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All these IL issues...

xbrooklyngrlxbrooklyngrl
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you know, I read all these IL issues and I just think, I wish I had my IL's in my life. I wish DD got to see that side of herself, I wish DH got phone calls from his parents asking how we are or wishing him or my DD a happy birthday, merry xmas, etc.

I'm sure they can be a pain in the ass but I'd love to have that in our lives. Just saying.

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  • butterbeansmamabutterbeansmama
    I agree. Although, DH's dad is still alive and we get along with him wonderfully (he just turned 80), his mom has been gone since dh was 18. I would have loved to have met/known her and crave a relationship between her and ds. Sadly, that will never be.
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  • EMTEMT member
    I need to remember that more often!
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  • xbrooklyngrlxbrooklyngrl

    and nobody offer me their MIL, I want my own!

     

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  • joseysbridejoseysbride member

    I agree.  It is way better to have parents who are annoyingly over involved than to have those who you never hear from.  My IL's are over involved, and annoy me at times, but I just roll my eyes and say to myself, "at least they care about us."  Half the time, I don't hear from my own mother for months, and when I do it is usually just because she wants to talk about herself.  It hurts, actually, to have parents like that.

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  • gracendantho26gracendantho26 member

    I'm with you. My kids get to visit their grandma (DH's mom) in a nursing home for people with severe alzheimers. She has no clue who her own son or husband are much less her grandchildren. She has to be fed and has to wear a jumpsuit because otherwise she will undress herself.  She is 71 years old and my husband hasn't really had his mom for many years. My FIL is luckily still alive but he is not in good shape and is suffering from some suspect memory loss as well. I have never had an MIL who actually knew who I am...

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  • ~iLoVeHiM~~iLoVeHiM~

    I feel this way about my H's father. He lives 45 minutes away and he and my husband haven't had a realationship in 13 years. I soo wish my son had a Grandpa. My dad isn't in my life either and it's better that way but I do wish he had an older male figure in his life that he could look up to.

    I personally think that a nice balance would be great. With my MIL it's not just overly involved, it's soooo, soooo much more than that.

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  • MrsStubbsMrsStubbs member
    I am SO greatful for my IL's. They do so much for us and I don't know what I would do without them.
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  • TxGalTxGal
    Awww. So true. They can be annoying, but nice to see they care.
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  • VivaAmoreVivaAmore
    OK - I'm willing to keep my ILs but just PLEEEEEEASE take my DH for a while.
    Mia (6~24~06) & Jillian (6~29~09)
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  • xbrooklyngrlxbrooklyngrl
    LOL T, one is enough for me, I'll gladly take Mia though!
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  • VivaAmoreVivaAmore

    Sorry. She's not up for grabs but I will let her do a sleep over at some point!

     Hmmm, I wonder if I can auction him off on Craigs List for a while..... otherwise I may smother him with his body pillow that insists on finding it's way over to my side of the bed each night.

    Mia (6~24~06) & Jillian (6~29~09)
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  • firefightersgalfirefightersgal member
    I'll box my IL's up and send them to you.  Merry Christmas to you AND to me.  Be careful what you wish for.  :)
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  • elm1032004elm1032004
    imagexbrooklyngrl:

    and nobody offer me their MIL, I want my own!

    And I was going to offer you mine.........

    I try to remember that we are lucky to have DH's parents in our lives even when MIL is driving me crazy......it doesn't always work but I try....

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