TTC after 35

ok, I'm done being the butt of the universe's jokes

Guess whats on tomorrow's staff meeting agenda, we'll be discussing our Healthy Pregnancy Program! Yup that's right, shoot me now. Do you think it's appropriate for me to bring up that UHC was calling me two months after my miscarriage to congratulate me and welcome me to the program? Both times I miscarried!

I might need to address this with my boss prior to the meeting, I hate to bring my personal life into work, but I kind of think he should know about the serious gaps in communication with the program as well.

I don't even know why we'd be discussing this, we have a bunch of stupid phamplets that we hand out when someone tells us their pregnant, that's about all it entails!

 Update: oh and one of my best friends just messaged me that her new boyfriend of 1 month wants to get her pregnant because he's 42 and is ready to start a family, she has a 17yr old and always said she was done, but now she's considering it. WTF! She's only known him for a month! I can't today..

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Me 41 DH 46  Not actively ttc, surprise BFP on 1/6/11! 4/1/11 m/c our sunshine at 16wks after complications from CVS test. TTC #2 **5th cycle 12/6/11 BFP! Missed m/c at 9 weeks 1/21/12, trisomy 14. Two Chemical PG 3/12&7/12
** BFP 8/16/12 beta #1 148! beta#2 407 beta #3 4000 u/s 9.10 1 lovely hb 126, Baby Boy is due 04/28/13!!
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Re: ok, I'm done being the butt of the universe's jokes

  • Ugh, that really stinks.  Although a small part of me thinks it would be awesome if you brought up your own experience with the program.  It would make everyone suitably uncomfortable. 

    Hugs, and good luck with the meeting tomorrow!

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  • I was thinking about that, but it seems like a waste to take a whole day for what will probably be a 5 minute conversation... still it's gonna suck. There are 4 people that will be in that room that know I miscarried.
    nate and teddy
    Me 41 DH 46  Not actively ttc, surprise BFP on 1/6/11! 4/1/11 m/c our sunshine at 16wks after complications from CVS test. TTC #2 **5th cycle 12/6/11 BFP! Missed m/c at 9 weeks 1/21/12, trisomy 14. Two Chemical PG 3/12&7/12
    ** BFP 8/16/12 beta #1 148! beta#2 407 beta #3 4000 u/s 9.10 1 lovely hb 126, Baby Boy is due 04/28/13!!
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  • A) Can you ask your boss if that part of the conversation can be non-mandatory? In lieu of all the other people who have miscarried...

    B) Does it make you feel any better if I told you that a married couple just moved across the street from me and the wife is VERY pregnant and keeps walking with their baby/toddler up and down the streets of the neighbourhood? I've never met her, but I want to leave a flaming bag of dog poo on her doorstep...

    C) ((hugs)) ((hugs)) and more ((hugs))

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  • imagedhreczuck:
    I was thinking about that, but it seems like a waste to take a whole day for what will probably be a 5 minute conversation... still it's gonna suck. There are 4 people that will be in that room that know I miscarried.

     

    It sucks - that you can't seem to catch a break - hoping that since others will be in that meeting that are aware of your situation they will be sensitive and help you convey some of the issues you see with the program. Fx that your day gets better :)

    Me 38 MH 41 - TTC since June 2010 - dx with Severe MFI. Straight to IVF with ICSI. IVF #1 - ER 06/13/12 - 9 Eggs Retrieved - 4 ICSI'd - only 2 fert. 06/15/12 - 2DT - 3 cell & 6 cell with fragmentation. Beta 06/29/12 - IVF #1 = BFN. 07/20/12 - WTF Appt -Told by our RE to quit IVF. Second Opinion from RE is good. IVF#2 - November 2012. Estradiol Pills Started 11/6. Stims start 11/16. ER 11/26 - 7 eggs retrieved - all mature. 4 fertilized with ICSI. ET 11/29 Transferred 3 embryos. Beta is 12/10. 1st Beta 81 2nd Beta 160 and 3rd beta 360!!! First U/S 12/21/12 - We saw one beautiful gest. sac. 2nd U/S is 01/04/2013 - H/B 183 02/05/13 - NT Scan - everything looks good and IT'S A BOY!  Aiden was born 08/20/2013.

    IVF #2 is in progress.  ER was 05/12/14 - 11 eggs retrieved, 8 fertilized with ICSI.  ET was 05/15/14 - we transferred 3 embryos as we did on the cycle my son was conceived.  We were able to freeze 3 embryos. Beta is scheduled for 05/26/14.  1st beta - 111.  2nd beta - 159 didn't double :( 3rd beta Friday 5/30) - not a lot of hope left. Beta # 3 is 247 - probably ectopic.  Beta # 4 is 813 - possibly vanishing multiple sydrome?  06/05/14 - 5w4days - first U/S - we see a gestational sac and yolk - still have hope!  06/17/14 - 7w1day - U/S and saw and heard the heartbeat - Finally!  06/27/14 - 8w4days - Baby and heartbeat look and sound great :)  EDD 02/01/14 and It's a boy!


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  • I know I'm super sensitive to everything these days, but i honestly feel like almost every single day some weird bizarre unplanned thing pops up that reminds me of the crap I'm dealing with.

    I just overheard my boss saying he didn't ask for that to be added to the meeting agenda, so who the hell added it then? Just another weird random craptastic thing..I think Mars is in retrograde for my sign or something..

    nate and teddy
    Me 41 DH 46  Not actively ttc, surprise BFP on 1/6/11! 4/1/11 m/c our sunshine at 16wks after complications from CVS test. TTC #2 **5th cycle 12/6/11 BFP! Missed m/c at 9 weeks 1/21/12, trisomy 14. Two Chemical PG 3/12&7/12
    ** BFP 8/16/12 beta #1 148! beta#2 407 beta #3 4000 u/s 9.10 1 lovely hb 126, Baby Boy is due 04/28/13!!
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  • imagedanieleandwayne:

    A) Can you ask your boss if that part of the conversation can be non-mandatory? In lieu of all the other people who have miscarried...

    B) Does it make you feel any better if I told you that a married couple just moved across the street from me and the wife is VERY pregnant and keeps walking with their baby/toddler up and down the streets of the neighbourhood? I've never met her, but I want to leave a flaming bag of dog poo on her doorstep...

    C) ((hugs)) ((hugs)) and more ((hugs))

    Daniele - had to respond to this post I could have written B myself.  I have the exact same scenario going on in my neighborhood. I should add the neighbor next to her had a little girl last November and I get to drive by the sign in their yard that says "it's a girl" still ;)

    Me 38 MH 41 - TTC since June 2010 - dx with Severe MFI. Straight to IVF with ICSI. IVF #1 - ER 06/13/12 - 9 Eggs Retrieved - 4 ICSI'd - only 2 fert. 06/15/12 - 2DT - 3 cell & 6 cell with fragmentation. Beta 06/29/12 - IVF #1 = BFN. 07/20/12 - WTF Appt -Told by our RE to quit IVF. Second Opinion from RE is good. IVF#2 - November 2012. Estradiol Pills Started 11/6. Stims start 11/16. ER 11/26 - 7 eggs retrieved - all mature. 4 fertilized with ICSI. ET 11/29 Transferred 3 embryos. Beta is 12/10. 1st Beta 81 2nd Beta 160 and 3rd beta 360!!! First U/S 12/21/12 - We saw one beautiful gest. sac. 2nd U/S is 01/04/2013 - H/B 183 02/05/13 - NT Scan - everything looks good and IT'S A BOY!  Aiden was born 08/20/2013.

    IVF #2 is in progress.  ER was 05/12/14 - 11 eggs retrieved, 8 fertilized with ICSI.  ET was 05/15/14 - we transferred 3 embryos as we did on the cycle my son was conceived.  We were able to freeze 3 embryos. Beta is scheduled for 05/26/14.  1st beta - 111.  2nd beta - 159 didn't double :( 3rd beta Friday 5/30) - not a lot of hope left. Beta # 3 is 247 - probably ectopic.  Beta # 4 is 813 - possibly vanishing multiple sydrome?  06/05/14 - 5w4days - first U/S - we see a gestational sac and yolk - still have hope!  06/17/14 - 7w1day - U/S and saw and heard the heartbeat - Finally!  06/27/14 - 8w4days - Baby and heartbeat look and sound great :)  EDD 02/01/14 and It's a boy!


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  • You've got to be kidding me! Jeez louise I hope you get a break soon :( Big hugs.

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  • I agree - that's the kind of topic that doesnt' belong in a staff meeting. 
    Me 39 & suspected PCOS, DH 42. Went off BCP when we got married in 11/11, seriously TTC since 3/12.  Six cycles of clomid = BFNs.  Suspected endometriosis & HSG showed both tubes blocked.  Sept 2013 IVF 5D transfer of two perfect embryos = BFN.  Started acupuncture and taking time off to drop some pounds & get healthier before FET in April 2014.
  • I'm so sorry you just can't seem to get away from the constant reminders.  :(  I remember after my miscarriage, just the sight of a pregnant lady would make me cry.  *hugs* and I hope it's a quick meeting!

    Melissa

     

    Me - 38 DH - 38 DD - 2 pregnancy
  • Sigh. It's really not your day is it. If it makes you feel any better, you're not alone. I had to do extra work today because the pregnant coworker can't do some things for safety reasons. I hope the discussion isn't too distressing tomorrow.
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