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January 2012 Moms
wychets
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Advice please
wychets
member
I have a "friend" who I went to high school with and we are friends on fb. She posts pics of her DD in her carseat and the chest buckle is way down at the belly button. I really want to say something to her (a inbox message) but I don't want her to get offended or upset with me for "telling her what to do" but we are talking about something REALLY important imho. I started the message and this is what I said "Hey girl!! Just wanted to let you know that (DD's name) chest piece on her carseat should be up by her underarms" but then when I read it back to myself it sounded kind of snarky:() How do you think I should address it?
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Re: Advice please
I think you have to be the judge of your relationship with this person and whether saying something would make a difference, but how about something like: "Hey girl! Your LO is so cute in his carseat! I notice the buckle is really low and I thought they were supposed to be up by their armpits/chest? Don't mean to be nosy, just wanted to mention it - wouldn't want LO to get hurt!"
Those kinds of things are tough, but if you feel like she'll actually take the message as helpful, I'd send it.
UPDATE...I sent her a message her reply "Hey girl, your not being nosey, it's fine. My boyfriend lowered it because he thought it was hurting her but Ill make sure to move it back up before we go out:) Thanks for mentioning it" Deep sighssss!! I am so glad I said something!!!
Thanks for your advice ladies!!!
I liked this up until the last line -- "wouldn't want LO to get hurt!" I'd get defensive about it if I heard that coming from someone. The rest of it was perfect, though.
EDIT: I'm glad it went well.
I am glad you said something. I had a patient today that had a 4 month old. they were getting ready to leave and I saw they had the buckle on the baby's lower abdomen so I showed them how to properly adjust it and explained why.
they had no idea (and this was their 2nd child) and very appreciative. both of the parents were shocked that nobody had ever said anything to them about it--that is how they had LO buckled when the left the hospital as a NB
Yes I didn't include that part because that would open up the flood gates lol.
I am not surprised. If I didn't ask the nurse before we left the hospital sadly I wouldn't have known either. I think that is very important to be educated on before you leave especially as a FTM.
I always thought this was something required to check before leaving the hospital, except I had to ask the nurses at our hospital for help.
However, upon leaving the hospital we went to for our first physical therapy session, the therapist asked that we demonstrate how to strap DS in. We passed.
Our hospital required me to carry DS in my arms as I was wheeled down to leave. We were also required to buckle him in, and noone checked behind us. I think they didn't want liability issues if they told us to do it wrong. Luckily, we went to one of those carseat checks where they went over how to do it properly while I was still pregnant.
I'm glad you messaged your friend, and I'm glad they took your advice well. As much info as there is out there, sometimes the why gets lost and parents get too concerned about making sure LO is comfy instead of safe.