AP Hater

RevivingOphelia · August 2012

https://waitingonalittlemiracle.blogspot.ca/2012/08/ranting-because-i-can-and-my-hormones.html

ETA: This girl found this post (oh well, don't have a public blog if you don't want it shared). But my curiosity is why she is on the AP forum, when she is so against it. Regardless, she has now changed her blog to try and explain why she hates AP so much. Too bad she won't allow comments or listen to anyone try and explain the benefits of AP.

boogerbearoriginal · August 2012

EllaHella:
I'm inclined to think she doesn't really understand AP. She only knows of the sensationalized versions that TLC and Time whore out.

This. She comes across as very ignorant.

hannafemme · August 2012

Yup! I couldn't resist posting some references showing benefits of breastfeeding past one year, but I doubt she will let the comment be published. Maybe she will at least read it.

And its easy to say all that stuff before you have a baby! I never thought I would bed share, but we did for several months, and I never thought I would breastfeed past a year, but now I'm hoping to make it to two.

RevivingOphelia · August 2012

hannafemme:
Yup! I couldn't resist posting some references showing benefits of breastfeeding past one year, but I doubt she will let the comment be published. Maybe she will at least read it.
And its easy to say all that stuff before you have a baby! I never thought I would bed share, but we did for several months, and I never thought I would breastfeed past a year, but now I'm hoping to make it to two.

she deleted everyones comments. the group of girls that brought it to my attn also had their comments deleted. and now she is upset i posted her blog here. here's an idea... don't have a public bloh and don't post about something you have no idea about...

ps: sorry for no caps, i'm on my phone and it won't let me?!? oh bb can't wait to get rid of you.

ashleylchapman@hotmail.com · August 2012

"Honestly....I was spanked, I slept in my own bed, and I didn't suck at my mother's tit until I was three, and I am a healthy, intelligent, well mannered, well rounded, and well behaved individual."

-I beg to differ! More like single minded and ignorant!

P.S- I haven't officially introduced myself but have been lurking this board for the past few weeks as I get close to my EDD. I agree with a lot of the AP ways of raising a healthy, intelligent, well mannered, well rounded, and well behaved individual (LOL) and am learning a lot from this board. I've just read the baby-led breastfeeding book and am already feeling more confident that I can do this! I am a FTM and due August 25th with a baby girl going to be named Amaya. Anyways- hope to get lots of advice from you ladies and throw in my view on topics.

RevivingOphelia · August 2012

ashleylchapman@hotmail.com:
"Honestly....I was spanked, I slept in my own bed, and I didn't suck at my mother's tit until I was three, and I am a healthy, intelligent, well mannered, well rounded, and well behaved individual."
-I beg to differ! More like single minded and ignorant!
P.S- I haven't officially introduced myself but have been lurking this board for the past few weeks as I get close to my EDD. I agree with a lot of the AP ways of raising a healthy, intelligent, well mannered, well rounded, and well behaved individual (LOL) and am learning a lot from this board. I've just read the baby-led breastfeeding book and am already feeling more confident that I can do this! I am a FTM and due August 25th with a baby girl going to be named Amaya. Anyways- hope to get lots of advice from you ladies and throw in my view on topics.

I don't post on this forum (maybe once or twice before this-but she annoyed me that I had to blast her), but do lurk here too. I think AP is great, and many moms don't even know they are practicing it. The one thing I find great about AP is that you don't have to follow everything. We room shared, not bed shared and things like that. I have a very happy toddler, who is very independent and very loving & caring.

BLW is the best idea ever. We LOVED doing it with Nathan. And he eats anything and everything we put in front of him. I think the absolute best part of BLW is getting to have family dinners together every night since he started eating solids.

ashleylchapman@hotmail.com · August 2012

RevivingOphelia:
ashleylchapman@hotmail.com:
"Honestly....I was spanked, I slept in my own bed, and I didn't suck at my mother's tit until I was three, and I am a healthy, intelligent, well mannered, well rounded, and well behaved individual."
-I beg to differ! More like single minded and ignorant!
P.S- I haven't officially introduced myself but have been lurking this board for the past few weeks as I get close to my EDD. I agree with a lot of the AP ways of raising a healthy, intelligent, well mannered, well rounded, and well behaved individual (LOL) and am learning a lot from this board. I've just read the baby-led breastfeeding book and am already feeling more confident that I can do this! I am a FTM and due August 25th with a baby girl going to be named Amaya. Anyways- hope to get lots of advice from you ladies and throw in my view on topics.
I don't post on this forum (maybe once or twice before this-but she annoyed me that I had to blast her), but do lurk here too. I think AP is great, and many moms don't even know they are practicing it. The one thing I find great about AP is that you don't have to follow everything. We room shared, not bed shared and things like that. I have a very happy toddler, who is very independent and very loving & caring.
BLW is the best idea ever. We LOVED doing it with Nathan. And he eats anything and everything we put in front of him. I think the absolute best part of BLW is getting to have family dinners together every night since he started eating solids.

Yes I plan on room sharing but not bed sharing as well. My sister was telling me she had a friend that did BLW too and it worked really well for her LOs too and they are the best eaters now.

xojackie317ox · August 2012

Ugh!!!! That whole load of crap made me so annoyed!! How can someone who claims to be an "intelligent, well rounded individual" be so GROSSLY misinformed and then post all about her ignorance on a public blog?!?

Funny how this post brought out a few long time lurkers (like myself, lol). Quick intro, my name is Jackie and my beautiful daughter Ella was born in April. I never knew what AP was until I saw it here on the Bump. After reading more about it I realized these were all the things I was already doing! This is what felt natural and instinctual to me before I even knew there were different "types" of parenting plans.

PurpleDrewbie5 · August 2012

ashleylchapman@hotmail.com:
RevivingOphelia:
ashleylchapman@hotmail.com:
"Honestly....I was spanked, I slept in my own bed, and I didn't suck at my mother's tit until I was three, and I am a healthy, intelligent, well mannered, well rounded, and well behaved individual."
-I beg to differ! More like single minded and ignorant!
P.S- I haven't officially introduced myself but have been lurking this board for the past few weeks as I get close to my EDD. I agree with a lot of the AP ways of raising a healthy, intelligent, well mannered, well rounded, and well behaved individual (LOL) and am learning a lot from this board. I've just read the baby-led breastfeeding book and am already feeling more confident that I can do this! I am a FTM and due August 25th with a baby girl going to be named Amaya. Anyways- hope to get lots of advice from you ladies and throw in my view on topics.
I don't post on this forum (maybe once or twice before this-but she annoyed me that I had to blast her), but do lurk here too. I think AP is great, and many moms don't even know they are practicing it. The one thing I find great about AP is that you don't have to follow everything. We room shared, not bed shared and things like that. I have a very happy toddler, who is very independent and very loving & caring.
BLW is the best idea ever. We LOVED doing it with Nathan. And he eats anything and everything we put in front of him. I think the absolute best part of BLW is getting to have family dinners together every night since he started eating solids.
I plan on room sharing but not bed sharing as well. My sister was telling me she had a friend that did BLW too and it worked really well for her LOs too and they are the best eaters now.

Yeah this. I think there are a lot of great things that come from AP. I don't subscribe to any particular style of parenting in whole but pull what works for us from different styles. I never imagined myself sharing a bed with my baby but when she was up every hour nursing from 3-5 months it just made sense practically. I wish I could wear my daughter but my back won't allow it. I think AP has a lot of really gentle approaches that can be very beneficial. This blogger is probably just really ignorant of what AP actually is.

ETA: Did anyone else find it odd she was asking people to donate to her birth photographer fund? /:

LouiseB2001 · August 2012

There were two things I found especially funny in her post (apart from actually having such strong opinion about child rearing/caring before having had the baby):

-Babywearing "beyond the age of two? Also a no; children have legs, they can use them!"

True, two year olds have great legs, however often very short legs. So if you want to skip the hike in the beautiful woods or make sure to schedule outings exactly between your toddler's nap, be my guest. I on the other hand enjoy tremendously the freedom that baby wearing still gives me...

-Nursing beyond two: "embarrassing when your child pulls up your shirt in public or asks to nurse."

Also true that this is embarrassing. However this is likely to happen anyway no matter how long/short you nurse. DD still pulls up/down my shirt in public and says 'milk, milk' even though we stopped 4 months ago and I recently observed a 17 month old do the same to my friend. When I asked if she still nursed my friend laughed and said they stopped long time ago. The boob still offers comfort.

RevivingOphelia · August 2012

PurpleDrewbie5:
ETA: Did anyone else find it odd she was asking people to donate to her birth photographer fund? /:

All of us "stalker caddy women" (read her newest blog) think the exact same thing. Very, very, odd. What I find even weirder, is that someone actually donated!!!

jennyann28 · August 2012

I think it's pretty funny that she doesn't know the difference between caddy and catty.

RevivingOphelia · August 2012

i know, i'm really hoping a pga player gets wind of my new career, and hires me.

kcisthebombdotcom · August 2012

Holy ignorance, batman! I LOL so hard at her comment that 2 year olds have legs. I'm sure she'll be eating her words when she learns most 2 year olds can't walk long distances yet. I would say I felt bad for her, but she's in for a rude awakening in a few months. Great to know exactly how you're going to parent before your kid is even here. LOL!

joseandjessica · August 2012

You know, this is so sick. It may be called AP here, but it's just called raising a baby in so many other cultures.

My family is from Italy- I'm the first born in the US. All babies are carried, all the time. I have always had a niece or nephew or sibling on my hip, because that's how the family has always been.

My husband is from Angola. Everyone slept in one room, and not because they had to. Because they were a family, and that's what families do there.

Neither family lets babies CIO or adhere to strict feeding schedules. If they cry you console them, if they're hungry you feed them, if they're sleeping you let them be.

Is that the general culture here? Nope. But that doesn't make it bad. Don't knock it because it's different. For many people (like me and hubby) it's not some fancy new fad, it's just how family is done.

ashleylchapman@hotmail.com · August 2012

KC_13:
Holy ignorance, batman! I LOL so hard at her comment that 2 year olds have legs. I'm sure she'll be eating her words when she learns most 2 year olds can't walk long distances yet. I would say I felt bad for her, but she's in for a rude awakening in a few months. Great to know exactly how you're going to parent before your kid is even here. LOL!

This! I guarentee she'll be letting her baby/child sleep in the same bed at some point in her life and find that a lot of these things she doesn't agree with fit into her life when LO actually arrives.

ashleylchapman@hotmail.com · August 2012

KC_13:
Holy ignorance, batman! I LOL so hard at her comment that 2 year olds have legs. I'm sure she'll be eating her words when she learns most 2 year olds can't walk long distances yet. I would say I felt bad for her, but she's in for a rude awakening in a few months. Great to know exactly how you're going to parent before your kid is even here. LOL!

This! I guarentee she'll be letting her baby/child sleep in the same bed at some point in her life and find that a lot of these things she doesn't agree with fit into her life when LO actually arrives.

vanceke08 · August 2012

Hahahaha! what a load. I love how she states that her child will "NEVER" sleep in her bed, no matter HOW tired, or how LATE it is. because that bed is for her and her husband, don't you know, and that's where they make love. can't go contaminatin' all of that with a baby. Come talk to me in 3 months when you could pack for vacation in the bags under your eyes and you would let your baby sleep not just in your bed, but under it, beside it, or between the mattresses if that is what baby wanted and would make baby go to sleep!

anna7602 · August 2012

LouiseB2001:

There were two things I found especially funny in her post (apart from actually having such strong opinion about child rearing/caring before having had the baby):

-Babywearing "beyond the age of two? Also a no; children have legs, they can use them!"

True, two year olds have great legs, however often very short legs. So if you want to skip the hike in the beautiful woods or make sure to schedule outings exactly between your toddler's nap, be my guest. I on the other hand enjoy tremendously the freedom that baby wearing still gives me...

Seriously. I pine for these days, as someone whose kid lost interest in the carrier around age 2.5. For a while there, outings had to be planned along bus routes in case DD got too tired to keep walking. Kids simply don't get to the point for a long time where they keep up with adults, especially if you live somewhere that cars aren't the norm.

Also, FYI to all the haters (not on this board, obviously): your kid will let you know when he/she doesn't want to be worn anymore and/or doesn't want to be nursed anymore. I have never seen a kid worn or nursed against her will in my life.

nfrtny · August 2012

Honestly guys, I could give a crap less what she thinks about AP. She's not a mom yet, so she's got no room to talk about our choices. It's what works for us, and a big high five to all of us for doing the right thing for our families!

nosoup4u · August 2012

She's currently pregnant with her first? Makes total sense that she's ranting about parenting philosophies, I reeeeally hope she doesn't go back on that post after becoming a mom, hee hee.

sunnyday016 · August 2012

I love how she says she's well- mannered.

I also love how she's not a mom yet. Lovely. I too was a perfect parent when I was pregnant with my first.

RevivingOphelia · August 2012

sunnyday016:
I also love how she's not a mom yet. Lovely. I too was a perfect parent when I was pregnant with my first.

Love that line! Because I'm sure the majority of us were "perfect parents" when we were pregnant!

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