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MIL vent (NTTCALR)

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So long story shor after 30 years of marriage my MIL decides to divorce my FIL & refused to work it out. it completly blindsided my DH. one month after their divorce was final DH finds out through FB that she's "officially" seeing someone. the same guy who almost caused them to divorce 13 years ago. DH was finally getting used to the idea of his parents not being together then last night through TEXT MESSAGE MIL tells them that she got married & wants him to be happy for her Indifferent. well DH has been in a funky mood ever since then. he's never met the guy & doesn't want to. this guy cheated on his first wife with her & with other women also. Is it wrong that I cant wait til he cheats on her (and he will. once a cheater always a cheater. also the "new" will wear off of her. she can be a PITA) so she sees how bad she screwed up & tore her family apart?
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  • lindsayanne14lindsayanne14 member
    Wow...crazy family drama! I'm so sorry your DH and his family are struggling with this. While his mother may "want him to be happy for her", chances are she thinks if her son is happy for her then it will take away some of the guilt she feels for the pain she caused. I think it's more than fair for your DH to tell his mom, that while one day he hopes he can be "happy" for her and accept her new husband, at the present time, he isn't and she shouldn't expect him to move past the break down of his parent's marriage just because she has. As far as your anticipation of her "getting what she deserves"...I know it's hard, but try not to dwell on her and the choices she's made, most of the time what goes around comes around...but rather than focusing on her I would spend my energy on supporting my DH through this difficult time! (((hugs))) to you and your DH!

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  • LovenizLoveniz member
    Wow....I'm sorry your DH is struggling right now. I can't imagine why she thinks he could be happy for her, but like PP mentioned she is most likely guilty regarding her actions and wants reassurance for what she did. I agree with you once a cheater always a cheater.. Thoughts and prayers for you and your DH.
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  • Bizzy80Bizzy80 member
    Holy crap!  I never really understand why people decide to get divorced after being together for so long.  I mean they have made it that far, why not try to work it out and at least get counseling or something!  I'm sorry your DH is upset about the situation and that his mom expects him to be happy for her.  That is a really tough spot to be in for both of you.  Sending you big big hugs!
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  • EKGibsEKGibs member
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     Indifferent

    She told her son she got married with a text message?

    Well, isn't she a peach?

    I'm sorry your husband is in a funk; I would be, too. Just focus on him and forget about your MIL for now. She's probably feeling all kinds of guilt anyway and if she knows about her new husband's history, then she has to be worried about whether or not he'll cheat on her, too.

    I thought the text message thing was riduculous. my SIL's are really upset b/c she told them that if she decided to marry this guy she would tell them first & it was a surprise to them too. as for her new husbands history she knows all about it. she was the reason his first wife left him.Hmm

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  • weaslewamweaslewam member
    Grrr. She sounds like a peach. I hope that you aren't too cocky when she gets cheated on!!!
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