What are you saying to people who ask?

CrazyMary77 · August 2012

This may have already been posted, and if so, forgive me! If you're not telling everyone you're pregnant yet, what are you telling them when they ask, "So are you planning to have any children?" or if this is not your first, "Are you planning to have more children?"

I got caught off guard on the phone today with a friend I haven't spoken to in a long time, and all I could say is, "We want to have kids. We're trying. When it happens, it'll happen." I think I did pretty good! It's difficult for me to keep a secret!

cvl105 · August 2012

I just say "In due time".

Johnb03 · August 2012

The only person that knows is my boss and thats only cause I had to. But so far no one has asked me that question. But if they do, im using your response "When it happens, it'll happen" Short and vague. Love it.

TTCaANGEL · August 2012

I always say:

We wanna travel a lot more before starting a family.

That shuts them up cause we are big travellers!

luciddreamer106 · August 2012

I usually say, "Eventually, we're not in a rush," or "We're enjoying our time alone together right now."

Ella85 · August 2012

No one has asked yet but before when we were TTC. I would say "we're thinking about it"

Debbie0580 · August 2012

My line is "well we'd like our kids to be 2-3 years apart."

keado · August 2012

We have a 3.5 year old so I get that a lot. I have started saying "oh, hopefully in due time . . . for right now DD is keeping us plenty busy! I'm just trying to keep her from running around the front yard naked!" That usually turns the convo and keeps it going another direction.

sugarland726 · August 2012

Depends on how snarky I am feeling and who I am saying it to. Some of the things I've been saying since DD turned 1 (because apparently that is the time we should have been TTC):

-When we get around to it

-We're really enjoying Sarah now

-She was such a good baby, why would we want to push our luck?

-When the state of my uterus is any of your business then I'll let you know

-Do I ask you what is going on in your uterus?

-What makes you think that is an appropriate question to ask?

-Are you going to pay our mortgage? No? Then you get no say in when we have more kids.

I have found that using the word uterus and/or calling them out on the nature of the question gets them fumbling and apologizing pretty quickly...thus not having to answer the question. I'd rather do that then lie to them.

Ciconrad · August 2012

I've had a couple people ask if we are planning to have more since my bfp. I just say "Yes, we'd like one more. Hopefully sometime next year!"

kristinrvb21 · August 2012

When I was not pregnant and people would as I would say, "I hope I'm pregnant right now!" Followed by taking a sip of wine. Oh the looks I would get They knew I was joking. Now I say the same thing and do not drink the wine. I am the pushiest one with my friends and I want to always be the first to know, so I expect to get cornered soon

SkyBee · August 2012

I just simply reply, "of course we want more children!" and then shrug it off.

ThereBeDragons · August 2012

We've been married for 9 years so basically anyone who was going to be nosy has already been nosy. At first we told them that we wanted time to enjoy our marriage before kids. Then we suggested that we might want to wait until we were 30. And as time went on we eventually admitted that we were infertile and the baby schedule was no longer in our hands.

No one really asks anymore. Now they ask if our latest treatment has worked or if we've considered adoption.