awkward name situation - WWYD?

ShopperKristi · August 2012

So tonight I went to a coworker's baby shower (she works in a different office, but we have a small group of staff). When I get to the shower I find out that she picked out one of the names we planned on using for her baby! We, on the other hand, have not told anyone (except my step-daughter) the names we picked so it isn't like she 'stole it' or anything but now I feel like it will be super awkward if we use that name! We are due the same week and everything! I'm not sure what to do and am super bummed!! I felt like an idiot but I cried the whole way home and now I wish we would have told everyone our names the minute we decided. What would you do? Use the name anyway? Consider other options? Since I would be the second one to 'announce' the name I feel like there would be a ton of gossip about how I used "her" baby name even though we've planned on that name for months! Gah!

Teresa and Family · August 2012

I would still use it. Unless you had multiple names and it was just on the list.

blindvictory · August 2012

I would use the name anyhow. I mean honestly, does it matter all that much in the grand scheme of things? It's the name you wanted, so go for it. Unless your kids are going to be playing together non-stop to where it could get confusing, I wouldn't let it bother me that she chose the same name. As for people thinking you "stole" her name...I wouldn't let that bother me, either.

TAGSL710 · August 2012

The only ones that *might* care are a few co-workers. Not a big deal at all in my opinion.

AlinnJo · August 2012

I agree with the others. If you really love it, stick with it! Who cares what anyone else thinks!

linzeek44 · August 2012

I'd use it. If it were my sister's kid or something, I wouldn't. But a coworker- no problem.

CdnFarmGirl08 · August 2012

I'd say use it.

A woman in my church just had her baby and she used one of the names on my list. My first thought was "that sucks, now I have to convince my DH of another name". Then I realized that our kids will never play together (except if they end up in the same school) and I never talk to this lady so I don't really care.

hmp1 · August 2012

Co-workers are not forever (like family). Use the name and don't worry about it. If I worked with you both, unless it is super original name that I had never heard of, I would never think you "stole" her name. When I worked in our office, 3 of my co-workers (that I know of, probably more) had kids named James. No one thought I was naming my kid James because of them.

Bookelly · August 2012

hmp&mrj:
Co-workers are not forever (like family). Use the name and don't worry about it. If I worked with you both, unless it is super original name that I had never heard of, I would never think you "stole" her name. When I worked in our office, 3 of my co-workers (that I know of, probably more) had kids named James. No one thought I was naming my kid James because of them.

This. I work in a department with five other women. Two have daughters named Emily. Our daughter will be Emilia. Two others have dogs named Jack, which we would've used for a boy. Not a big deal in any way, shape, or form .

senorita04 · August 2012

I agree with what most pp have said. Co-workers aren't a factor. Family members, yes. Anyone outside of family doesn't matter. If you love the name, use it.

herlysgirly · August 2012

Unless it were my sister or cousin's kid, I'd still use the name.

monica92603 · August 2012

auroraloo:

Is she your sister also? No?

Use the name.

LOL... Yes

3monkeysmama · August 2012

Go for it, it would only be weird if you were family or really close friends.

OceanLover26 · August 2012

Oh I would just use it if I already had it set! Especially if it was just one of the first names or middle names. There are SO many repeated names out there, I wouldnt let it bug you.

melody921 · August 2012

I would still use it. She's a colleague, not your BFF. How often are your kids going to be hanging out together. And if you told people you weren't sharing the name until after birth, they have no way of knowing when you chose it anyway. It's more important you like the name than that you worry what others will think.

LILBIT1221 · August 2012

My thought is that if she isn't a close friend, or family member the name is fair game. I would maybe give her a heads up, that it was a name you had planned on using before you announce it to everyone else.

ShopperKristi · August 2012

Yes, actually she is also my sister. I failed to mention that in the original post Stick out tongue

Thanks for the feedback everyone - didn't mean to post and run last night but I was exhausted! Couldn't wait to come back this morning to see what you guys thought! You are all right, we work in different offices, our kids will likely never even meet, and since we were set on the name we should stick with it. I guess I just got really nervous that the other staff would be all gossipy and think I jacked her baby name for myself since she announced it and we hadn't. I wish I had just told everyone when we decided on it a few months back so we could chalk it up to coincidence and move on. With a clearer head this morning it does seem kind of dumb to worry about it when we probably won't work together forever anyway.

Our names are Cooper and Crosby if you were curious (Cooper is what she had chosen). I'm laying claim to them now permanently, on the internet! You are all officially sworn to secrecy

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