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Could use some re-assurance **Updated**

ChevyFam717ChevyFam717
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... I know I am all worried over nothing but the thought of having a m/c has scared the crap out of me since finding out I was pregnant...

History: Thought I was 8.5 weeks, went to the Dr for u/s to find I was only 6 weeks, but they did see the heartbeat which is re-assuring. Got an at home doppler and found the hb at 9 weeks, but now at 10 weeks I cannot seem to locate it for the life of me (I am overweight so it might just be hard to find with the bit of chubbiness in my belly)...

I have an appointment this afternoon but I am just terrified of a MMC - I haven't had much cramping (just minor, which is supposed to be normal) and no bleeding since 5 weeks (after intimacy) and the u/s was after that...

I still have pregnancy symptoms, nausea - tired - etc. but for some reason I think I am trying to convince myself that I had a mmc just because if it does turn out to be the case then I will be "emotionally prepared" if there is such a thing for that situation...

I am probably freaking out over nothing, but for some reason I am just in that "this is too good to be true" phase and I am just waiting for something to go wrong... Stupid irrational fears that have me worrying so much... Only 4 hours until my appointment - might be the longest 4 hours of my life...

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Re: Could use some re-assurance **Updated**

  • CloudBeeCloudBee member
    Deep breaths.  Stop using the doppler until you are much, much further along.  I hope your appointment goes well.
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  • benmel31benmel31 member

    Try to relax.  The stress is not good for you or your baby.  Try to focus on being happy that you are currently pregnant.  

    I agree with CloudBee, stop using the doppler for now.  If you can't, watch some youtube videos for suggestions on how to use it successfully.

    Good luck today! 


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  • ChevyFam717ChevyFam717
    I've tried the doppler 3 times (every couple of days) since last week... I am trying not to obsess over it... It just contributes a bit to my nervousness I suppose...
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  • laurenmichael725laurenmichael725 member
    I am so sorry you're going through this- I am in nearly the same situation as you so I understand your anxiety!  I wouldn't worry about the Doppler; I think this early on it isn't as reliable.  I went for my 1st u/s last Thursday.  I was supposed to be 7w3d, but baby measured only 6w or 6w1d.  They found a heartbeat with mine as well.  My doctor did not seem worried at all.  In fact, I asked if this was at all a bad sign and she said she had no doubts things would turn out OK.  I've been driving myself crazy ever since because I just don't see how these dates work out.  I've done lots of research about this, though I'm surprised about the lack of quality information that I can find.  Anyway, a baby measuring small could mean you just ovulated later than "normal."  Do you have long cycles?  If so, I wouldn't worry!  For me, this doesn't work out b/c I have shorter cycles.  Also from what I read sometimes a baby measuring small can "catch up" in the following weeks (this is what I'm praying for!).  Keep yourself busy for the next few hours- clean the house, take a walk, etc.  I will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers!  Please update us after your appt!!


     
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    imageChevyFam717:
    I've tried the doppler 3 times (every couple of days) since last week... I am trying not to obsess over it... It just contributes a bit to my nervousness I suppose...

    A friend told me yesterday that her doctor would not use the dopper at her 12 week appointment because he had made too many patients nervous when he couldn't find heartbeats.  He won't use the doppler on patients until they are 16 weeks now.

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    dupe.

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  • Mrs MoJoRisinMrs MoJoRisin member
    I'm 10 weeks and my doctor couldn't even find it wih her Doppler this week! Step away from the Doppler!! You are going to scare yourself over and over!
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  • BarefootContessBarefootContess member

    When you found the heartbeat I assume that was at 9 weeks given the adjustment, since it is nearly impossible to hear it with a doppler before nine weeks.  The rate of miscarriage after hearing the heartbeat at nine weeks is 5 percent.  

    I also have a home Doppler and have found the heartbeat pretty much every day since 9 weeks.  Yesterday I went to the OB and he could not find it at just about 12 weeks.  I was not worried though because I knew the risk of a miscarriage is pretty low at this point.  I ended up going for an US and the little one was moving all over the place.  Trying to get the heartbeat is like hitting a moving target blind, try not to stress.   

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  • ChevyFam717ChevyFam717
    imageCloudBee:

    imageChevyFam717:
    I've tried the doppler 3 times (every couple of days) since last week... I am trying not to obsess over it... It just contributes a bit to my nervousness I suppose...

    A friend told me yesterday that her doctor would not use the dopper at her 12 week appointment because he had made too many patients nervous when he couldn't find heartbeats.  He won't use the doppler on patients until they are 16 weeks now.

    My co-worker is 1 day behind me and she went to an appointment yesterday (same dr. office) and they found the HB with the Doppler... I am just wondering if they dont find it if they will do an u/s to see the baby again - since the first one was so early and the next one is so far away... I'd rather just pay for the ultrasound to know everything is OK...

    PLUS - we are planning on announcing this weekend at our BBQ - I don't want to get everyone all excited for no reason...

    You gals rock - thanks so much for your time and thoughts and prayers... I really appreciate it.

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    Good luck at your appointment today!  Please keep us updated.

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  • traneshaphtraneshaph member
    Aww sweetie, it'll be fine. I'm 10 weeks and I went through that phase from week 5-7. This is our 1st baby. I found a good guy, we're happy, neither of us have kids (I'm 29 and he's 31) and we've been together almost 2 years. We both had an inkling that maybe we can't have kids. But BAM! Then it happened. I'm happy & we're both at really good places in our lives. I couldn't have chosen a better husband or father. So then I began thinking, "This is too good to be true!" Something has got to go wrong. Then came the bleeding after intimacy (mine was very bad). I was so afraid. I was thinking "Darn. Here's comes the MMC. But then my doc and "mother" friends told me it was normal. I still get a little freaked out after intimacy because I bleed every time. But by week 10 it has set in that this is real! Life is good! I stopped stressing (which increases chances of MMC) and just started enjoying my pregnancy. It wasn't easy though. What worked for me was praying and talking about my fears with family. I hope you have a great appt. Don't feel crazy or neurotic though. Those fears are normal. Just don't overdo it!
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  • LisaM06LisaM06 member
    So sorry you feel this way. I hope you have a great appointment!
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  • alber2amalber2am member
    I did the same thing with my first pregnancy, at 12 weeks tried to find the hb and couldn't find it, I was freaking out, went to the doctor a few days later and everything was fine, I have a healthy baby boy.  Most likely everything is ok.  Put the doppler away for now.
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  • theLeenietheLeenie
    On Monday my sonoline b came in the mail. I found the heartbeat right away that afternoon and night. Yesterday? Not so much... I searched for probably an hour total across the whole day and couldn't find it. I had my 2nd appointment last night also and the doctor couldn't find it using a Doppler so we had to do a quick ultrasound to make sure everything was okay. She also could not believe that I found it the night before (I ended up playing the sound clip for her) because most people can't locate it until it comes out of the pelvis and into the abdomen. She said that the baby also changes positions often which is why it can be inconsistent. Hope this helps!
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  • ChevyFam717ChevyFam717

    imagetheLeenie:
    On Monday my sonoline b came in the mail. I found the heartbeat right away that afternoon and night. Yesterday? Not so much... I searched for probably an hour total across the whole day and couldn't find it. I had my 2nd appointment last night also and the doctor couldn't find it using a Doppler so we had to do a quick ultrasound to make sure everything was okay. She also could not believe that I found it the night before (I ended up playing the sound clip for her) because most people can't locate it until it comes out of the pelvis and into the abdomen. She said that the baby also changes positions often which is why it can be inconsistent. Hope this helps!

    Thanks so much! I hope if the Dr. can't find it we will do an u/s... I just want to make sure baby is OK...

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    Update:

    Went to the Dr. and had a suprise ultrasound!!! woo hoo!!! Got to see the little tad-pole (including it's tail haha) and man that baby can swim, moving its arms and legs all over the place! Also got to see the heartbeat flickering on the screen...so... as usually... I am just crazy... Def putting the doppler away for a couple of weeks - I like basking in the post-I-saw-my-baby-on-a-tiny-tv-screen-glow...

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    So glad your appointment went well and you got to see your LO!

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    Great news! So glad that you saw your LO! :)
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    Fantastic!  Glad everything is ok!


     
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