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Job Interview (vent)

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My whole adult life I wanted to spend the first year (or as much of it as I could, home with my babies). I lost my job in March, found out I was pregnant in May and saw this is as my chance. My husband and I both said it just happened to be perfect timing and we could work through this. So the plan was, to collect unemployment as long as Michigan will pay me, especially considering now... finding a job for a woman pregnant with twins would be pretty unachievable anyway.  Well, a job I interviewed for in April and didn't get (which would have been a GREAT job for me), has called me back for an interview for a second opening in the same position. (The woman told me another one was going to open up because a woman was retiring, and that I may get called back at a later date). When she called Thursday to schedule the interview, I didn't know what to do. Do I tell her off the bat? Tell her in the interview? Tell her if I'm offered the position? I didn't know what to do. So, I called her this morning (my interview is tomorrow morning) and told her the situation and explained I would understand if she would rather not be put into that position, that I didn't want to waste her time, but just wanted to be honest and up front with her. She called me back and Congratulated me, and explained if after our interview she felt I was the perfect fit for the position, we would work around my pregnancy. So, that was nice of her but now... I'm more afraid of GETTING the job, than NOT getting the job. I mean, if it is offered to me, I cannot refuse it. It's a government job and I would have great benefits, hours, and probably wage. But I'm kinda bummed that my dream to be home the first year may be over before it even begins. I know unemployment isn't a for-sure thing and can end at any time but it was my maternity leave pay, etc. I've never been unemployed and it's very depressing being home with nothing to do, and no money to do anything with but it was good for me and my stress level during such a stressful time.

I know I'm obsessing and worrying a bit soon and maybe I won't get it, but it's just in the back of my mind right now.

That, and the fact I have no dress pants to fit right now! :P So leggings it is.

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  • leviandlandensmomleviandlandensmom
    I'd go for it. Government jobs are hard as hell to come by and you don't absolutely have to stay after the babies get there but it would allow you some extra income to maybe pay some stuff off so it is not so much of a burden for you to be home after they come. Or not, do whatever you feel is best for you family. I've learned not to ask for advice because a lot of people see things as being very black and white.
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  • AmyJoy728AmyJoy728 member
    I thought you can lose unemployment if you decline a job. If this is your dream job, I say go for it, as you may not get this opportunity again.
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  • gablegurlgablegurl member
    I wouldn't decline the job, I'd be a fool to! I just hadn't planned on this. :)
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  • Temp6313048411121614Temp6313048411121614 member
    Not sure if you're a Christian, but if so I'd pray about it.  DH was applying for a new job that we really wanted him to have, we prayed that if it was God's will that he'd be offered the job, he got pretty far in the process and was finally told that he wouldn't be offered the job a few days after that prayer.  GL with your decision.
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  • LadyNikonLadyNikon member

    Sorry to sound like a debbie downer. 

    Just because you are pregnant doesn't mean you won't get a job.  Some companies are actually willing to work with a candidate that is honest and is a good fit for a position.  So I wouldn't have apologized for being pregnant.  

    Unemployment is not a guaranteed thing as you said.  If you aren't looking for a job then you really shouldn't be on unemployment.  It is meant for people who are looking for a job and need assistance in paying their bills.  Have you and DH figured out a budget that would accommodate you and the twins while being at home?  If so, then go for your dreams.  If not, I would take the job and just deal with the fact that staying home isn't going to happen.  

    I had a similar dream where I wanted to stay at home with our baby the first year she was born.  Sadly it didn't work out and the sting of reality walked in.  Neither one of us are in the financial position we had hoped to be in.   

    I hope you get what you want.   

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  • neckrcx2neckrcx2
    i would take the job if it were offered.. Unemployment is meant for people who "cant" find a job, not for people who dont "want" to find a job.
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  • bearfootzbearfootz member

    I get what you are saying as I was in the same position.  I never wanted anyone to think I was taking advantage of the unemployment so was sure to apply for plenty of jobs - but the truth was I secretly hoped that I could be home with the kids for a while.  Everytime I had an interview I fretted about it, but I figured I needed to give it my best shot because it would never make me look good if I blew it on purpose.  So I'd waddle into interviews pregnant with the twins. The only interview I cancelled was because I went into labor. 

    But I was more selective and realistic.  Had it not been for the twins I might have taken a position with a longer drive or less pay.  But they were now deciding factors.  When we planned our familty I was working close to home and making enough money to cover daycare.  I felt that I needed to hold out for something similar, and thankfully the unemployment was there to fall back on.  And I was constantly reminded that unemployment is not welfare.   

     Anyways, give it your best and things will work out.  When I finally found a job that fit our family I still was dissappointed to go back and be away from the kids - but shortly after my husband admitted how miserable he was at his job and was waiting to leave until I had something with decent insurance.   Everything happens for a reason.

     

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  • gablegurlgablegurl member

    imageneckrcx2:
    i would take the job if it were offered.. Unemployment is meant for people who "cant" find a job, not for people who dont "want" to find a job.

     

    Ahem... I HAVE been looking for a job, and so far I "CAN'T" find a job, not that I don't "WANT" to (I NEED to). I live in Michigan that has one of the WORST economies of this country. I never said I was not going to take the job. As a matter of fact I said I could NOT turn it down if it was offered to me.

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  • workerbee82workerbee82 member
    imageLadynikon:

    Sorry to sound like a debbie downer. 

    Just because you are pregnant doesn't mean you won't get a job.  Some companies are actually willing to work with a candidate that is honest and is a good fit for a position.  So I wouldn't have apologized for being pregnant.  

    Unemployment is not a guaranteed thing as you said.  If you aren't looking for a job then you really shouldn't be on unemployment.  It is meant for people who are looking for a job and need assistance in paying their bills.  Have you and DH figured out a budget that would accommodate you and the twins while being at home?  If so, then go for your dreams.  If not, I would take the job and just deal with the fact that staying home isn't going to happen.  

    I had a similar dream where I wanted to stay at home with our baby the first year she was born.  Sadly it didn't work out and the sting of reality walked in.  Neither one of us are in the financial position we had hoped to be in.   

    I hope you get what you want.   

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  • MelleTXMelleTX member

    imagegablegurl:
    I wouldn't decline the job, I'd be a fool to! I just hadn't planned on this. :)

    Sometimes these things happen for a reason. You never know what the future holds. Good luck with your interview.  

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