Feeling "out of the woods"

lisa5201 · August 2012

When (if ever) did you feel out of the woods?

My first pregnancy was so easy. We casually tried to get pg, it happened and everything was smooth sailing. Then I suffered two losses, the last was just a menstrual miscarriage, but still,once you get two lines....

Anyways, I am like 5 minutes pregnant right now, just tested positive two days ago, and I am trying not to feel anything yet because I don't want to be devastated again, but it's so hard when you want it so bad.

How long did it take you to feel secure in your pregnancy? Are you there yet or are you in my boat?

Mrs.DeliaMarieP · August 2012

I felt better once I hit the end of first tri, but I still have moments here and there where I have anxiety, and I think that's going to last through the remainder of the pregnancy.

I do allow myself to get excited now, but there is always that small lingering fear.

adoxyinherear · August 2012

I agree with PP that I felt better once I was in second tri, though I feel like there are things to fear at every stage. I just tried to take things one day at a time and celebrate being with this baby. *hugs* Best of luck!

rayofsunshine99 · August 2012

Once I see a heartbeat and pass my loss milestones (all of my losses happened before 6.5 weeks) I think I will feel a little bit better, but as PP's said, will always have that lingering fear.

Also OT, but I wanted to say your LO is adorable.

Cocobeee · August 2012

I felt awesome when my OB found the hb with the doppler at my 12 week appt. After that, I continued to feel a little anxious here and there. I think now that I'm in the third trimester and feeling regular kicks, I feel a lot more relaxed. The re-assurance is nice! I think with losses, we'll always be a little more paranoid, but that's ok, theres a lot of us in the same boat

I wish you a healthy pregnancy like your first! Try not to read into others symptoms that you may or may not have, that seemed to worry me more than anything. I stressed so much about little ms and not feeling early kicks. Every pregnancy is different.

rsolsem · August 2012

First off - congrats!!!! Best wishes to you. I think I felt much better after my 20 week u/s. I still don't feel completely confident, but it gets better every day!

kelly321 · August 2012

Honestly, I was more worried with DD (before my loss) than with this pregnancy (after my loss). With her, I didn't really start to feel more confident about things until about 28 weeks, when I knew she would probably live if she came then. That's also when we finally started making purchases.

With this one I'm not feeling safe yet, but I'm not as worried as I was with DD. I guess it's just that I'm more fatalistic this time around - there's nothing I can do to change the outcome, so I'm trying to just go on with life.

tiffmatt · August 2012

I finally let myself get excited after the a/s. Being able to see him, to say "my son" was huge. "My son is so handsome, just like his daddy." I didn't really start to feel secure though until fetal movement got regular. Having him kick every few hours is a major relief and it helps knowing we are at a stage that he could survive outside the womb. i am not sure I will ever feel out of the woods thought, loss can change perspective forever.

jobiann · August 2012

I felt better once we hit 12 weeks (our loss milestone) and then again when were were around 15 weeks. It is completely normal to feel that way and honestly I still almost feel like it isn't real. My growing belly tries to tell me otherwise...but I won't be 100% worry free until LO is in our arms...and even then, a whole new set of worries begin! As my Mom says, welcome to motherhood! Mother's worry their entire lives. It just changes...

ReeceFamily · August 2012

Mrs.DeliaMarieP:
I felt better once I hit the end of first tri, but I still have moments here and there where I have anxiety, and I think that's going to last through the remainder of the pregnancy.

I do allow myself to get excited now, but there is always that small lingering fear.

This about sums it up for me. After I got through 1st tri, I felt like I was at least battling the same odds as any "normal" pregnant woman (since the odds were not in my favor in first tri). I still get freak-outs, but they are balanced by the times I am actually able to enjoy my pregnancy. Wishing you a very, very sticky baby!

bumpuser2669861 · August 2012

Congrats! As to your question - its still a work in progress for me. With my last pregnancy I felt better after we saw a heartbeat, then the worst happened anyway. This time around I will likely be a nervous wreck until I reach at least 12 weeks - further than we have gone with the first two.

H&H 9 months to you!!!

ilenegrace · August 2012

I am in a similar situation. After DS I had 2 losses and this pregnancy has been so hard on me emotionally. I have had alot of anxiety. I don't think I will feel out of the woods until this baby is safely in my arms. With that being said I am feeling alot better now that I can feel the baby move more consistently.

Congratulations!

angielayne926 · August 2012

I don't know that I will feel 100% secure with this pregnancy until I am holding him/her in my arms. I wll say, that once I starting feeling LO, I did get more reassurance that this is actually happening. However, that does lead to "What if my baby's not moving enough moments" but those are few and far between.

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