a pet peeve...

Recently I've noticed a lot of articles online regarding adoption.  Something that really bother's me is that most of them refer to the birth mother's choice as "giving up" the baby for adoption.  It's become a pet peeve of mine.  Even with all that we've been through and my desperate desire to have a baby in my arms, I still feel that birth mothers who place their child into an adoptive home is giving that child the greatest gift that they ever could!  "Giving up" makes it sound like the mother doesn't care about the child, when in most cases, I feel, they place the baby because they DO care tremendously.  Since our loss, I've actually felt a little bit of connection to birth mother's who place their baby in adoptive homes.  Like me, for months they carried this baby and developed a bond with him/her.  And then they have to let go of that bond to do what's best for the child in spite of their own feelings.  Obviously, we had no choice but to let go, but I feel like the feelings of loss and grieving would be similar.  Maybe I'm way off base, but I just hate hearing that term.  There's not really any point to this post.  I just wanted to share my feelings on this.