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DH doesn't like my name list

gidgetgirl08gidgetgirl08 member
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and hasn't come up with any names of his own to sugget.

What does this board think of my list?

Levi

Alexander

Noah

Lucas

Owen

Nicholas

Isaac

Andrew

Anyone have any suggestions that fit with this list but that my H may like ? I know I haven't given you any inclination as to his style... if it helps he wanted to name our son John Franklin  (the fourth)... TIA

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  • CTA7CTA7 member
    I like your list a lot, and it looks like there are several that should be in YH's style.  Is he just sulking because you don't want to go the IV route?  I wouldn't hurry to change up your preferences until you get a better sense of his motivations.  Is there some other way you could honor family?  Maybe use John as a middle name?
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  • sesigssesigs member
    I agree with PP, it kind of sounds like YH is probably just upset you didn't want to name the baby after him and family members. Your list is not out there at all and many fall into the same vein as John Franklin. I like your list. Maybe ask him to make his own list again? 
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    Jackson

    Evan

    Grant

    Jonah

    Hudson

    Sawyer

    Good luck ! Men can be stubborn creatures. ;) 

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  • gidgetgirl08gidgetgirl08 member

    imageCTA7:
    I like your list a lot, and it looks like there are several that should be in YH's style.  Is he just sulking because you don't want to go the IV route?  I wouldn't hurry to change up your preferences until you get a better sense of his motivations.  Is there some other way you could honor family?  Maybe use John as a middle name?

    I know that he wants to use his name b/c his dad passed away 2 years ago and he wants to honor his dad. His dad never even went by his given name, everyone knew him by a nickname. I've asked him if there was a hobby or something that his dad loved that we could incorporate into the name and nothing ever came from that discussion. I've also offered to use John as first or middle, I'm totally open to compromise, but during our conversation last night he said he either wanted DS to have his whole name or none of it...

    I guess I'm just frustrated b/c we had a name picked out for our DD as soon as we knew she was a girl. Now we're down to just over 7 weeks left before my due date and we can't decide on a name for our son. Thanks for listening ladies. I'm trying to be reasonable.

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  • queenbonequeenbone member

    Is he planning on waiting until the hospital after the baby is born? My DH will occasionally talk baby names with me, but always says it is a "game time decision." Confused

    I think at 32 weeks it is reasonable for him to put together a list of ten names he likes, he can keep John Franklin at the top of that list, but marriage is full of compromises so he needs to be fair about seriously considering his back up choices and working WITH you.

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    imagequeenbone:

    I think at 32 weeks it is reasonable for him to put together a list of ten names he likes, he can keep John Franklin at the top of that list, but marriage is full of compromises so he needs to be fair about seriously considering his back up choices and working WITH you.

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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member
    imageAmberY82:

    but during our conversation last night he said he either wanted DS to have his whole name or none of it...

    So, does he plan on giving the baby a different last name too?  Because his last name IS a part of his name....  I don't mean to sound snide, but I think he's being really unfair to you.  this is YOUR child too and you get to have a say.  You're trying to work w/ him and in turn, he's basically having a little tantrum over it (not even considering other names). 

     

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  • gidgetgirl08gidgetgirl08 member
    imageEastCoastBride:
    imageAmberY82:

    but during our conversation last night he said he either wanted DS to have his whole name or none of it...

    So, does he plan on giving the baby a different last name too?  Because his last name IS a part of his name.... 

    LOL! I don't think this crossed his mind. I know it didn't cross mine, but of course DS will have his last name.

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  • plunderbplunderb member
    imageEastCoastBride:
    imageAmberY82:

    but during our conversation last night he said he either wanted DS to have his whole name or none of it...

    So, does he plan on giving the baby a different last name too?  Because his last name IS a part of his name....  I don't mean to sound snide, but I think he's being really unfair to you.  this is YOUR child too and you get to have a say.  You're trying to work w/ him and in turn, he's basically having a little tantrum over it (not even considering other names). 

    I agree with this.

    You have offered a reasonable compromise ? John (or Franklin? or grandpa's nn?) as the middle name with a different first name. I actually like Franklin a lot with any of the first names on your list.

    If your H is just into dismissing your list without offering his own suggestions, tell him he only gets a veto if he replaces that name with a suggestion. But I suspect the other posters are right; he doesn't dislike your names ? he is just trying to pout until you give in and do what he wants. Don't let him manipulate you. It's your child too, and if you don't want him to have 3 names from your H's family and 0 from you/yours, you are perfectly right to demand a compromise.

    Feel free to suggest "John Franklin YourMaidenName."

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  • victoria+jamesvictoria+james member
    what about

    Lucas Franklin
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