DH at first appt if no ultrasound?

SadieTop · August 2012

Sorry this is kinda a segway from another post...I mentioned that since I will not be having an ultrasound at my first appt on Monday, then I guess DH doesn't need to go? I know he is really excited about going though...hmmm..what do you guys think or what did you do at your first appt. since its only blood work and paperwork?

JennaOs · August 2012

I would say that if he wants to go really bad and he can afford to miss work then he should go!

amyzen · August 2012

Personally, I don't think it is necessary. They gave me blood work and checked me out "down there" at my first appointment. I don't think my husband would feel comfortable sitting through a PAP. I love having my husband at the ultrasounds. I have to warn you though, if your first ultrasound is done at 8-weeks or sooner, you will have the internal type. A "magic wand" that looks like a penis is inserted. My husband felt awkward when he saw that. However, once the baby was on the screen, it was exciting stuff!

mben1119 · August 2012

My husband came to both (my 1 appt was with the nurse, for history and bloodwork, then a week later with the OB for an u/s and exam). I'm glad he came with me for the nurse visit too, because they took a full family history, and I didn't know his cousin was epileptic and things like that. It was also nice to have a midweek lunch date with my husband when we both would normall be working.

LiteraryFoodie · August 2012

My husband came to our first appointment. We got to hear the heart beat and he learned how to feel the size of my uterus. It was really cool.

He's planning on coming to as many visits as he can.

skoogirl · August 2012

We didn't expect to have an ultrasound at our first appointment with our first, but the nurse did a quickie and I'm really glad he was there to see it. I hope she does that again this time around. Mostly, I want him there in case something big happens, good or bad. If nothing happens and it's boring then oh well.

happy_un-bride · August 2012

My DH didn't come to my 7/8 week appointment. Though it would have been fine... Dr. just went over some do's and don'ts, talked about the tests (DH and I had dsicussed previously, so I could decide without him), and she let me ask some questions.

DH is coming to my appointment tomorrow. No u/s, but the dr. will try and hear the heartbeat.

Trish&Pete07 · August 2012

If he wants to go, let him. If he has to work be sure to ask him to write down any questions he might have. My DH didn't go to regular check ups, and missed the 20 wk us with DD2 for work purposes. No biggie. If he ever had a question he asked me and if I didn't know the answer it went on a note pad on the fridge and I asked the dr at my next appointment. Worked well, especially in 3rd tri when my memory was like swiss cheese.

SQuaid · August 2012

It's a pretty boring appoitment but it's the first one, I think if he wants to be there, he should be. It's kind of fun to talk out loud about it together.

magel050485 · August 2012

My husband did not go to any appointments when I was pregnant with DS and won't this time either. He has to take time off in 4 hour incriments so every appointment was half a day he didn't get to spend with us after the baby was born. I just sent him text updates about the appointment if anything exciting happened.

AKWinterBride · August 2012

Nope, unless you can schedule it after work hours - it's not worth him taking time off of work to see you get blood drawn. The doctors office will tell you when you will want to have your hubby along for the exciting things.

Anne Mommy · August 2012

with DS, hubby came to everything. It was ok for him but he was bored a lot. Since he doesn't have much PTO with this job, we are saving it all for when the baby is born. He is going to take off for the ultrasound and other cool stuff like that.

CloudBee · August 2012

If he's excited and wants to go, he should.

naa855 · August 2012

My first appointment it was totally unnecessary for my husband to have been there. Quick pap and pelvic exam, doctor asked a million questions (less about genetic possibilities, more about do you smoke? are you safe at home?). Then again, my husband can't really miss work for my appointments so we bought a home doppler. Regardless, I'm very familiar with his family medical history as well as mine so it wasn't necessary.

MCADDmama · August 2012

If he really wants to go, there's no harm in it. My DH went to every single appointment when I was pregnant with DD, even the boring ones, and he sat in a chair in the corner and asked questions if he had them. I think being there helped him feel more involved.

brighteyedbride · August 2012

Mine came to every appointment with my first two and I imagine he will with this one, too. I made all of the appointments for after work so that neither one of us had to take time off for them. Have fun!

synchrosally · August 2012

It's not really necessary. DH never came to any of my appointments. He only came to my ultrasounds. If he really wants to go, he should go.

Sue&Pasquale · August 2012

my husband never came with me. My husband can not take of work, he works/owns a construction company,so he really cant leave when they are in the middle of doing a road, etc.

So he did not come with me for the first appointment, which is fine, its a pap, blood work, weight, etc. he did not come to all ultrasounds either. he came with me for our first ultrasounds. though.

it can be tough with work and I understand. but I would say the doctors visits when you arent getting an ultrasound are kind of things you can do on your own. especially later when you go every month and week. same thing, pee, weight, check baby heartbeat, dr checks belly.

good luck!

xtina&iz · August 2012

My fiance wants tot go to every appointment no matter what. lol

kmwills · August 2012

Hell, I DID have an u/s with my first appt in my first pregnancy and DH didn't even go. He won't go to this one either. The only appts he went to with my first pregnancy were the NT scan and the anatomy scan (even though we were Team Green).

drewiekc · August 2012

Its not necessary, he won't miss much. My DH came to the first one with my last pregnancy, but did not this time because he had a work conflict that wasnt worth him rescheduling. He will come to the NT scan in a couple weeks and the anatomy scan at 20 weeks, then probably not again until maybe the very end. I'll be having a RCS, so even at the end, there wont be much "news" to discuss.

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