Feel like the WORST mom EVER :(

Re: Feel like the WORST mom EVER :(

• dragon_chica member

  August 2012

  I've definitely lost it with both kids.  I think as long as you try to keep your cool more often than losing it you don't have to feel like the worst mom.  It happens, we're human and there's so much we can handle at a time.  Try to take deep breaths and cool down as quickly as possible because they can still sense your agitation.

  Something you need to understand with the LOs is that there will be a million reasons why they won't sleep.  Not tired enough, overtired, teething, growth spurt, gas, hunger, cold, hot, uncomfortable, wet diaper.  You name it they'll have an issue with it.  The best thing you can do is remain consistent with your routines, remain as patient and understanding as possible, and hope for the best.  

  Aside from that, what are things you have tried or the routine you do to prepare LO for bedtime?
  

  

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• cafenoir

  August 2012

  I have definitely growled at him, and said that same phrase. I always feel like a POS afterwards too. My son has not been going to bed until 2 or 3am lately and tries to jump out of my arms and bite me... all while I walk with him since he will not go to sleep any other way. And he won't let DH put him to bed at all either. Tonight went well and I am trying not to get so upset, but I think we all have those moments. It can be so draining (and I am due in Sept with his younger brother, so I think most of my stress is this looming deadline). Don't feel bad, just set him back down and take a moment to gather yourself. That seems to help me.

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• Emerald27 member

  August 2012

  I'm sorry. We all make mistakes, especially when we are frustrated because all we want is what is best for them.

  Not all mamas and not all babies are cut out for CIO. Have you thought about using a different, gentler method of helping him go to sleep? You could try the book The No-Cry Sleep Solution. Remember that all babies are different and have different needs.

  Good luck, mama! 

  
  

  
  

  

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• preggersin2011 member

  August 2012

  The only time I have issues getting LO to sleep is if I miss her ques and she is overtired and cranky. Then there is no way in hell that child is going to bed, it takes over an hour!!! At the first sign of her getting cranky or rubbing her eyes, i have to rush her off to her room with a bottle and then into her crib. She rolls right over and sleeps. Her bed time is anywhere between 7 and 8 depending upon her signs. If I am more than 15 mins late, or miss her signals she is a devil child and will not sleep until well after 9- rocking, laying with mommy, car rides, nothing works!!
  

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• PurpleDrewbie5 member

  August 2012

  Estwd2:

  MRoss1982:

  nemosucksII:

  And it's not the first time. I get so frusterated because it takes him f.o.r.e.v.e.r to go to sleep. I hate letting him CIO but I do and then go in after a few minutes and rock/bounce him. When I am rocking him, he squirms and crys and I get so impatient! I just tell him, "GO TO  FVUCKING SLEEP!!!" he never cries...it's like it doesn't even phase him when I yell this.  I think if he did cry, I would feel even worse.  Does anyone else ever yell at their baby?  I guess I just need to let him CIO rather than just yelling at him, KWIM?

  Wait, you yell swear words at your baby? This has got to be MUD.

  Agreed. First post + Yelling and cursing at baby = MUD 

  I kind of thought that too. I can understand getting frustrated but to the point of using such foul language at a baby?!? I yelled loudly "Why are you crying?" once at my daughter. She cried harder I started bawling. She was 3months old and needed to nurse and hadn't and wouldn't I was hungry and sleep deprived she was hungry. I remember that moment in my mind any time I feel like I might lose control. I told myself that day I would never yell like that again. I may use a firm voice to say no but I will never lose control like that again. 

  Screaming at your baby is never acceptable. It wasn't when I did it and it wasn't when OP did it. Also, clean up your potty mouth or baby will end up with a potty mouth too. If CIO isn't working for you find something different.
  

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• nemosucksII member

  August 2012

  Thank you to most of you who could understand where I am coming from and not judging.  This is not MUD...I wish it was.  My baby doesn't understand what *** means, so I don't feel bad about swearing...I just hate that I raised my voice.  Tonight I was so much better and kept my cool.  I was just having a bad day yesterday and had to vent.  I also have a toddler who keeps me on my toes...so I never really ever get a break.  DH works nights, so I always do everything on my own.  Thanks again to those who did not judge

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• mabst196 member

  August 2012

  I hear you. I've had moments where I've uttered words that I am not proud of in the middle of the night and the baby won't go back to sleep. Know that we all go through it.
  

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