How many sets of godparents?

rinascita · August 2012

I know this might depend on one's personal opinion of what a godparent should be or role they play with a child.

My husband and I were talking, are we going to select one set for both or one for each child? If we weren't having twins, each child would obviously have their own set so I'm thinking we should have one set for each twin.

One of my concerns is that one set of godparents might be closer/do more for one twin than the other. Not so much in the form of gifts or money, but the little things and building the bond (e.g., calling, spending time with them, leaving notes or sending thoughtful cards).

On the flip side, one of my biggest concerns is making sure both of my babies are able to feel like an individual and that we treat them that way. If they each had their own godparents, that is just one thing early in life that is unique for each of them and they don't have to share.

Thoughts or advice? What have ya'll done for your twins or multiples?

KarlsSweetie05 · August 2012

We picked 2 separate sets of godparents for each child.

As you said, if they were singletons, they would each have their own set of godparents.

masked_rose86 · August 2012

We picked two separate sets.....I am kinda wishing we'd chosen a different set for Twin A since I'm not sure they are the type to keep in touch well if/when we move in a year. Who knows though, they might surprise me. The other is my best friend and her husband and I know she is worried about how Twin A will feel since she wants to give birthday gifts etc to twin B as her godchild (since that's what her godparents did). In any case, I got used to my situation having godparents that weren't really involved other than attending milestones in my faith life (baptism, first communion, confirmation) and my brother whose godmother is much more involved in a way (but I'm also really close to this aunt so I know it is her nature). In any case, it may be hard when they are littler, but when they are older they will understand I think..... That said it sure would be similar to have one set of godparents for both

You will be fine regardless what you choose. Having the same godparents isn't going to make them any less of an individual.

ColleenS629 · August 2012

We did one set of godparents for my twins... reason being that we have 3 sisters between DH and me so if we left just one out, it would cause a huge blowout.

Breezy8407 · August 2012

We just had baptism on Sunday

We had a separate set for each. It was easy for me - I have one brother and one sister. H had to leave one sister out, but she is the type that is okay with stuff like that and she is already a godmother to our niece.

CUTigers01 · August 2012

We just had this discussion this weekend. We decided on three sets of godparents. However, we decided that we will make sure each child has one relative and then one of our close friends (we are godparents to their kids). The big debate for us is that we have 4 females who we would want as godmothers but only 2 godfathers. We are thinking of doing one set of just godmothers.

AmyJoy728 · August 2012

We are going through this now.. We picked one set for both, as we don't know that many other catholics to have anyone left to be godparents if we have #3.

cutebride73 · August 2012

We are doing 2 sets - 1 for each. Although, the one set is a married couple - my BFF and her DH. And the other set is a family member from my side and one from MH's. That is the only part I feel slightly strange about - 1 will have a couple as his Godparents and the other won't. That and how to decide who will have which ones.

Mye · August 2012

the same godmother but diff godfathers

bearfootz · August 2012

KarlsSweetie05:

We picked 2 separate sets of godparents for each child.

As you said, if they were singletons, they would each have their own set of godparents.

Same for us. If they were singletons we'd run the risk of having varying degrees of participation by the godparents as well. We stuck with family members, hoping that then they'd remain close and an active part of the LOs' lives. We had a family member from my side and family member from DH's side for each set of godparents.

It just depends on who you have in mind. If you had planned on having them be godparents for all of your children, but I don't see anything wrong with doubling them up now.

KDR1979 · August 2012

Dh's brother is the Godfather for both because there were no other men to choose that we see often enough (other than Dh's cousin who is already Godfather to his sister's child and she is pregnant again and he has another sibling that doesn't have kids yet, so he'll be chosen again for sure by them). My sister (not married) is twin A's Godmother and Dh's sister-in-law is twin B's Godmother.

tarajayne · August 2012

We chose a set for each. DH has a brother and a sister and I have a brother. The other is a close friend.

addison1060 · August 2012

We chose one set for each. DS1 has my sister and BIL and DS2 has DH's brother and sister.

Like you said, if they were singletons, they would each have their own.

hayleydeee · August 2012

We're not doing the godparents thing, but I did want to add that my sister and I both have the same god parents. We're not twins, but it never felt weird to me. If anything it was kind of nice and special to have that in common with her.

mars724 · August 2012

We picked two pairs of god parents for the same reason you said, if we had two singletons, we would have separate godparents.

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