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Officially a mom of 2under2

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I am officially a new mom again! I now have 2 under 2. DD#2 was born on 8.2.12 so we now have  at 15m mth old and a 1 dayish old. :) As I am laying here in the hospital bed, one the things DH mentioned he wanted to discuss in the morning is schedules and basically where to begin with having 2 under 2 when we get home.

I think we will  definitely get some support from my parents who live about 20ish minutes away. I have a couple friends who have volunteered to come by but truthfully I may pass on most of them if not all because I honestly believe they just want to socialize with me and see new baby ~ not sure how helpful they will truly want to be. Hard to say. 

I know I have to rest as much as I can. But aside from all that, where do I begin?! Anything you wish you had thought about? Did do? DIdn't do? Or I am sure many have posted similar to this so feel free to point me that direction as well.  

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  • morgs8384morgs8384 member

    I am not there yet, although I  hope to be close behind you!

    DH and I have talked in length about schedules/what we plan to start off doing ( whether or not it works, we will see).  I mainly pumped with DS, so I am hoping to do that if I have issues with nursing.. that being said the morning "wake up" is what I dread the most. The task of getting  DS breakfast ready, coffee going, the dog out, etc will be hard.

    DH will work from home as much as possible, and handle DS #1 while I nurse/pump/feed LO. I plan to do as much as I can with both boys, but when it comes down to feeding LO and DS needing something, I am relying mainly on DH to help him. 

    My mom lives 10 minutes away, I know she will be a big help with meals the first couple weeks, and just overall help while we adjust. Anything I can get set out aside ( DS meals) I will do, I figure some sort of organized chaos will be how we roll for the first couple of months.

    I also have a one day a week out planned. My mom will come over a specific day of the week ( say Tuesdays from 10-1) and that will be my time for grocery shopping/gym/appointments/errands. I may take DS with me to a swim class during that time too... 

    Bottom line, I am a planner, and I know as much as I plan there are just going to be bumps in the road that I can't plan for. Especially since LO isn't here yet, who knows what type of baby/temperament he will have.

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  • ktshafraktshafra member
    I'm not yet there but wanted to say congrats! Also, thanks for posting this question because it'll help me figure things out in the next couple months. :)
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  • SmgrochowskiSmgrochowski member
    Congratulations! No advice, just enjoy. It can be exhausting, but so much fun. My favorite is watching them play together.
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  • LizK507LizK507

    We had a lot of family help but I also had a c/s and couldn't care for DS when DD was born for the first few weeks.

    The best advice I can give you is to be ok with things if they feel insane and out of control sometimes - know that your family will be so incredible as they grow and it's alright if it's really hard at first. It does get easier, I promise. For me, the first 4-6 weeks were REALLY rough. Both DS and I had a really hard time with the fact that I couldn't care for him and I will never forget an epic breakdown where I sobbed to my pediatrician and asked her why anyone would ever have 3 kids (now I'm two days away from delivering #3 - I'll have 3 in just over 3 years).

    Once we adjusted, things got easier by the day. Now, the kids play really well together and they are a single unit - they eat together, play together, bathe together, do bedtime routines together, etc. and they barely know how to function without each other. Seeing them communicate and care for each other makes those early challenges worth it a million times over - I LOVE the relationship they have with each other even at such a young age.

    I had a hard time managing both of them at first b/c I was so used to giving all of my attention to DS and couldn't do that while caring for DD. The first few times I was alone with them (for brief periods), I took them on walks ... it seemed easiest to have them both confined and in a situation where crying was relatively unlikely. Remember that toddlers need their routines and try to keep things as close to the same for your older child as possible ... toddlers also are often better out of the house even though it's a lot of work to get everyone out the door.

    Good luck settling in - congratulations!!!

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