Baby Showers
Shower or no?
Ladies, I am pregnant with my third son. I am having a hard time decide whether or not I should have another baby shower. My first son is now four and when his father and I split he took everything I had for my son. My second son is now two and when we moved out of state, we gave my husbands friend everything for their little boy, not expecting to get pregnant again. Well now here comes baby boy three and I have nothing. I believe I have a box of 0-3 month clothing and some receiving blankets.
I just feel weird about having another baby shower. I come from a family where you have one per sex and keep everything for hammy downs so I'm not sure what I should do.. Please give me some advice! Thanks! 
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Re: Shower or no?
This exactly
Agreed, except if you want to register for the coupon, I see no problem with that, just don't tell anyone about the registry.
"Hammy downs?" FFS.
No, you need to buy sh!t for your own kid. It's not your friends' and relatives' responsibility to outfit him.
And were you planning on throwing this for yourself? That's just begging for charity.
no shower. it is not your friends prob that you have nothing. Buy your own stuff. It is not like your first 2 kids are way older then this baby. I am sure some friends will buy you something on their own but should not be asked to by being invited to another shower.
Ummm...yes, you should feel weird about having another shower since your youngest is only 2. Who in the heck would you invite if your family thinks that showers are only given if there are different gender babies. Since your's are all boys they most likely won't offer you a shower and probably wouldn't come if invited to one.
Not a smart idea to give all your stuff away if yout DS was only 2 (or less). Things happen (like unexpected pregnancies). It is time to start buying what you need for the new addition...check out Moms to Moms sales, resale shops, garage sales, GoodWill, Salvation Army and hit up your friends for hand me downs.
If someone offers to throw you a shower make it very small. People will get you mostly diapers and clothes. They are not going to get you items like bounce seats, high chairs, carseat, baby swings, etc. because they are too costly.
Not sure if you are thinking of hosting your own shower but if so - that is the height of tackiness. Don't do it!!
Oh sh!t. Thanks for the laugh..."hammy downs."
Shower--fluck no. Not acceptable by any stretch. Go ahead and register though for the completion coupon, IMO. You could even make it private.
But seriously--"hammy downs."
Dying.
Thank you for handling that for the rest of us.
I'm going to give her the benefit of the doubt that "hand me downs" autocorrected to "Hammy downs" (which is awesome).
However, no shower.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
All of this. Except I would probably decline a shower if offered.
Also, hammy downs? Hilarious.
Wow! I didn't think it mattered how I spelt it. I wasn't asking for people to just hand me things. Jeez you guys make me out like I'm a bad person... lol.
Anyways, thanks for the advice. I wasn't planning on having one anyways.
Unfortunately, no auto correct. WOW.
It only matters if you like to spell things correctly. If that doesn't concern you, then no, it doesn't matter.
Wow I am very shocked at the nasty attitudes of the mothers on this board. I am pregnant with my 4th child, my youngest being 3 and I am having another shower. Im not doing it so I can get gifts I am doing it so that my family and friends can celebrate the new life that is coming in to this world. I am not throwing it for myself BUT if someone wasn't throwing one for me I would throw it. I am not registering for major things but I will most likely register for the smaller things that I need. Oh and I am not poor. When a friend has a birthday dont you get them a card of a gift??? Why wouldnt you buy your friends baby a gift in celebration??? I have friends that have more than one child and they just had or plan on having more babies and I am going to all of their showers not because they want gifts but because they are my friends and I love them.
I guess all of the women that responded have family and friends that dont care about their new children and 1st babies are the only ones that deserve celebration. This really makes me sad that people would talk to another mother the way these women have talked to you ddailey0689. I have been on 3 message boards with my other kids and I NEVER have seen such rude people in my life. I will not be staying around here. You all should be ashamed of yourselves.
Hahaha. Yeah, this is NOT the place for you. You'd be much better off at babygaga.com or some such. You know, Puppies and Rainbows Lane.
People who throw their own showers and register for their FOURTH kid should REALLY be ashamed of themselves.
It's amazing that two people with one post only think having a shower for baby 3+ is a great idea. This is a complete coincidence.
Also, do you think these boots were hammy downs?
yes, because that's the way to make new friends.
Hi, I know I just met you but can you throw me a party?!
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
This. You can make a registery and keep it private to get the coupons.
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Do you register for your birthday? Ask people to bring you "50 Shades of Grey" instead of a card?
I know it may be shocking to you, but I have purchased gifts for babies without having been invited to a shower. You can and all of the friends and family who love your new child(ren) can too.
For the love of all things holy, please ladies.... if you learn nothing from this board, please take this one item of advice with you.
BABY SHOWERS ARE NOT FOR BABIES. THEY ARE FOR FIRST TIME MOTHERS - TO SHOWER HER WITH GIFTS AND WELCOME HER TO MOTHER HOOD.
You can only welcome someone to motherhood once. After that, she is already a mother.
You can and should celebrate all babies, but not with a shower. Do you know why?
BECAUSE THE BABY SHOUDL BE AT THE CELEBRATION!
Thank you, that is all.