did online advertising, but ultimately, our BM contacted our lawyer because a friend of hers had used her.  Does your lawyer offer an type of group advertising in newspapers?  For some reason that seems to still work but is expensive so that is why "group ads" help differ the costs.  Also try to use SEO on your website so you will hopefully be showing up in search.  GL.
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    Failed Matches - December 2012, May 2013, December 2013
    Moved on to  gestational surrogacy with a family friend who is our angel and due 7/23/15


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  • raecheleblue1raecheleblue1 member
    Ok, you should have another PM now.  Hopefully!  Embarrassed

    TTC since March 2010, BFP #1 11.09.10, ectopic, m/c 12.14.10 (10w)
    Clomid + TI=BFN, IUIs 1-6= BFN
    Application for domestic adoption submitted 4/18/12, matched 8/12/12, DD born 10/31/12


     

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