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JustcallmeGG2
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Crying at same time= ripping hair out
JustcallmeGG2
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Hi ladies! What the heck do you do when your babies cry at the same time and there is only one of you? This happened the other night when DH had to go out and it was terrible. Plus, one kept setting off the other, so I had to separate them into different rooms.
Any tips?
Ayden & Sydney
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Re: Crying at same time= ripping hair out
Not being able to soothe them instantly is the only thing I truly hate about having twins. I just swap them during these times and do things like two boppies and pat two backs. It is hard and so frazzling. This happens less each week, though after 2 month shots was a doozy of a day!
I agree with the above poster that both of the babies being distraught and not being able to comfort them both is the worst part about twins for me. It breaks my heart to not be able to comfort them both. As they get older they will cry less and less. Until mine were about 9 weeks old they did not give a rip about the swing, bouncy seat, boppy...whatever. They just wanted to be held. Thankfully I had help around a good bit of the time, but when I didn't I would put one in a Moby wrap (or both of them when they were really tiny) and cuddle the other as best as I could. Wearing one and bouncing or cradling the other really worked for me.
Take a deep breath. Do you have a bouncer? Hold one baby while you bounce the other. Have you read " happiest baby on the block" ? Make sure they have dry diapers and full bellies. Swaddle them both, make sure they have a pacifier. Put them on their side, sway or bounce them, you can also shush them in thier ear as loud as they are crying.
I was really worried when I had my babies that I wouldn't be able to calm them both, but only one of them was super needy. But thats not to say that I didn't spend lots of time bouncing,swaying and shushing. HBOTB worked really well for me all things considered.
Good luck mama, youre doing great, and it gets better!
Yup, it suckssuckssucks.
You'll come up with your own coping and soothing techniques. It's frustrating though for sure. Just remember to take deep breaths and step away if you have to for a few minutes.
Etta Jane and Claire Elaine are here! Born March 28, 2012.
my blog
What it's like to cloth diaper twins, Part I.
Cloth diapering twins, Part II.
As everyone else has already said, it's awful and it happens all the time at this age. First of all, for us it got infinitely better at 3 months old. They magically were happy most of the time and it was soooo much easier.
My primary strategy was to pick one and pray for God to watch over the other. Seriously. And I repeated to myself over and over that they were safe, they weren't going to get hurt or sick while they were crying, it was temporary and I would spend plenty of time comforting them in turn. The whole bounce one with your foot thing never worked for them. If it got really bad I put them both in the moby wrap and went for a walk.
Both of my boys had colic so this was me every day, all the time.
Sometimes I would alternate... pick up one and try to soothe, then switch, then switch back. It didn't really work well but I felt like at least I was trying for both.
One thing that occasionally did work was to sit indian style and put one in the crook of my knee and bounce my leg while I held the other and bounced him. That way they both felt like they were being held and cuddled.
I also got good at safely holding both at the same time, pressed against my chest with my head between them to keep them from banging their heads together. Then I bounced and shushed them. But if you do this, be VERY careful and watch your step if you are pacing.
When all else failed, I nursed them. Or tried to give them pacifiers.
But above all, there were a lot of times when I had to just step outside for a minute and take a few breaths, because it really does feel overwhelming. Just remember, it will pass! And your babies will never remember this difficult time in their lives.
thanks- yes i do have it!
Usually when one starts to fuss if I cant just sooth them w/ their lovey or paci I right away take them out and bring them in my room so the other doesn't startle or wake up. It's the only thing that saves me. Usually, I can get the crying one back to sleep by puting them in their swing for a few minutes then moving them back to their crib.
The times they both cry though I completely feel ya! I have many time cried right along w/ them.