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February 2012 Moms
HattieLove
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Not the little family I imagined
HattieLove
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Yesterday SO decided that our relationship isn't going to work. As you may remember he left when I was pregnant and then came back the day DD was born. Well he admitted he hasn't been putting in the effort to make it work and he is leaving for good.
He's been kind of sullen and negative for awhile, but I just thought he needed more time. It's hard for me to accept that he's giving up when he acknowledged that he hasn't even tried.
I'm sad for DD. If it were up to me, I feel like we should try our hardest to make this work, for her. But it's not up to me.
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Re: Not the little family I imagined
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Oh honey ((hugs))
Your little girl has an amazing momma who loves her and that is all she needs.
We are here to support you
All of this from me too.
I'm so sorry!
We're always here if you need anything.
You guys are better off without someone who doesn't want to be there, IMO. If all he's providing you with is negative energy, then let him go. It will be hard. I hope you have support where you are that can help you with LO. But as far as your SO goes, you don't someone bringing you down. I hope the love you have for your LO can fill any space in your heart that this arsehole may have left.
Thinking about you. xoxo
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And Coralee, his baby sister...On the way!
I'm sorry!!
And he will be very sorry one day.
A+S | Met 8/24/06 | Married 9/27/08
Started TTC 12/2008 | dx PCOS 5/2009
6 failed clomid/femara/TI cycles, 1 failed clomid/ovidrel/IUI cycle
Successful Cycle: 5/12/11 - 1000mg Metformin + 100mg Clomid(late response) + TI = BFP
2/13/12 - We proudly welcomed our daughter, Hadley Teresa!
Lots of Luck to all of 3T/IF
Thanks everyone. Despite everything I just thought it would work out eventually, but I guess not.
We've been in counseling for a little while, but not very regularly. But he just barely talks when we're there. I don't know how he can't be interested in putting in the effort. It's probably for the best.
I know it's so hard to imagine that now, especially with DD, but it just may be. If he doesn't want to work at a relationship with you, he doesn't know what he will be missing out on with your little family. So sorry, mama.
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BFP 3.8.16 EDD 11.20.16
Hattie,
I am so very sorry for you and your DD. You did everything that you could to make this relationship work. My heart just hurts for you. I'm sure it's hard to see right now but in the long run you will be happier. It's impossible to be happy feeling like you are walking around on eggshells and trying to not let someone else's negative energy rub off on you.
Please know that we are all here for you!
Awww ... I'm so, so sorry this is happening.
Part of me agrees that you should try to make it work, but the other part thinks it's better to just accept it and carry on. Unfortunately, you really can't make him change his mind. He has to do it himself. It's his huge loss and one day, he'll realize it.
We'll be here for you, through thick and thin. {{{{BIG HUGS}}}}
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BFP #2 - 03.16.11, M/C 03.24.11
BFP #1 - 10.17.10, Blighted Ovum dx, M/C 01.09.11
I'm so sorry to hear this. But, I'm sure that years of stress and fighting isn't what you would want either. I hope that you guys can find a way to work this all out in the least stressful way possible. Sending you lots of hugs!
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I'm not around here much anymore, but I popped in today...I am in a similar situation. SO left when I was 5 months pregnant and since DS was born we have been trying to work on things. If you ever need to talk to someone who is going through a very similar situation I am available.
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