How would you have responded to this comment? NPR

LILBIT1221 · August 2012

My exH sent me a pic of a pic of our DD. They had family pics done & so he wanted me to see a really good one of her. So one of the women in my office said "ooh let me see" (*she is new here - 3mos or so, I was showing a co-worker who actually knows my DD) So I showed her the picture and her exact words were "Oh, she is the reason old men go after little girls" WTAF IS THAT? Who says that? I just blinked a couple times & walked away. I am still speechless over this one.

gingerfamily · August 2012

Hell yes I would have responded, told her she was out of line and probably some choice words. I mean really... who says that?!????

LILBIT1221 · August 2012

BayleighPaws:
I believe I would have responded with a cooter-punch. That is beyond not apropriate.

I am trying to tell myself that it's because she doesn't have kids, and that somewhere in her mind she might have thought it was a compliment, it's making me sick to my stomach.

Stasi · August 2012

Out loud I would have said, "I'm not sure what you mean by that?" and waited for a response..

In my head I would be saying, "what the fluck are you talking about??!!"

hmp1 · August 2012

I probably would have laughed and said "that's not inappropriate at all" in a very sarcastic tone. Crazy biitch.

ewiedman · August 2012

BayleighPaws:
I believe I would have responded with a cooter-punch. That is beyond not apropriate.

Yes

linzeek44 · August 2012

Stasi:
Out loud I would have said, "I'm not sure what you mean by that?" and waited for a response..
In my head I would be saying, "what the fluck are you talking about??!!"

This would have been me, too.

jbBeans · August 2012

uuuum yeah, that's fcked up. I probably also would have been too stunned to say anything.

LILBIT1221 · August 2012

hmp&mrj:
I probably would have laughed and said "that's not inappropriate at all" in a very sarcastic tone. Crazy biitch.

My boss said she has never seen me angered into silence before. Angry

skyejo · August 2012

hmp&mrj:
I probably would have laughed and said "that's not inappropriate at all" in a very sarcastic tone. Crazy biitch.

She would be hearing the same thing from me too.

What an effed up thing to say.

ifwisheswerefishes · August 2012

i would have been the furthest thing from nice.

i probably would have really had to hold back from punching her, and i know for a fact i would have told her that is NOT appropriate.

senorita04 · August 2012

Way to encourage pedophilia. That comment was so not okay on so many levels. I don't even know how I would have responded if it were me.

Shazzie116 · August 2012

Manx4 · August 2012

I'm speechless...

blindvictory · August 2012

Um, I'm pretty sure old men go after little girls because they're mentally depraved psychopaths. That comment would've really bothered me for two reasons: one, it makes it sound like it's somehow a kid's fault if a pedophile is attracted to them and two, that's just freaking WEIRD to say to someone.

mscheevus · August 2012

WTF was she implying!? I don't understand the logic of her statement. I'm pretty confrontational, but that I have no words for, speechless.

melody921 · August 2012

EWWWWWW.

I probably would have been just as stunned into speechlessness as you. But if I could recover words, I would have had to say something along the lines of
"No, actually old men who go after young girls are perverts. It has everything to do with their twisted minds and shriveled di*ks and nothing to do with whether a child is cute."

Jams1002 · August 2012

Wow. That is beyond innappropriate. I'd like to think I would have said something like, "um, that was uncalled for." but I probably would have been too stunned!

LILBIT1221 · August 2012

I guess it's too late now, I keep sitting here stewing over this.

jocymama · August 2012

Manx4:
I'm speechless...

This

amanda2424 · August 2012

What a creepy thing to say! I would have also been left speechless.

BostonDble · August 2012

I would of punched her, and I am not a violent person and I would of punched her. I am so sorry sweetie.

numb3rMel · August 2012

LILBIT1221:
I guess it's too late now, I keep sitting here stewing over this.

F that! Its not too Kate to tell the woman how wrong that was. My stomach turns for you. No witty comment from me. I don't offend easily but that would be crossing a major line for me. Now I'm re-thinking my ugly baby FFFC.

edit: I'm still fuming! How dare that woman! I'm so sorry that anyone could be so tackless.

kcalpin · August 2012

BayleighPaws:
I believe I would have responded with a cooter-punch. That is beyond not apropriate.

Hysterical! I seriously would have said, "what the f* is that supposed to mean!?!" You're pregnant, let the crazy fly.

LILBIT1221 · August 2012

numb3rMel:
LILBIT1221:
I guess it's too late now, I keep sitting here stewing over this.
F that! Its not too Kate to tell the woman how wrong that was. My stomach turns for you. No witty comment from me. I don't offend easily but that would be crossing a major line for me. Now I'm re-thinking my ugly baby FFFC.

I was thinking about just sending her a simple email that said "Just for the record, I feel that your comment about my daughter was completely uncalled for." I would say something to her face, but I am afraid that my hormonal self will start crying.

EGMphoto · August 2012

That is SO bizarre. She does not sound like she's the sharpest knife in the drawer.

3monkeysmama · August 2012

I would have absolutly looked at her and ask her what the helll that was supposed to mean, and called her out on her inappropriate comment.

numb3rMel · August 2012

LILBIT1221:
numb3rMel:
LILBIT1221:
I guess it's too late now, I keep sitting here stewing over this.
F that! Its not too late to tell the woman how wrong that was. My stomach turns for you. No witty comment from me. I don't offend easily but that would be crossing a major line for me. Now I'm re-thinking my ugly baby FFFC.
I was thinking about just sending her a simple email that said "Just for the record, I feel that your comment about my daughter was completely uncalled for." I would say something to her face, but I am afraid that my hormonal self will start crying.

I encourage this! hugs sweet.

alice2Bcheshire · August 2012

I would have been just as stunned into silence as you. What the actualfuck?

GeorgiaYankee · August 2012

What the...

I would love to think I'd have some kind of horribly sarcastic and biting response that would embarrass the crap outta her, but I'm sure I would've been speechless, too.

on_a_whim · August 2012

Wow.

I would have asked her what socially inept hole she crawled out of, then would have proceeded to poke her in the eyeball.

What a douchecanoe.

LILBIT1221 · August 2012

Because they monitor our emails, I sent one to my office manager first. I let her know that the more I sit here with this on my mind, the more it is upsetting me. She said that she is sure that she meant nothing by it & that she most likely meant it as my DD was very pretty for her age. She also reminded me that the co-worker doesn't have kids. She doesn't have kids & she doesn't have any class. It's a good thing it's Friday.

LILBIT1221 · August 2012

numb3rMel:
LILBIT1221:
numb3rMel:
LILBIT1221:
I guess it's too late now, I keep sitting here stewing over this.
F that! Its not too late to tell the woman how wrong that was. My stomach turns for you. No witty comment from me. I don't offend easily but that would be crossing a major line for me. Now I'm re-thinking my ugly baby FFFC.
I was thinking about just sending her a simple email that said "Just for the record, I feel that your comment about my daughter was completely uncalled for." I would say something to her face, but I am afraid that my hormonal self will start crying.
I encourage this! hugs sweet.

I meant to quote you in that last one. Thanks. ?

jlh2716 · August 2012

I definitely would've given her a wtf look. And probably asked her that, too. Ew. Who thinks about *** like that, much less says it (well, aside from a pedophile, that is)? *Shiver*

MeatballEsq · August 2012

blindvictory:
Um, I'm pretty sure old men go after little girls because they're mentally depraved psychopaths. That comment would've really bothered me for two reasons: one, it makes it sound like it's somehow a kid's fault if a pedophile is attracted to them and two, that's just freaking WEIRD to say to someone.

I second this. That's insane. I do think you should email her though LB.

LILBIT1221 · August 2012

tonir319:

blindvictory:
Um, I'm pretty sure old men go after little girls because they're mentally depraved psychopaths. That comment would've really bothered me for two reasons: one, it makes it sound like it's somehow a kid's fault if a pedophile is attracted to them and two, that's just freaking WEIRD to say to someone.

I second this. That's insane. I do think you should email her though LB.

I was going to, but emails can get you fired 'round here. I was hoping that by me emailing my office manager that she would take it further. I was wrong. I am afraid to take it any further because I don't want to get in trouble when it was blown off as NBD. Does that make sense?

MeatballEsq · August 2012

LILBIT1221:
tonir319:

blindvictory:
Um, I'm pretty sure old men go after little girls because they're mentally depraved psychopaths. That comment would've really bothered me for two reasons: one, it makes it sound like it's somehow a kid's fault if a pedophile is attracted to them and two, that's just freaking WEIRD to say to someone.

I second this. That's insane. I do think you should email her though LB.
I was going to, but emails can get you fired 'round here. I was hoping that by me emailing my office manager that she would take it further. I was wrong. I am afraid to take it any further because I don't want to get in trouble when it was blown off as NBD. Does that make sense?

Yeah that makes sense. Obviously it's not worth losing your job over. It was just completely out of line and disturbing, so hopefully you'd be able to feel a little better about it after letting her know exactly how and why it was such a disturbing comment. Hopefully, not seeing her until Monday will help with that though.