Am I over reacting

Re: Am I over reacting

• magnoliablossom00 member

  August 2012

  Hold on- I am trying to understand. Your neighbors moved out and J's boyfriend moved in. J's boyfriend has his own children. J has her own daughter. Everyone ended up outside playing, including you and your kids. They wanted to order pizza all together and you said no and went inside. Is that right?

  If so, I don't understand the problem, especially considering that she has asked you to hang out all together before. Are you upset because your son wanted to go in with them and you had to say no? Did you not feel included? I don't think they really "needed" to include you if they are going out, kwim? Not sure I am really understanding.
  

  

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• amypogg6 member

  August 2012

  I'm pretty sure BF= best friend, not boyfriend. 

  I'm a little confused too, but is it that they are too much, like you all have to do everything together? If it is that, I'm not super social, so I don't have advice on how to back them off, but I do want to say, don't be harsh in any way because you don't want to alienate them or make them not like you.  Good luck! 

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• cvl105 member

  August 2012

  I'm sorry....but I didn't follow that. It took me awhile to figure out BF = best friend, not Boyfriend...but other than that, I don't get it.
  

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• thomas2013 member

  August 2012

  Sorry ladies. I was writing it after it happened and it must not have come out right. BF is bestfriend not boyfriend. J came outside to smoke and acted like we weren't including her and her daughter. When she said " well I guess I will get A" like we weren't inviting them to play with everyone else when it wasn't planed it just happened. The I guess b/c she was already feeling left out/ jealous when her bestfriend starting talking to me about having a cook out one night. She jumped in and said lets do pizza tonight and asked the kids (hers and bestfriends kids) if they wanted to have a pizza party. My LO didn't understand when she said it and that we were not invited. So he was upset. This is why I had to take him inside b/c he was asking questions and didn't understand and she just kept looking like she didn't have a clue why he was asking. I'm not upset we weren't invited. I don't like how she made it a point in front of all the kids about having a "party" the other kids didn't understand that he wasn't invited either. I just don't like how she wanted us all to be friends then acts like a jealous teenager like I was trying to hang out with her friend without her. I feel like high school might have just moved in.

  Then they keep asking H to do stuff for them. I don't mind but then your going to make us feel out of place. He fixed their (the best friends) dryer and internet last night at 1:15 am and hung fans in J's house the other day. It kinda makes me feel used.
  

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• magnoliablossom00 member

  August 2012

  thomas2013:

  Sorry ladies. I was writing it after it happened and it must not have come out right. BF is bestfriend not boyfriend. J came outside to smoke and acted like we weren't including her and her daughter. When she said " well I guess I will get A" like we weren't inviting them to play with everyone else when it wasn't planed it just happened. The I guess b/c she was already feeling left out/ jealous when her bestfriend starting talking to me about having a cook out one night. She jumped in and said lets do pizza tonight and asked the kids (hers and bestfriends kids) if they wanted to have a pizza party. My LO didn't understand when she said it and that we were not invited. So he was upset. This is why I had to take him inside b/c he was asking questions and didn't understand and she just kept looking like she didn't have a clue why he was asking. I'm not upset we weren't invited. I don't like how she made it a point in front of all the kids about having a "party" the other kids didn't understand that he wasn't invited either. I just don't like how she wanted us all to be friends then acts like a jealous teenager like I was trying to hang out with her friend without her. I feel like high school might have just moved in.

  Then they keep asking H to do stuff for them. I don't mind but then your going to make us feel out of place. He fixed their (the best friends) dryer and internet last night at 1:15 am and hung fans in J's house the other day. It kinda makes me feel used.
  

  I would definitely not be OK with my husband going into another woman's home, let alone at 1:15 in the morning. Next time, don't answer the phone/door. I can't even believe they would ask you guys to do all that!

  Are you sure you weren't invited to the pizza party? Maybe she meant to invite you guys because she said it out loud in front of everyone.

  This sounds sticky. I would back away from both of them.
  

  

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• thomas2013 member

  August 2012

  magnoliablossom00:

  thomas2013:

  Sorry ladies. I was writing it after it happened and it must not have come out right. BF is bestfriend not boyfriend. J came outside to smoke and acted like we weren't including her and her daughter. When she said " well I guess I will get A" like we weren't inviting them to play with everyone else when it wasn't planed it just happened. The I guess b/c she was already feeling left out/ jealous when her bestfriend starting talking to me about having a cook out one night. She jumped in and said lets do pizza tonight and asked the kids (hers and bestfriends kids) if they wanted to have a pizza party. My LO didn't understand when she said it and that we were not invited. So he was upset. This is why I had to take him inside b/c he was asking questions and didn't understand and she just kept looking like she didn't have a clue why he was asking. I'm not upset we weren't invited. I don't like how she made it a point in front of all the kids about having a "party" the other kids didn't understand that he wasn't invited either. I just don't like how she wanted us all to be friends then acts like a jealous teenager like I was trying to hang out with her friend without her. I feel like high school might have just moved in.

  Then they keep asking H to do stuff for them. I don't mind but then your going to make us feel out of place. He fixed their (the best friends) dryer and internet last night at 1:15 am and hung fans in J's house the other day. It kinda makes me feel used.
  

  I would definitely not be OK with my husband going into another woman's home, let alone at 1:15 in the morning. Next time, don't answer the phone/door. I can't even believe they would ask you guys to do all that!

  Are you sure you weren't invited to the pizza party? Maybe she meant to invite you guys because she said it out loud in front of everyone.

  This sounds sticky. I would back away from both of them.
  

  No we were not invited. She was asking her bestfriend and her BF's husband want they liked and what they wanted and which salad they wanted. She also had her back to me and never asked me anything. She acted like I was the one intruding and I was in front of MY house with my kids and I was the first one out there. Her husband was there it didn't really bother me but how can you ask for favors then act like that. The bestfriend didn't do anything wrong she was trying to leave to go to her storage unit and J just kept going. I'm not worried about  me but I didn't think it was right to do in front of the kids.
  

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