DH's attitude towards DTD changed?

Heather2256 · August 2012

DH had decided when I was about 38w pregnant that we would stop having sex. He said it was too uncomfortable for me & I didn't seem to be enjoying it. Then almost as soon as we got home from the hospital he started wanting to do other things. He brought it up all the time. We tried once & it didn't go so well

Then a couple days before my 6w pp appointment I told him we might not be able to DTD b/c I'd been bleeding on & off. He said that was fine, no big deal. Well I got on the shot, my bleeding stopped & we bought condoms (as recommended by my doctor).

We still have yet to do it. He barely ever mentions it at all. Last night I told him I was going to take a nap. He asks, "You wouldn't want any company up there, would ya?" I looked at the baby, who was sleeping, and said, "If you wanna bring her upstairs without waking her up." He said no, he didn't. So obviously nothing happened.

Anyone else have a DH who had an attitude or thought change about DTD once cleared to? We haven't talked about it yet (I haven't brought it up). It just seems a little weird to me. He flirts & that kind of thing. But that's it.

JulesFo · August 2012

Is there a reason you couldn't leave LO where she was sleeping? It sounds like he was trying to join you, but didn't want to introduce the baby into the romance aspect. Every relationship is different, but I would just talk with my husband about it -- so much confusion is a result of not communicating. GL!

Jess & Drew · August 2012

JulesFo:
Is there a reason you couldn't leave LO where she was sleeping? It sounds like he was trying to join you, but didn't want to introduce the baby into the romance aspect. Every relationship is different, but I would just talk with my husband about it -- so much confusion is a result of not communicating. GL!

This. It sounds like he was possibly testing the waters, and then the "bring the baby with you" was probably a mood killer. Maybe you just need to be blunt and talk to him or maybe come onto him and make it blatantly obvious.

babyruth88 · August 2012

I agree with the other posters. And why bring baby? My husband cant keep his hands off me we both watchtheclock for when its time to get ava to bed then we hit the bed. And on weekends when shes napping etc we know we have atleast 30min. Since we got the clear from doc its been fantastic