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• amh04

  August 2012

  It's okay to be frustrated - but in all honesty, no one knew what my twins were until I was 12 weeks - your 13 weeks so I'm sure you'll find out here soon. All that is important is that you're taking care of yourself so you can take care of your babies. It isn't the end of the world if they are mono-di (mine are) you just have to be a little more cautious, same thing for mono-mono twins, you'll just have to be monitored more often and be really careful. Healthy babies are all that matters. Not sure why you're going to be mad if they are mono-di/mono-mono, as long as they are healthy and growing that's the important factors. You'll have to see a MFM to be monitored closely, but it'll be just fine.

  

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• pixiem38 member

  August 2012

  Logically i realize that there isn't anything they would be doing differently right now if they knew definitively. I have just read that the optimum time to determine chorionicity is prior to 14 weeks (i have alao seen 16 weeks) and so i feel a sense of urgency about it since i am almost there. The being angry about mo-mo or mo-di would just kind of a "ha! I was correct and they really are high risk and you were just blowing me off as a crazy pregnant person instead of taking me seriously" anger....if that makes any sense at all. I am angry that my options are so limited. I keep telling myself that plenty of peiple don't even know they have twins until 20 weeks....i am just really worked up and afraid that my new caretakers will be as inept as original ob was and then i reallt will be up the creek with no paddle. When Calm Reasoning Brain takes over it is okay and i feel like it will be okay and will work out, but Crazy Pregnant Irrational Brain seems to appear more often than CRB. Just in case you missed it, i WAS getting suboptimum care until this point. Original OB refused to let me go to mfm until 20w. Refused. And did not care if they were di-di mo-di or mo-mo andblew me off when i asked about it....even though he said out loud, Looks like one big placenta". Inept. These people could be the same. They probably are not.

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• Rynleigh member

  August 2012

  Just breathe and stay strong.

  It might not be very comforting, but my mother was a mo/mo twin, and they were born in the 50s. They split so late that they developed into mirror image twins (identical features reversed - what one has on the left the other has on the right, it's a stage just before conjoined or incomplete splitting). My grandmother wasn't able to have an ultrasound until very late in her pregnancy (since the technology was still very new), and the only reasons they concluded that her twins were mo/mo is because they only had one amniotic sac found during the c-section, had one placenta between them, and their cords were wrapped. 

  My mother and her sister were both healthy and came out just fine (other than my mother being a total nutjob over religion and politics..... but we can't really blame that on mo/mo development, can we? lol) 

    
  

  
  

   
  

  
  

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• shaunah816 member

  August 2012

  I'm also pregnant with twins and live in Maine! Where in the state are you? I'm halfway between Portland and Lewiston.

  I didn't find out I was having twins (turns out they're di-di) until 20 weeks, so like others said it's important to know if they share a placenta, but you're still in a good stage to be finding out now. I do find it surprising that your doctor wouldn't have said whether there appeared to be one placenta or two at your initial ultrasound. The NT scan should give you a better idea, although detecting a membrane to see if they're mono-mono or mono-di often isn't possible until later in pregnancy.

  

  
  

  
  

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• angelfire02 member

  August 2012

  I'm sorry you are so frustrated, it's horrible to feel like you are not being heard.  FWIW, we didn't know what ours were until our NT scan.  At our 8 week they 'guessed' that they were mono/di but were concerned that they were mo/mo.  Thankfully they were mono/di and chances are yours will be too if they are not di/di.  Good luck!

  

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• pixiem38 member

  August 2012

  . I am about 40 minutes from Bangor, 15 min from Belfast. When i talk myself down from being frustrated, i realize that there is still plenty of time for things to go.properly if i find someone who knows what they are doing (it seems like this whole pregnancy has been an exercise in learning that not all medical professionals know what they are doing after all). At my original u/s @8w, the dr said he thought they would be ID, but we would not know until birth and he also said he did NOT see a membrane. At the u/s this past Friday he again said he would not be able to determine if they were ID until birth, and that it looked like one big placenta. He blew me off when i asked about the membrane. So just from what has come out of his mouth, i am under the belief that they are monochorionic. Also, my.little picture thingy has a copy of the 8w u/s where there are two blobs in one circle. The 12w u/swhen looks much the same, except the blobs look slightly more like babies. When i google "monochorionic twin u/s, i get pics that look remarkably like mine. When i google "dichlrionic twin u/s " the pics look different. Without input from someone knowledgable, that is the best i can do. I am hoping the nt scan will yield some good useful info. Shaunah816, do you go to the mfm in portland and if so are.you happy there? That was where i was.going to be referred to @20w

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• pixiem38 member

  August 2012

  Sorry about constant giant blocks.of text....i do this from.my phone and it does not let me add spaces.

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