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Anne Mommy
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Shower for baby #2?
Anne Mommy
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DH asked me if anyone was planning on throwing a shower for #2. I said I didn't think so (especially since no one jumped at the chance for #1). He thinks we should have a shower. I think it is rude to ask for one and you cannot plan your own. Is it common to have a shower for #2 (or 3 or 4)? DS won't even be 2 yet so we have a lot of stuff from him. Unless it's a girl, I don't think we will need much of anything.
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Re: Shower for baby #2?
The peaches on this board will say that having a shower for baby #2 is a sin and actually throwing the shower yourself is punishable by death....
Did you ask your husband why he wanted another shower?
I believe that if the second baby is a different sex then totally go for it, but if the baby is of the same sex then it's not really fair to have another shower.
People are going to bring gifts regardless for the new baby!
What does the gentialia of the baby have to do with it? It's not "fair?"
And if no one has offered, then I guess you don't get one.
Who the hell are you??
I think there are a lot of different ways to celebrate the new baby without labeling it a baby shower or sprinkle.
After all the fertility issues I feel like my baby is a miracle so any chance I get to celebrate him I will.
Our obgyn records our sonograms on a DVD and I have had family pot lucks just to show everyone the new sonogram images as a way to celebrate.
No gifts, just family and friends to hang out and laugh about the craziness of pregnancy and catch up.
It doesn't matter if it's 1st, 2nd or 45th...if no one offers, you don't throw it yourself.
Now, most people with tact and humility will turn down a shower for subsequent children as it is most widely believed that a shower is for a first time mom at which, this point, you are not.
If you want to celebrate the baby, wait til the baby gets here. If you want to solicit gifts, hold a charity fundraiser.
AND once again, I end with the general "What amazes me is that if no one has offered to host or co-host a shower for you, who in the HELL are you going to invite to this event?"
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
If I were on my computer, I'd post a pic from "A League of their Own" and ask which one you were because I don't remember seeing you around here.
I didn't realize someone had to remember me for me to be welcome on a public forum. Not that I care.
If you care so little about what we have to say, then why are you here?
I meant I don't care what a few individuals have to say. I can still come and see what others have to say. Or at least I'm pretty sure I can. That is how a public board works right?
Baby shower for #2?
I have no problem with it if many years have passed between babies. Two years=/= many years.
Throwing a shower for yourself? I have to roll my eyes at this.
Why don't you register and use the completion coupon to buy the items you need?
If you want to have a party, have one without mention of the baby. Or, if you want the baby to be the focus, wait until after the baby is born and have a 'meet the baby' party.
I am going to assume that showers for baby#2 are not common in your circle. What made your husband ask about it?
Yes, it is.
pearlymerly7 I didnt mean peaches in the traditional sense and Im sure you are not one of them...
Did you ever hear the expression "If you throw a rock at a pack of dogs the hit dogs howl the loudest"? Hit dogs = the peaches aka the nasty hateful bitches on this post/board who worship and swear by Emily Post yet have none of her tackfulness. As I said - disagree with anything they hold holy and these internet gangsta come for you with a vengence.
Welcome to the baby shower board ;-)
I saw a really cute invite idea for a gender reveal party that phrased "no gifts please" in a clever little rhyme. So if you wanted to celebrate the coming baby then you could do one of those.
I like the ideas of sprinkles when they aren't gift grabby, a friend had one for her second baby who was only about 18 months apart from the first... but it was much smaller and she only wanted to take some time away and hang with us ladies before her already crazy household got even nuttier.
Although I don't generally approve of telling a guest what to bring, she very clearly said no gifts and had an invite that said and I quote because I'm looking at it right now "One small request that won't be too hard, please bring a book instead of a card. Whether Cat in the Hat or Winnie the Pooh, you can sign the book with a note from you. Baby _____ will become very smart indeed, if we star early he will soon learn to read"... I thought that was adorable! So did the handful of guests and they read all the books at the sprinkle and it was so much fun reminiscing over all the books that we all read is a child!
Oh and I forgot to include that throwing a shower yourself is tacky, although I don't think a gender reveal counts as a shower and so doesn't invoke said tackiness... you could also use the no gift but book instead of card thing for a gender reveal. And like the other ladies said... what makes your husband want one?
It completely depends on your circles of friends and family if it is common or not to have a shower for baby #2. In my circles it's completely normal to have a shower for every baby, regardless of age/sex/how many other kids the parents have. I have been to at least 4 showers in the last year for babies #2, where the first child is around 3 years old. Also, the parents register with every pregnancy. It's not "are you registered?" but rather "where are you registered?" My Mom couldn't find my registry and was giving me a hard time about the fact that I hadn't registered, she just hadn't looked hard enough on Amazon, ha.
My friends just threw one for me last week, and I have 2 more for other friends that are also having babies #2 coming up this fall.
In my opinion, it should be different hostesses, and the second or third showers should be smaller and more low key. So if you have 40 people at your first baby shower, then have 20 at the second one, and 12-15 at the third one, etc. Also, I personally spend less money on gifts for the 2nd or 3rd baby...I was actually really surprised at my shower last weekend that almost everyone there spent around $40-$50 per person, I was expecting gifts more in the $20 ish range based on the previous second showers I've attended.
Thanks, I think. I actually know how it works. I spent a lot of time on TB after my m/c last year. I just don't care to take up that much space quoting and usually don't feel the need to do so since I directed at her. I guess if it's a big deal, I can.
I'm going to agree witht this. Baby showers for #2 are not frowned upon in the area where I grew up but they did tend to be a little more low-key than the first ones.
The day the Bump died - Jasper is wise
I'm still trying to figure out the sex factor in second baby showers.
1. Shower is thrown during the first pregnancy to welcome the MTB to motherhood.
2. Woman gets knocked up again. Starts kvetching that every baby should be celebrated. Those who agree with her also stick to the "celebrating every baby" mantra.
3. Then woman finds out second baby is a different sex from the first baby. Now she REALLY needs a shower.
So what would've happened if the 2nd was the same sex as the 1st? Because the baby had a penis or vagina, that doesn't warrant a shower? But if it's different from the first, it does? What makes a second shower "more valid" if there is different genitalia involved?
Hahaha...you call us "nasty hateful bitches." But somehow you're better than us. Or were you just being honest? Oh, well that doesn't seem to be a valid excuse either. Hmmm...how's that hypocritical thing workin' for you?
"Some of us who post regularly"?? Who ARE you? I don't even recognize you...must not have said anything of importance.
I find it hilarious that you refer to yourself as a regular poster yet no one who is a regular poster has any clue who you are. Also, 65 posts. Yeah.
Well aren't you all sweetness and tact.
Showers are gift giving events meant to welcome the mom-to-be into motherhood. As such, they are appropriate for first time moms. That being said, if someone offers to throw you a second shower, you can accept, however they are typically meant to be very small and among closest friends and family. If you are simply looking for a way to celebrate the baby, then wait until the baby is actually present. I agree that every baby is special, but a shower is about the mom-to-be. After the baby is born you can have a meet-the-baby party.
Gender and/or need for items is not a reason to solicite gifts.
That is sweet of DH... but usually no shower for #2...
With the following exceptions (also subject to opinion):
If DH is truely concerned, maybe suggest having a sip & see after the baby is born so everyone can meet the new baby and possibly bring a gift if they wish...
So you're not celebrating the baby...just the genitalia?
I am not going to comment on the 2nd shower thing yet again. I think everyone is clear on how the board in general feels about them.
I would like to clarify though... I am NOT a peach. I am not from Georgia. I am actually from Louisiana which makes me a hurricane!
I'm from NJ, what does that make me?
Hey now, what about us Colorado peaches? Some would say we are way better!
Love.