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Sassing

RaeAntRaeAnt member
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I'm assuming this is normal, but hearing it from someone other than my DH always makes me feel better.

DS seems to know what buttons to push to set me off. He will do things that he has been just told not to do. He will look you straight in the eye and blatantly do it. He then gets punished because by that time it's probably the 4th or 5th time he's been told within that hour alone. What is bothering me is that punishment doesn't faze him sometimes. He acts like nothing happened. It can be a time out, a scolding, a paddling...other times you just say something to him and it's as if you've deeply wounded him. I don't know what to do to correct him when repeated does things he knows he shouldn't, many of which could get him hurt.(He's a big on teasing the one dog that has already nipped him several times in warning since his growling apparently hasn't stopped DS) I'm often worn out from trying to constantly keep DS from really getting chomped on. I can't blame the dog because he has often moved and tried to get away from DS but DS will follow him and continue or escalate the behavior. I feel like I'm fighting a losing battle.

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  • Littlejen22Littlejen22 member
    It is normal, be consistent on consequences and hope it passes but stop hitting your 2yo to make them listen, it is not worth it and he will trust you less. 
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  • KathrynMDKathrynMD member
    You may need to talk less and act more.  Pick a few things that are truly unacceptable and dangerous and then consistently discipline them seriously and quickly - i.e. don't talk about getting away from the dog, trying to explain why its dangerous and how he might bite, etc. etc. - your LO probably hears you like the teacher in teh Charlie Brown.  Just say no quickly/loudly/clearly and then remove your LO to a safe place (probably his room?) and tell him he needs to stay there until he can leave the dog alone - and then leave.  No extended conversation - b/c its not getting you anywhere except frustrated.  Your kid just needs to know - bothering the dog gets me booted from the room and away from Mommy.
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  • RaeAntRaeAnt member

    I don't just tell him to stop or don't do that. I stop him everyone time along with the verbal warnings. I've removed him from the situations, carted him off to different rooms, made him sit on the couch while blocking his exit. Putting him on the couch or in his room...what's the point, he won't stay there unless I physically block his path or hold his door shut. Putting things out of reach doesn't exist. I've  been told to do that a million times and all it does is prompt him to climb for it causing more problems. He's extremely stubborn and smart and figured out ways around everything we've tried to use to stop him. He's even found things we've hidden. 

    People think things I say are me being dramatic.... and then they meet DS. The last person asked if he's always like that or if he was just behaving that way because she was there. I actually thought she was referring to him being fairly calm. When i told her that, her eyes grew huge and said about having worked with a ton of toddler/preschoolers with having been in child care for years but that my DS is definitely a handful. Then add a 2 month old into the mix and it's a party all the time. I can't leave the house unless DH is with me because I can't handle DS and the baby by myself. This should be interesting when i start him back in Kindermusik and swim. Hopefully the time out will take away some of his energy and calm his mind enough that he is less bonkers. of course just saying that...the lack of getting out may be part of the issue...*sigh* d@mned if I do d@mned if I don't.

    Sorry about the ramble. Can you tell I don't get much adult interaction anymore?

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  • KathrynMDKathrynMD member

    put one of those knob covers on his door so he can't get out of his room.  If he jumps on stuff in his room while you're not there, so be it. 

    Try to find a PT preschool that he can attend - he needs some time away from you and vice versa.  He needs to get his energy out w/ other kids his age. 

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  • brewcitybridebrewcitybride

    I could have written this post. My 3.5 year old has been testing the limits, NO, going OVER testing the limits, just in the past few weeks it has gotten really bad. She's always been super independent and assertive, but never bratty. This weekend, she was SOOOOO bad. Screaming and yelling, punishment has no effect, she doesn't care about consequences. And then she'll stop on a dime, tell me she's sorry and she'll be a good girl forever, kiss and hug me! But then, half an hour later, hitting her brother or screaming and sassing again.

    Most of my friends who've been through this age with their kids say it's a phase and this too shall pass. I am going to continue with my discipline, which is to remove her from the room, give her a time out, she has to say sorry and calm down, and can't leave her room until she does. I tell her why her behavior is unacceptable, and if she does it again, she will be back in time out again. I am going to keep doing this, because I don't know what else there is to do!!!

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