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Most ignorant comment so far.....

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Lady at the mall: "Oh I have twins too! 18 months apart!" Me:"Oh wow, 2 sets of twins?!" Lady: "No...2 girls born 18 months apart." 

Alrighty then.....*facepalm*

She then proceeded to tell me how much harder she had it than me with the mobile 18 month old.  I just nodded and smiled.  I would never try to tell anyone twins vs. 2 under 2 is harder.....both are just different kinds of hard and you can't compare them.  But I doubt she had to ever attempt to nurse 2 newborns or deal with 2 babies with colic at the same time.  And I bet her 18 month old was sleeping through the night (at least mostly) by the time her next was born.  Add onto that she didn't have all the pregnancy complications of a multiples pregnancy......  AND she had 18 months with just ONE baby!

 Anyways, just had to rant a little since you all understand :) 

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  • rinascitarinascita member

    I'm continually amazed by how much I've learned and still have to learn about multiples in just the past 3 months since finding out we are having twins.

    At the same time I agree with you, 2U2 is not even close to having twins IMO.

    Who in their right mind, with 2 children no less, doesn't know that twins are born from the same pregnancy?  

    Just wow... 

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  • Venus04dVenus04d member

    I love when people say that to me. (Yes, I've heard it over and over.)

    I get to say, "Oh, I'm doing both!"

    Bitches.

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  • huntertwinhuntertwin member
    Since the babies were born, the amount of smiling and nodding I've done (through clenched teeth) is amazing. Oh, yeah, you know "exactly" what it's like to have twins with your two pregnancies almost two years apart. And your girls act "exactly" like twins. Twatwaffle.
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  • RynleighRynleigh member
    I don't like it when anyone acts like they are some kind of champion parent because they have a stressful number of children of any certain age. You have kids, you take care of the kids. Your reward is the love and respect of your children, and seeing them grow into the amazing people they become. Not getting some kind of special reward for taking care of the children you CHOSE to have. Yes, it's a pretty big feat when those kids all come at once. Yes, it can be stressful if you made a decision to have singletons back to back. Yes, it can be confusing and new to start over having kids after a decade or two of having none... but being a parent does not make a person special. Being a GOOD parent makes someone special. 
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  • JelseyBJelseyB member

    Similar comment last night at a wedding. An aquaintance standing wither her 18ish month old little boy strikes up a pregnancy converstation with me.

    Her: I'm 17 weeks . Yeah, I'm having a boy.

    Me: Congratulations, that's so exciting!

    Her: Yeah, it's going to be really hard with a toddler and a newborn at the same time. You're going to have it so easy because your babies will just entertain each other all the time and you'll basically have to do nothing.

    Me: Umm, maybe...

    That's not a joke. that's the actual conversation.

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  • masked_rose86masked_rose86
    imageJelseyB:

    Similar comment last night at a wedding. An aquaintance standing wither her 18ish month old little boy strikes up a pregnancy converstation with me.

    Her: I'm 17 weeks . Yeah, I'm having a boy.

    Me: Congratulations, that's so exciting!

    Her: Yeah, it's going to be really hard with a toddler and a newborn at the same time. You're going to have it so easy because your babies will just entertain each other all the time and you'll basically have to do nothing.

    Me: Umm, maybe... 

    That's not a joke. that's the actual conversation.

    My girls have barely awknowledged each other until recently.....so certainly not yet entertained by each other and definitely not "so easy" when both need rocked to sleep/held/fed etc.  Neither are "easier" the other, just different types of hard. 

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  • pawstech09pawstech09 member
    imageVenus04d:

    I love when people say that to me. (Yes, I've heard it over and over.)

    I get to say, "Oh, I'm doing both!"

    Bitches.

    I guess that means we have triplets then? lol

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  • macchiattomacchiatto member

    People are crazy.

    My own uncle once told me how he and his wife used to joke that they had triplets since their 3 kids were all born within 3.5 years of each other ... uh-huh ...

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  • MelleTXMelleTX member

    I also got the 2u2 is just like having twins recently. My response was"wow, that's really just like having two children"

    It took her a few minutes to realize I had insulted her and by then I had walked away.  

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  • macchiattomacchiatto member
    imageMelleTX:

    I also got the 2u2 is just like having twins recently. My response was"wow, that's really just like having two children"

    It took her a few minutes to realize I had insulted her and by then I had walked away.  

    LOL
    Good response. I'll have to remember that one. :)

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  • pixiem38pixiem38 member
    imageMelleTX:

    I also got the 2u2 is just like having twins recently. My response was"wow, that's really just like having two children"

    It took her a few minutes to realize I had insulted her and by then I had walked away.  

    I love this. I am.just shaking my head and saying "wow" at the rest.of.the winner comments. I.also agree with Rynleigh....i don't understand why there is this weirdo competitive.thing going on with people and the number of kids/spacing. People.are.so.strange.
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  • smcgerveysmcgervey member

    imageRynleigh:
    I don't like it when anyone acts like they are some kind of champion parent because they have a stressful number of children of any certain age. You have kids, you take care of the kids. Your reward is the love and respect of your children, and seeing them grow into the amazing people they become. Not getting some kind of special reward for taking care of the children you CHOSE to have. Yes, it's a pretty big feat when those kids all come at once. Yes, it can be stressful if you made a decision to have singletons back to back. Yes, it can be confusing and new to start over having kids after a decade or two of having none... but being a parent does not make a person special. Being a GOOD parent makes someone special. 

    *Applause from audience!

     One of the nurses at the hospital where I gave birth decided it was OK to tell me that because I have a boy and a girl that "Oh that's not like having real twins."  *** - two people came out of me at the same time....they are called twins!!

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    imageRynleigh:
    I don't like it when anyone acts like they are some kind of champion parent because they have a stressful number of children of any certain age. You have kids, you take care of the kids. Your reward is the love and respect of your children, and seeing them grow into the amazing people they become. Not getting some kind of special reward for taking care of the children you CHOSE to have. Yes, it's a pretty big feat when those kids all come at once. Yes, it can be stressful if you made a decision to have singletons back to back. Yes, it can be confusing and new to start over having kids after a decade or two of having none... but being a parent does not make a person special. Being a GOOD parent makes someone special. 

    *Applause from audience!

     One of the nurses at the hospital where I gave birth decided it was OK to tell me that because I have a boy and a girl that "Oh that's not like having real twins."  *** - two people came out of me at the same time....they are called twins!!

    You have got to be kidding me......a nurse no less. Some people....
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  • Venus04dVenus04d member
    imagepawstech09:
    imageVenus04d:

    I love when people say that to me. (Yes, I've heard it over and over.)

    I get to say, "Oh, I'm doing both!"

    Bitches.

    I guess that means we have triplets then? lol 

    Precisely! 

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  • macchiattomacchiatto member
    imagesmcgervey:

    *Applause from audience!

     One of the nurses at the hospital where I gave birth decided it was OK to tell me that because I have a boy and a girl that "Oh that's not like having real twins."  *** - two people came out of me at the same time....they are called twins!!

    What a strange comment!
    I've heard the sentiment that fraternal twins aren't "real" twins. Funny since fraternals make up 2/3 of twins. Guess a lot of us have fakes. ;)

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  • LadyNikonLadyNikon member
    that is not ignorant that is just down right dumb..
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  • flgatorflgator member

    Our boys were 2u2, and now we are having twins.  I'll let know the difference after the twins are born!  :)

    I am more worried about having twins than 2u2.  

    I like smcgervey's comment about real twins.  I didn't realize my twins were fake b/c it looks like a boy and a girl. :)

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  • AmyJoy728AmyJoy728 member
    imageMelleTX:

    I also got the 2u2 is just like having twins recently. My response was"wow, that's really just like having two children"

    It took her a few minutes to realize I had insulted her and by then I had walked away.  

    That is awesome! I will have to remember that

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