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August 2012 Moms
haileygrishy
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Bringing baby to a wedding?
haileygrishy
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What are your thoughts about bringing a newborn to a wedding of a close friend or family member?
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Re: Bringing baby to a wedding?
This. If you are breast feeding and need to be near LO, then it's worth asking. If not, and you have a trusted babysitter, I would leave LO at home.
This. But as long as they are ok with it, I'd do it if baby was still very young. Another option would be to find a way to have an on site sitter, so you can be there for LO without LO actually having to be at the wedding.
Absolutely this.
Proud Mama to cleft cutie
I agree with asking the bride and/or groom (whichever is the close friend or family member) but in reality I think most people anticipate when inviting a woman with a newborn that if the woman is able to come - the infant will be with her. I know that a newborns/infants under 6 months are almost always the exception to the "child-free" weddings I've attended, but I believe the appropriate thing to do would be to ask.
In the same situation, even if the b/g said it was alright, I would probably arrange for someone to watch the baby during the ceremony. The last thing anyone wants is their vows/wedding video drowned out by a fussy or crying baby.
See, I'm the maid of honor, and it's my best friend who's getting married, and I know she really wants Emma there, but my main concerns are her crying during, or what if people ask to hold or see her at the reception? I don't really have a good babysitter, or else I'd leave her with them....
in that situation I would have your dh watch her during the ceremony (have him sit next to an exit so he can make a stealthy exit if she starts getting fussy). As far as people holding her during the reception - I would suggest that you and or your dh babywear (with a wrap or sling) during it. During your MOH duties have your dh do it and you can wear her sometimes too to give him a break. People have a hard time telling if a baby is sleeping when they are being worn so not as many people will ask to hold her, and those that do - if you're not comfortable with it then you can say "No I'm sorry but I just got her settled/am trying to get her settled" and most people understand that. If that doesn't work look at the baby, look at their outfit and say "I'm sorry but she's been having explosive diapers all day and I'd hate for your outfit to be ruined." People will always back off then :-)
DH's cousin is getting married the first weekend in October. We are leaving LO with my parents because I know his family is going to want to hold her and pass her around and I don't feel like dealing with that since she'll be so little. Pumping is going to suck but I'm not going to the ceremony just the reception and we'll leave early.
This. Also, people are more likely to respect you or your DH's personal space, thereby keeping their grubby germy hands and faces away from your newborn...not so when baby is sitting in a carseat in the corner!
We have 5 weddings before the new year! I have checked with Bride/Groom to make sure L can come. My plan is a boob accessible dress and my Moby. I'll wear him so people don't constantly touch him or ask to hold him. I am also not afraid to ask if people have the TDAP vaccine. If they don't then sorry, you can not hold my tiny baby.
One wedding will be especially hard because it's all DH's family. I will hold my ground the same as at the other weddings.