Is it just me?

sloannmark · August 2012

This weekend I went to visit an old co-worker and see her 1+year old baby. She did a few things that made me suspect she was pregnant again but I thought I was jumping to conclusions. I made a comment in passing to the friend I drove with and she said, "actually, she is pregnant. She told me when you were in the bathroom." I cried, which was silly, but then I got home and checked facebook, where I continued to throw myself a pitty party because it seemed like every post included something about babies (one friend was on her way to the hospital, etc.)

SO...am I the only one with a fear that if I see/visit with a friend, she will tell me she's pregnant?? I spent time with some other friends the other night and was relieved when I saw them have a drink. Then I didn't have to wonder. I was scared that one of them would tell me she's pregnant and I'd lose it. It seems like so many of my friends are announcing their second pregnancies and it's breaking my heart just a little bit...

Bayberry12 · August 2012

No, you are not alone here. I feel the same way. I just know that many of my friends; ones recently married and ones who already have young children, will be announcing new pregnancies soon. And, because I am really struggling with anger on top of my sadness, I don't want to hear about anyone's happiness, especially pregnancies.

It's hard because we were the ones who where supposed to have our babies, and it's like someone just pushed the pause button for us, and every one else is moving forward. At least thats how I feel.

sloannmark · August 2012

Bayberry12:

the ones who where supposed to have our babies, and it's like someone just pushed the pause button for us, and every one else is moving forward. At least thats how I feel.

Yup. And the worst for me are the friends who weren't even trying- several of my single (dating) friends "accidentally" had a baby, and I'm reminded of that on facebook on a daily basis. Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone.

ehlersm · August 2012

I do this all the time. I am constantly checking everyone's belly, seeing if they have a drink, and monitoring their bathroom use - it's exhausting! One of my best friends is currently pregnant and another is getting married in two weeks. I'm terrified she'll get pregnant right away and I'll be the only one of the three of us who's not.

fluttergirlmoonchild79 · August 2012

Right there with you. I swear everyday I hear or see on FB that someone else is pregnant and all I can usually end up saying is "of course they are, everyone is except for me!" My DH doesn't get it because we're not trying right now (will be soon) so he doesn't get why I say what I say. It especially seems to bother me when I find out someone's having an additional child. I always think "I just want one, why do they get to have 2!" I know it's unfair but I think we're allowed to think and feel what we think and feel. Almost like we're entitled.

lmielocl1 · August 2012

You are not alone!! I had this fear earlier today when I was on the phone talking to a friend. They are going through IF treatments as well so I was getting an update -- and although I felt bad as they have been through a lot, I felt a bit of relief at the same time!

However, I did see a new pregnancy post about an IF friend finding out she was naturally pregnant. Although I am happy for her knowing what she went through to have her first, my heart sunk at the same time. I kept thinking about 2 months ago when we found out our baby boy had passed away & how I should be almost 27 weeks this week!

(((Hugs)))

weddedwife · August 2012

We went to a housewarming party about 3 or 4 mos. after our loss, and my biggest fear was that the wife would announce her pg then. She didn't, and wasn't even pg, but I was so worried. I felt this way with just about everybody for quite a while.

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