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March 2013 Moms
ann_jeremiah
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Anything you hope doesn't happen again??
ann_jeremiah
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From your last pregnancy or birth, is there anything you're hoping doesn't happen again?
DS1 -6/25/11
DS2 -3/23/13
Missed MC D&C 8/26/14
DD - 8/26/15
LO#4 due 5/30/17
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Re: Anything you hope doesn't happen again??
Might be a Debbie Downer here, but my first thought was a miscarriage. That's the thing from my last pregnancy I hope doesn't happen again.
BFP 4/18/12, M/C 4/27/12 at 6w6d
BFP 7/1/12 - Counting down to our little girl, EDD 3/8/13
BFP #1: 9-20-2010 EDD: 5-25-2011 DD #1 born: 5-23-2011
BFP #2: 6-14-2012 EDD: 2-15-2013 MC: 6-19-2012 5w5d
BFP #3: 7-18-2012 EDD: 3-26-2012
Aside from the obvious two m/c, pre-term labor, and 8 weeks of bedrest:
Extreme swelling from week 20 on. Last time, I was due in Sept, and as I teach, I didn't have to wear anything but flip flops after the first week of June, so it wasn't a huge deal. This time, if I am able to work up to my due date, I have NO idea what I will do for shoes.
My spinal didn't take for my c/s and I had to be knocked out. My OB and I are going to aggressively make sure that doesn't happen again.
I had terrible sciatica for about 5 weeks during my second tri.
Honestly, everything else, I can live with and will embrace. The fatigue, sleeplessness, going to the bathroom every freaking 20 mins at the end, overall discomfort, bring it on. As long as I have my baby at the end.
Besides the obvious with m/c...
- being put on false bedrest at 18 weeks for 4 and a half weeks for something I didn't have sucked. I ended up switching OBs over the whole ordeal.
- having borderline gestational diabetes (diet/exercise controlled). I was over on my 1h by a few points and over on my 1&3h draws by a few points - others were fine. Bonus though was I only gained 17lbs total for the pregnancy (average height/weight).
- having the WORST overnight nurses during L&D. I asked to not be bothered about pain meds, I knew they were there if I needed it - they constantly asked, reminded me there's no medal for going natural, etc. One nurse traded me off and signed my paperwork that I didn't speak English (the nurses who I had for delivery were AWESOME and one was like, "Apparently you picked up English overnight, congrats!").
Socializing foster puppies since 2009
Chart for TTC#2
aside from m/c, and aside from hoping for no m/s which already did not come true
Last time my feet swelled like crazy the last few weeks. It was November, so I could still get away with wearing sandals. I have no idea what I will do if this happens again this time since it will be March. I may have to go buy new shoes.
I hope my epi doesn't wear off during labor and have to be re-tapped again. Also, hoping for labor shorter than 19 hours. Hoping the chord isn't wrapped around LOs neck like DD.
BFP #2 - MC Aug 2012 - D&C w/ complications
My pregnancy was perfect... no problems until the end..
I swelled up like a beach ball.. everywhere!
The last month of my pregnancy every other time I went in I had high blood pressure.. I'd have to pee in the cup to check for protein (pre-e) the first time there was nothing. The second time they checked, they said they'd call if they found anything.. and didn't call! I was also told throughout my pregnancy and at that appt that most first time mom's go late... I went into labor the next day. I was in labor at home for at least 6 hours before going in. and at the hospital I was in labor 23 hours and 42 minutes before DS was born. I think I would have been sent home if I didn't have the pre-e. I was put on pitocin... I had my water broken.. Once I FINALLY got to 4 centimeters the doctor told me that I should have an epidural now, because of my risk of seizures by having pre-e (I really had hoped not to have an epi). I pushed for three hours and my son ended up being born with use of a vacuum and a nurse pushing on the top of my belly. DS came out with the umbilical cord around his neck and had passed meconium, so he was taken right away to be checked out. DH almost passed out when DS came out (claimed it was from not eating much during the day!).
When DS was taken out of the room.. everyone left too, but the one nurse who had to clean the blood that was literally on the walls - the vacuum had come off DS head twice... I laid there crying thinking I could never do this again.
I know all of this was unlikely to happen to begin with... and unlikely to happen a second time, but I worry that it will... Over the last 13 months - I have convinced myself that it wasn't as bad as I initially thought.. but I really was traumatized.
DS1 -6/25/11
DS2 -3/23/13
Missed MC D&C 8/26/14
DD - 8/26/15
LO#4 due 5/30/17
I had some crazy undiagnosed pains in my first pregnancy. From all my reading and various responses, I think it was gallstones, but I was on medicaid (unexpected loss of insurance, ugh) and at a crappy clinic (3rd trimester, nobody else would touch me) and the doctor never listened to me. All he told me to do was take Tums. In pain, for HOURS almost every night until I vomited up pure stomach acid, and even then it only took the edge off until morning. I lost 4lbs in week 37 and still all he said was "take Tums". I finally went to the hospital for it (as I said, I was on pregnancy only medicaid, so I wasn't even sure if it would be covered, which is why I hesitated) and ended up in labor that night.
I really, really hated that clinic. I had swollen calves and face and my blood pressure was way higher than my "normal" (but still just within the normal range) and I had trace amounts of protein at my 38 week appointment, but the doctor shrugged all THAT off as well. Just glad I went into labor on my own 3 days later.
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Last time I had high BP and they almost had to induce me. I'm worried that if my BP goes up again this time , it could impact our hopes for a home birth!
I'd like to avoid the hospital at all costs this go around !
Other than that , my last pregnancy was pretty good ! OOH! I forgot the lava heartburn round the clock.
Married to J since 5/05, Mommy to T (10/08), L (08/10) and C (02/13) who was born at home.
I'd really love to make it to full term this time. A full term sticky baby would be perfect to me. Bring on everything else.
And I will NOT be accepting the demerol again, although I think I'm having a RCS, so it shouldn't matter. I would strongly encourage other people to not take it without researching it first, either.
BFP(4) DD2 born 2.14.13 @ 35w5d due to pPROM
Oh I'll agree with this too.
I gained too much weight, and kept most of it around
I had a pretty great experience. I labored at home for a long time, got to the hospital and had DD drug free under an hour later.
The main thing I am hoping doesn't happen again is this crazy rib pain I had the whole time I was pregnant. The doctors never figured out what it was but it was gone as soon as she was born. It felt like I was being stabbed with a knife in the ribs for 8 months. So pleasant.
I also had some crazy hip pain during the end of labor that might convince me to get an epidural if it happens again. We'll see.
I would prefer to make it full term!! DS was an IUGR baby and thankfully he was very healthy at 36 weeks, but I spent the last two months of my pregnancy worried about him.
Also, no bleeding! I had a bleeding scare last time at 8 weeks and it was so scary!
This is what happened to me when I was born (mom was 42 weeks). They had to rush her back for an emergency c section. They said it was very dangerous. So glad your LO is fine!
I had a really easy pregnancy, labor and delivery, and recovery last time. So if everything turned out the same, I'd be very happy.
Actually, now that I think about it, after I delivered I had the scariest, most painful hemorrhoids ever. Yeah, I could definitely do without those!
Can I ask what is wrong with Demerol? Not being snarky, honestly curious!
My first pg was pretty easy, overall. I hope I don't gain as much weight this time, though. And a non-posterior baby would be nice.
Mostly, though, I'm worried about PPA. I had it pretty bad with DD right after she was born. I'm hoping it doesn't happen again, but also making sure I have plenty of resources available in case it does.
Twin boys born too early at 17w4d and 18w2d in February 2010
Transabdominal cerclage placed September 2010
DS born at 35w1d in February 2011
Twin girls born at exactly 36w in February 2013
THIS!!! And no PPD this time. :-(
I had a pretty easy pregnancy last time, but while we're wishing:
- Carpal tunnel! So weird, I never had it before, but when I was pregnant last time I had two "attacks" of it in my left hand. Each time it lasted for 4 days and my the skin on my fingers started dying and peeling. I was so worried it would continue!
- And partial placenta previa. We had a scare around 20 weeks with spotting. Turned out my placenta was partially growing over my cervix. It turned out totally fine, but it was very nerve wracking.
No PPA
not induced
no forceps
Oh my goodness Ann! I almost cried reading your story. I hope you have a blissful, easy labor and delivery this time. You deserve it.
I've had #2-4 at home because I HATED my hospital experience with #1. My water broke spontaneously, and no one gave me a chance to go into labor. I had 3 different nurses in the first 7 hours. No one listened when I said NO pain meds, they came in every half hour or so to ask if I was ready for it. They were NO help whatsoever with my hopes for a natural delivery and when they didn't make me stay in the bed (to administer the cervical gel), they were like "well, you can take a shower I guess" which did NOT help. My bed rocked back and forth and no one would try to fix it, so I ended up horribly nauseous (oooooh I get such bad motion sickness). I finally begged for the epidural after 7 hours because I just wanted my stomach to be numb. If I had know they had stuff like Zofran back then, I would have just asked for that. They od'd me on the cervical gel (gave me twice as much in less than half the time they should have) and they wanted to add pitocin a full 13 hours sooner than they were supposed to. I told them "over my dead body" for the pitocin. The epidural made my baby's hb drop to the 70's repeatedly and lowered my bp quite a bit (I'm a low bp kinda girl anyway, so that was not fun). My 4th nurse that I had for the last 4 hours was really awesome. The doctor was the biggest jerk ever though. He cut me (episiotomy) even though I had asked not to be cut. He didn't ask, he just announced, and it literally had only taken maybe 5 minutes for him to be born. Dh said he was 100% certain I did NOT need it. The stupid doctor also blocked the mirror so I couldn't see a thing. He was just rude rude rude. Not long after the birth, my poor dh passed out from exhaustion leaving me with my abusive mother. She took the baby and cuddled up on the couch for a 2 hour nap. I barely held my son for the first few hours. Then when we finally got transferred to the recovery floor, they made us leave him in the bedside warmer for over an hour. I was DYING inside, looking at my baby and just wanting to hold him, but no one would let me. And their stupid warmer didn't work. It kept beeping furiously, and we'd wait and wait for someone to come check and make sure everything was ok, but they would take forever. I finally went out in the hallway and yelled at them (and I am NOT that person). I finally got to hold my son, but he was uninterested in nursing. And the nurse in charge of us was NOT ok with that. She kept pushing formula on us, and finally the LC on the floor overheard and told her to back off. She checked ds's blood sugar and he was fine. After the LC left, the mean nurse brought by a sugar water bottle and told us if we refused formula we had to give him that. Finally, 14h after birth, my grandmother got him to take ONE suck on the bottle and I demanded he be given back to me. He finally nursed. It was just a horrific, miserable experience. I decided I'd rather give birth behind a bush than ever go through that again.
#2's birth was as close to perfect as one can get, except my mother was there. She was fine the day of the birth, but the day after (dh HAD to work, brand new job), she screamed at me allllll day because my house was a mess. Um, duh, I just gave birth 24 hours ago. Wretched woman. My father flew up a few days later and gave me crap about giving birth at home. My husband had to put him in his place.
#3's birth was loooooooong (4 days!), but it was awesome too. Dh worked up until the last 2 1/2 hours. I labored at home with the kids, and it was hard, but great. It was so perfect not having my mother around. We ended up texting them a picture later on after the birth and they came for a short visit. MUCH better than having them there for longer. He was posterior too, so YAY back labor!
#4 was perfect again. My water broke again before contractions, but I knew better this time. Contractions didn't start until about 20 hours after my water broke, and she was born 4ish hours later. It was nice. I got up after the placenta delivered (mine takes about an hour unaided) and made breakfast for everyone. The only thing that sucked with that pregnancy was that I was STUPID and did push ups in the end of the second tri and pulled something. Then I was swollen down there for the rest of the pregnancy (boy it was ugly). Then she was also laying just right that she was compressing a nerve (after some research I determined it was the obturator nerve, it wasn't sciatic). Sometimes when I was walking, my leg would just freeze. That was fun. I just could NOT move. But all in all, it wasn't that bad. It hurt a lot, but for a "complication" it was really low grade.
My last two both had their hand in their faces. That would be fun to not have this time.
Oh, and I know that the episiotomy the doctor gave me with my first was not necessary because #4 was 15oz bigger than #1, and I have never ever torn or anything. You'd think if it was necessary, I'd need repair after birth each time.
I can't really complain about anything else. It ended in a c/s and obviously I don't want that again but I know a VBAC isn't possible for me so I have to deal.
I hope my epidural works great but doesn't cause baby's heart rate to dip. I was also Tachy and had high BP after my last delivery that scared me. Couldn't get any sleep because they were checking my BP constantly. Both times, my water broke and I didn't go into labor, so I had to be induced. I would love to just start contracting and labor at home for awhile.
I was totally unprepared and unresearched because I had 1 more week of work before taking a long mat leave (I had time to use).
I think my labor was not right - something was obviously wrong and my body needed to get DD out. At one point the nurse looked at the monitor and said "is she having contractions every 20 seconds?!??"
Anyway, I was in terrible pain and had no relief from contrax. The nurse offered the demerol and I said okay because I was miserable, however I knew that I'd have a c/s since DD was breech.
It made me woozy and drugged. Sure, the contax were easier to deal with, but I had to keep my eyes closed since every time I opened them everything swam in front of me and it made me feel sick.
DD's 1st APGAR was also a 3 (I think, it was LOW) and even though her 2nd was an 8/9 (I forget), I can't help but think that the demerol played a part in that low 1st one since it was administered through IV and she got some, too.
Sorry so late to reply, I didn't see this until now.
BFP(4) DD2 born 2.14.13 @ 35w5d due to pPROM
Unless you want to be freaked out, don't read this, haha!
I really hope that this one doesn't take 4 hours of pushing (after 12 hours of labor) to get out. I also hope that my placenta stays intact and the doctor doesn't have to go elbow deep into my uterus for thirty minutes fishing the pieces out while my epidural is wearing off. Worst. Pain. Ever. I also lost a lot of blood because it took so long.