2nd+ time moms

gingerfamily · August 2012

Are any of you just plain scared and/or nervous about this baby coming? I think because I know how well I don't handle the sleep deprivation, ppd, and the stress I'm freaking myself out more. Plus I'm worried that I'll have complications pp like I did with DD and I'll be back in the hospital again, leaving my husband with two small kids to care for by himself.

H stayed home for three weeks with me when DD was born. This time around he can only do one week. And, I'll have DD home with me 2 days a week.

I'm just nervous that I'm not going to be able to do it and H and I are going to end up fighting all the time.

bosha711 · August 2012

hell yeah

mrsbhk22 · August 2012

I found I was more nervous with #2 and #1. With #1, it's all fear of the unknown. With #2, you KNOW what you are getting into (lack of sleep, personal recovery, etc). However, after the fact, I found the post partem time with #2 to be easier than #1 because my expectations were different. I am actually really excited for #3...probably more than I was with #s 1 or 2!

NewlyWeds13 · August 2012

I am scared, but for entirely different reasons! I find the toddler years much more challenging for our family than the newborn ones. I don't sleep a lot, so that never bothered me... but finding the patience for some of the stuff our 2.5 does, I have to dig deep:)

I am scared he is going to regress and be a monster for a long time while transitioning to baby!

I think that most moms (1st, 2nd, 3rd, etc) have some level of being scared about something, but it just varies from person to person on what scares them.

The good news is that as you know from last time--- everything is a phase. So you know that it will pass. That is how I am prepping myself for it! Repeating it will only last a few months!

CarlySara · August 2012

I'm nervous because I want to make sure DD is still going to be okay once the baby gets here. Not to mention I've never spent a night away from her. I'm a little sad about that part.

hmp1 · August 2012

Right now, I am just terrified of going into labor while DH is traveling. Once my parents get here on 9/15 I think I will feel more calm about the entire situation. Since we are keeping DS in daycare during the day, I won't really be home alone with the 2 kids very much until DH starts traveling again. Then I will cry.

hmp1 · August 2012

NewlyWeds13:
I am scared, but for entirely different reasons! I find the toddler years much more challenging for our family than the newborn ones.   I don't sleep a lot, so that never bothered me... but finding the patience for some of the stuff our 2.5 does, I have to dig deep:)

I am scared he is going to regress and be a monster for a long time while transitioning to baby!

I think that most moms (1st, 2nd, 3rd, etc) have some level of being scared about something, but it just varies from person to person on what scares them.

The good news is that as you know from last time--- everything is a phase.   So you know that it will pass. That is how I am prepping myself for it!   Repeating it will only last a few months!

This does scare me too. DS has been such a great sleeper and is generally an easy going kid. I'm worried the new baby will change his personality.

senorita04 · August 2012

I'm nervous because I feel like it's been such a long time since we've had a newborn around. I'm worried about how DD1 is really going to react to having a baby sister, although she's been a great sport up to this point and is really excited. I'm mainly worried that she's going to get here before we can get moved into the new place. That is what is stressing me out the most.

cmumama · August 2012

hmp&mrj:
NewlyWeds13:
I am scared, but for entirely different reasons! I find the toddler years much more challenging for our family than the newborn ones.   I don't sleep a lot, so that never bothered me... but finding the patience for some of the stuff our 2.5 does, I have to dig deep:)

I am scared he is going to regress and be a monster for a long time while transitioning to baby!

I think that most moms (1st, 2nd, 3rd, etc) have some level of being scared about something, but it just varies from person to person on what scares them.

The good news is that as you know from last time--- everything is a phase.   So you know that it will pass. That is how I am prepping myself for it!   Repeating it will only last a few months!
This does scare me too. DS has been such a great sleeper and is generally an easy going kid. I'm worried the new baby will change his personality.

All of the above. I'm definitely scared. DS has a lot of big changes coming up and I'm wondering how it will affect him. In addition to bringing a new baby home, he's no longer going to go his usual daycare b/c he's going to be in preschool 5 mornings/week (he receives speech, OT and PT).

MommaP12 · August 2012

I'm scared worried about:

1) sleep deprivation all over again.

2) making sure DS feels "normal" and has attention and I"m not snapping at him in my lack of sleep state. He's going through potty training and has to get off thumb sucking, so poor little man has a lot to work through and expect regression in these areas.

3) I took 12 weeks ML last time, only taking 8 this time. Please baby, sleep well by 8 weeks so mom can go to work!

4) definitely last on my list, but losing the weight better this time around. Not sitting home eating crap while I'm on ML.

I will say, DH was not around much with #1 because it was the height of the recession and he was teaching tennis at night on top of his day job so I was alone, depressed, stressed, etc. This time, he'll be around a LOT and DS willstill go to preschool M/W/F so we should be okay in terms it not being all on me..we'll see.

Mom2Mack1 · August 2012

Yup, I'm starting to get nervous. DD is so active & needs entertained. I'm not sure how I'm going to handle both of them during the day. The sleep thing I'm a little nervous about. DD was such an awesome sleeper. She was pretty much diaper change, bottle, burp, back to bed when she was a newborn. However, we did sleep until 10AM, and I'm sure that won't be happening this time around!

terri_doula2010 · August 2012

I'm seriously nervous. And also ready to get to that point.

DH will be home with me for a week. Hopefully I'll VBAC and not be recovering from surgery this time. Last time he stayed with me for a week and then a friend stayed with me for a week, and then it was just me. This time we are *hoping* my mom can come visit for a week sometime soon after he goes back to work, but we just aren't sure.

I'm not at all worried about DH and I fighting because that is our style. I am worried about lots of breakdowns and everyone being miserable.

AB&TB · August 2012

I was very scared with #2. I was worried about complications pp. And how we would handle being parents of more than one.

With #3 I wasn't really nervous at all, and I am not really worried about this one either. I know what we are getting into & I know everything will be okay.

mlf625 · August 2012

Nah, not this time. I totally was before #2, though, and while it was hard it wasn't SO bad. I thought it was tougher going from 0-1 because our whole life changed. When we added #2 we were already in baby/kid mode so it was just a matter of handling the extra work load.

This time I know it's probably going to be a little insane, but I'm more excited than nervous. I know how fast the time will go by and I just want to really enjoy #3 because we know she'll be the last baby for us.

enjoylife · August 2012

I'm scared of the newborn sleep deprivation stage. DS was such a cranky cat napper it was rough. DS takes most transitions in stride nowadays but he wants 100% of our attn 24/7 so it will be an interesting adjustment leading to a few toddler meltdowns I'm sure. I'll have dh home for 2 weeks and then we are just going to take it 1 day at a time. DS hasn't gone to daycare/preschool so it's not like I could jut keep him in an old routine. I hope the addition goes smoothly but I also like to live in denial land too.....

PrncesWife · August 2012

CarlySara:
I'm nervous because I want to make sure DD is still going to be okay once the baby gets here. Not to mention I've never spent a night away from her. I'm a little sad about that part.

A little bit of this, but mostly I'm excited. My anxiety comes from worrying about DD while I'm in labor. My SIL is the only family we have in town, and she was going to take her. Except she just flew out to Afghanistan today and doesn't come back till the day after my due date. I have a back up plan with my neighbor, but I'm really hoping it doesn't come to that. I'm hoping my MIL gets here in time to stay with DD.

EGMphoto · August 2012

Oh yeah. I'm really nervous about it. I can't imagine the sleep deprivation while also having a (crazy) toddler to take care of as well. Plus DH is not working this time around, he is a full time student and can't take ANY time. I am just praying that the baby is born on a weekend so he can stay in the hospital both nights with me. If not, he will probably only be able to miss 1 or 2 days of class, and then things are back to normal for him. It is going to be an insane fall. I never see him when school is in session - he's gone all day and studies all night - this time even has a night class. I wanted to KILL him when he told me he registered for it. OMG. I have to tell myself that it will all be worth it when he gets a good job in 2 years.

damabo80 · August 2012

Yep. All our family is on the opposite coast, DD still isn't walking (carrying TWO kids around?!?), and DD is a stage 5 clinger who doesn't STTN.

Im so fuucked......

ELCJet · August 2012

Yep, definitely nervous this time around. With #1, I had absolutely no idea what I was getting myself into. With this one, I'm concerned about how I'm going to give DS enough attention when I'm bfing the baby....how DS is going to react to having another person in our house. How DH and I will do as a couple with the added stress of a baby around. (We struggled our first six months with DS, but know this time around we have to be a team and communicate well) I'm worried DD will be colicky and not sleep and I'll have to go back to work at 8 weeks postpartum with only 1/2 of my brain working.

Ah!!! But we'll get through it somehow.....glad to know it's normal!

MrsL0908 · August 2012

Definitely! I'm super nervous about managing 2 under 2. DS is finally walking - and since then, has become more self reliantl - so that has helped ease my nerves a bit. But, yeah - we have such a good routine now; it's going to be hard to see that thrown into a tailspin. But, I'm also really excited to meet DD! I can't believe how close it is!

monica92603 · August 2012

My daughter has been acting out a lot the past few weeks and I swear it's been b/c I've been home on maternity leave. She still goes to daycare her normal 3 days a week but goes 1/2 days instead of full. I don't think the shorter hours are a big deal I just think that every second she's not at school, she's w/ me is the problem. No one on one time w/ anyone else. Usually she does one day alone w/ MIL, my mom and 2 nights w/ H but I've been home for 2 weeks. I have no idea how she is going to be when baby comes and I was worried before, but now I'm pretty much sh*tting my pants lol.

kelbel527 · August 2012

Yes, yes and yes. DS isn't the easiest going two year old. He was an awesome baby and 1 year old, but once we hit two, it's been rough. I don't know how I am going to handle it with a baby. I'm already a little less patient with him than I should be and the baby isn't here yet.

Then if DS#2 isn't as good of a baby as DS was, then I'm totally screwed.

OceanLover26 · August 2012

I'm a little nervous, but mostly because I want to keep everything under control and it will be a busy fall semester. I will be full-time undergrad online, DS1 starts kindergarten, DS2 will be in preK MWF from 9-1130, DD is clingy and prefers me over anyone so that worries me...Other than that I decided to just set my bar unreasonably high in expectations and hope for the best. I'm very blessed with 3 kids that sleep 10-12 hours a night, so if I keep my day organized I should be triumphant at keeping control and order for my family. I REALLY want to breastfeed and I'm not sure if I will be able to since I didn't with the first three, but we'll see.

The only fight I see me and H having is going to be over how long I keep the baby in our room. The fact is that I CANNOT put the baby in Summer's room till he's sleeping thru the night. Her vibe will be all messed up because even though she STTN she's a light sleeper. When I check on her at night she usually opens her eyes and hisses at me. (shes 12 months old). So I'm prepared to hear him gripe about sleep, but he's gonna be strong.

dmfan897 · August 2012

Nervous yes..but I found the transition from 0 to 1 kids much harder than 1 to 2. You just need to accept that both kids probably won't get every need meet at the exact moment they need it..and that's okay. Someone might always be crying..but that's okay. 2yrs after the birth of my 2nd I can say that things feel fairly easy most of the time. FWIW DH went OOT for a weekend when DD2 and I survived with no help just fine. It becomes your new normal pretty quickly. At this point I have zero nerves about adding a 3rd child..but maybe I am just crazy haha.

pawstech09 · August 2012

Some days I find my anxiety level increasing and my heart racing like "omg what have we done?" and then other days I blissfully imagine life with only 1 newborn and I'm like "Sh*t I've got this!"

I just keep telling myself that only time will tell, I can't really know how it's going to be until he's actually here and I can establish a routine and find some semblance of normalcy with all of us. It's going to be hard, no doubt about that, but it won't be impossible. And I certainly hope I have family members who will come over and let me take a nap!!

Manx4 · August 2012

All of my friends who have 2+ kids tell me you figure it out. Just like you did with #1. It's nerve wracking of course. I go back & forth between being excited & terrified.

I feel like I'm ready for him to show up when he's ready but I'm really trying to cherish my DS as an only child for as long as I have left. I feel like I still have a few things I need to get done, prepare for.

I'm nervous. I'm excited. I feel like I'm sitting at the top of the roller coaster before the first big drop and just want it to be done with so I can enjoy the rest of the ride.

AppleMomma · August 2012

Yes! I'm freaked about taking care of 3u4, and all in diapers as DS#1 is being extremely tough about potty training. Sad

You're lucky your DH gets to stay home at all, MH won't be able to take anytime off as $$$ is so important right now. I'm not on ML until I'm going into labor basically, then I'm only taking 6-8 weeks of leave.

I'm certainly concerned about sleep deprivation, & PPD. This is certainly our last LO. I can't handle more, physically, emotionally or financially.

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