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Fn 'ey DH, that's not fair!!!

bigbearbigbear
in January 2012 Moms

This is obviously a vent and I'm about to leave to pick up DD but I have to let this out real quick or I will explode!

We are a bit tight financially at this time and DH has some old music equipment that's just sitting around in our basement. I told him today how we need to reevaluate a few things and see of additional jobs/options to get more cash quickly.

So he actually brought it up and said that if need be he has some equipment he could sell. I tried to be nice and told him (there was a back and forth convo but in summary) that logically speaking we needed the money, he probably won't be using the equipment much if at all (it's been sitting UNTOUCHED in the basement for about 4 years now) but that I do understand there thare is the sentimental value that I obviously can't speak of, and that I don't want to be the one making the call.

Truth is, he knows it would help us a lot if he sold the things and he wants me to say it but at the same time he's totally pi$sed at me now and said something like

"Oh great, so now you are saying that I'm never to play music again"

WTF! Now I'm the bad guy forcing him to seel his stuff? Not cool!

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Re: Fn 'ey DH, that's not fair!!!

  • PsyDr04PsyDr04 member
    But he was the one that brought it up. Seems to me you were trying to be considerate of his feelings. I don't get why he is mad?
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  • bigbearbigbear
    Yeah exactly Im so confused. He did apologize finally and said he misunderstood ... Hmm
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  • AliW220AliW220 member

    I understand where you're coming from, we are in a similar situation.

    SO was forced out of his job (quit or we will fire you), and I was laid off while on maternity leave, and still trying to get back into the workforce when he lost his job. So we had a month or so of absolutely no income. We had saved up a good chunk of money for my mat leave but never expected BOTH of us to be out of work. We are selling almost everything we can.

    I think SO has been so cooperative about selling sentimental stuff because he feels our situation is mostly his fault - his old company didn't like his attitude... Hes not a cheerful person due to a large amount of pain from a service connected disability... But he can't prove it was the disability that got him fired, and even if he could & wanted to sue, no one would hire him again... Its a whole big catch 22 that he feels is all his fault.

    Just be sensitive how you approach things with your hubby. I offered to take pictures of So's things that he's attached to and make a scrapbook for him.

    Me: 29  DH: 33
    Married April 1st 2017 <3
    DS #1: May 2009 
    DS #2: Jan 2012 

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