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Parenting after 35
Did anyone forget to take pictures?
Up until a few years ago I was considered thin. The pregnancy of my son added weight that of course made me self conscious but he was our first and things were better organized and I was more relaxed once I got my amnio results. At the end ( a week or so before I was due) I asked DH to take a picture of me with a top on and then one with top pulled back showing bare belly - this was 2.5 years ago.
With DD I had a lot going on with DS. I was not working but the time I did have I was on you tube looking at people interacting with their new baby girls and, prepping the nursery,dealing with two family arguments that I forgot to take those same shots. The only two shots I have are with me standing next to DS at the zoo - you cold tell I have a stomach but it was a tee with a light cotton jacket and at Mother's Day wearing a kind of loose long tank dress with DS and my mother - both at around 7 -71/2 months. We are almost positive this will be our last - we had to go through alot with IVF to get this baby and I'm 41. I have been upset and not enjoying things as much as I should. I simply just forgot to ask DH to take those pictures. Anyone in similar situation? I feel if I took those pictures I would have closure and my last memory of being pregnant as to what I looked like - to document the experience. I always wanted only two and have been blessed with one of each but just mad /sad at myself for not documenting it better:( It is really irrational to get upset over a picture or two I forgot to take?
Note my mother and father "by accident" threw out all the baby
pictures of my sister and I because they were tossed in a box that was
not labelled. I'm not dwelling on it too much because it was not my
fault ... this one with the missing preggo picture was.
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Re: Did anyone forget to take pictures?
I am sorry but I understand being upset about not having the pictures you want but you seem over the top upset. I have no idea how old your DD is but wondering, if she is still really young if you are dealing with more issues (depression, PPD, etc). You have your 2 healthy kids and while that will never replace not having pics of you pregnant, it is time to move on.
Not the same thing but at my wedding, our photographer somehow missed our 1st kiss during the ceremony so I have no pics of it. I might have a bad pic that friend took but nothing great and nothing in my wedding album. Yes - I was sad that I don't have that special moment captured on film but looking at the big pic - who cares. It is a special moment that lives on in my memory but so not important in all the moments of life that I do have on film. And this is coming from a huge picture junky who takes way to many pictures of has to capture everything (OK, not everything but you get the point).
Feel sad for not having the pics but then move on and enjoy your kids.
I have hardly any pictures of me pregnant with DD and I made it a point when I was PG with DS when the doc told me I was going in for an induction to go out and stand on the front steps and take some (had to have DD do it LOL)..
I'm super self-conscious about how I look so I have so few pictures of me with both when they were babies - it's as though I wrote myself out of the memories... When I did take a picture of me with DS I literally cried at how aweful I look...
I didn't forget - I just didn't have the chance and he is our only, no other chances, so that stinks but it is what it is.
My mom had twins three years after me and she didn't get a ton of pictures - people didn't do weekly bump shots or monthly sticker shoots back then (70's)...not like they do today.
I'm sorry your photos were thrown out.
"I have been upset and not enjoying things as much as I should."
I'm sorry - I couldn't let that be my only response. I read what you wrote a few times and honestly, I find it concerning. This statement in particular ^^^
If you just went through IVF and got your two, FT healthy babes I don't think it's natural to be so obsessed with not getting a few snapshots of your second at 7+ months. I think it's unfortunate - but I don't think it should be altering your mood.
You asked for opinions and that is mine. I hope you can find someone to talk to and work past this.
It is what it represents DH was off doing his own thing two weeks before I was scheduled to go in for a C- section. I had so much dumped on my plate ... it is what it represents. If I had more time I would have remembered ... but again he does what he wants ... gets it and I am short changed of what I want. Oh and another thing, when I offered him to touch my belly when first preggo with DS he did. With this one "Oh, I'm afraid I will hurt it." He did not want to have sex either during any of the pregnancies .... gee made me feel real good about myself huh? This was by no means a happy time in my life and that is why I am upset I have not happy pictures of me being pregnant towards the end of the pregnancy. He did not care and dumped everything on my plate.
I also hear your opinion but I will never know the truth ... try going through IVF and then having your husband not have sex with you, not touch your belly with the life fluttering inside that you both had hoped for and then have him use his vacation to do what he wanted to do two weeks before his wife is scheduled for a c- section.
What stinks, the face that you did not get the chance to take more pictures or that your son will be an only son. You want/ ed more children?
Why did you bother having pictures taken with the second baby? What really is the reason? I mean so it is said that women years ago did not do it, why do it now?
It was the thought of making a conscious effort of trying not to write myself out of my kids' memories.. I had my FIL pass just before DS was born so it sort of struck that cord (no pictures of him with the kids until they were much older)... The camera technology is also far better now than it was when I had DD... When DD was born it was still the era of film, now with digital it doesn't take as much work. Any pictures I do have when I was PG with DD turned out pretty dark..