Not finding out the gender

SouthernMom70 · August 2012

Is anybody else going to let the gender be a surprise?

I have a friend who did this with her last two (she has 3 total) and I thought it was so fun. Since I'll end up having a scheduled C-section, I guess I just want something to be a surprise.

With my first, we were totally type A - found out the gender as soon as we could, decorated the nursery, the whole thing. I want to go a whole different route this time.

My husband isn't 100 percent on-board yet. My big anatomy ultrasound will be in about a month. Hopefully he'll come around to my way of thinking before then. :-)

leffe1 · August 2012

We didn't find out with our 1st but did with the 2nd. I think it's better not to know at times. It gives a surprise element.

reb562 · August 2012

I'm going to find out but both my DH and are thinking of not telling anybody else. Just keeping it for "us" I sort of purchased everthing yellow/blue/white because personally blue is MY favorite color and thought yellow/white will offset the blue if it's a girl. I don't plan to change my color scheme or nursery because I'm having a boy or girl.

Everybody that knows me has seen my colors, so they know I'm not going to change it.

Becareful, I knew a couple that didn't want to know and the nurse 'spilled it' during one of there doctor's appointments and they were upset...so just fyi.

GHBEA · August 2012

I didn't find out with the first two but did with my last two pregnancies.

verybusymomto4 · August 2012

I HAD to know! The suspense was killing me lol I wanted to go shopping, decorate etc.

kristin7701 · August 2012

We're not finding out! I thought for sure we'd find out this time (didn't for the first; did for the second but didn't tell anyone) but our 6 year old wanted it to be a surprise. I'm excited for another surprise, although we are pretty sure it's another boy. I would be truly shocked if it's a girl.

jg1011 · August 2012

We are not finding out. This is our first and we feel it's one of the few surprises left in life.

Like you, we are a scheduled c-section. My DH feels that for 9 months I've had most of the "fun".... Attention, questions, feeling baby, showers, etc. he said walking into family waiting room to announce "It's a ..." is his big moment...Lol.

I will say, it's not easy,,, finding gender neutral bedding was tough! And there is that type A planner in me at just wants to know! But I know that day in Nov will be worth the wait!

Jessica Swanlake · August 2012

We did not find out with our first LO, found out with our second, and this one is a split- I found out but my husband did not want to know, so I am keeping it mum. We could not decide on names, so I wanted to know what gender we *really* had to worry about. Also, I am cool with a gender neutral nursery, but I wanted to get gender specific clothes- you can only take so many yellow duckies and green froggie onsies before just wanting to die.

monica92603 · August 2012

We haven't found out the gender w/ any of my pregnancies. This is the only one that I *would* have found out, but H didn't want to so team green it is! Most people are like WOW that's great and others think it is so stupid we won't find out and it's an inconvenience to them in some way. Whatever!

zareenNFO · August 2012

If you're considering not finding out if it's a girl or boy, you should know about an online baby registry that may help you with that decision. It's called NotFindingOut. All their items are paired into girl and boy counterparts. It helps with the planning when you're not finding out. You can register for the items you want, you just don't know whether you'll receive the girl or boy version. Once your baby is born, the gender-specific gifts are shipped to you right away so you are equipped with gender-specific items. It's fun to have some gender neutral and some gender-specific goods when you're not finding out so this registry lets you do both! For baby showers, anyone who buys you an NFO gift will bring a wrapped Preview Card that shows the item purchased for you in both the girl and boy version so that you can see what they bought you but not have the surprise ruined. No one finds out what the baby is until it's born. VERY FUN!

elizabethnseanny · August 2012

My husband just said he wants to keep it a surprise...I think there is enough to worry about that can't be planned! We will see!

maiatene · August 2012

This is my first child and I have no interest whatsoever in finding out the sex before they pop out... which is weird bc I HATE!!!! surprises and usually need to know everything lol

All I care about is my baby being healthy and happy. I never thought I would have children because I dont really like them so the fact that I am pregnant is gift enough for me. I even thought about having a gender reveal party but I figured if I can wait so can the rest of the world. When people ask what I'm having I say a human and that usually shuts them up quickly ;-)

LorMor · August 2012

I don't want to know, and my DH and I sort of discussed it before the 13 week scan, but didn't really decide, because we didn't expect to be able to find out then. At the scan the tech offered to tell us, and I said No. Then, as we were leaving, DH said that he had to know. So he found out.

29 weeks along, and I still don't know and he does. Nobody knows that he knows. He's very happy knowing, and he's good at keeping the secret, and I'm very happy not knowing.

People's reactions are weird though - as PPs have said - it's like we're inconveniencing THEM by not knowing. But a lot of people do also like the idea of not knowing.

footnotegirl · August 2012

We asked our ultrasound tech to put the gender in an envelope and then gave it to the baker who made the cakes or our baby shower. We all (family, friends, and us!) found out at the same time when we cut into the cake and pulled out a big pink slice. That way it was a still a surprise, but we were able to get used to being about to have a daughter for the last few weeks of the pregnancy.

It also meant that we got a lot of gender neutral stuff at the shower, instead of being swamped with pink and girly everything, which we were very happy about.

SouthernMom70 · August 2012

zareenNFO:
If you're considering not finding out if it's a girl or boy, you should know about an online baby registry that may help you with that decision. It's called NotFindingOut....

This sounds very cool - I'm definitely going to check it out.

For all of those who talked about other people acting like the decision not to find out is an inconvenience to them - I totally know what you mean. My mom has been trying to convince me for weeks to find out as soon as I can. It's driving her crazy! :-)

But I'm holding strong!

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