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Stay at Home Moms
you know what I am going to start telling people!
You know what I am going to start telling people when they ask me "What I do (for work)" I am going to say I am a wife, mom, teacher, maid, and cook and I work right at home. Maybe then I won't get that look like oh you do nothing but sit on your butt all day. I mean if I worked someone else would be watching my kid and teaching her any they would get paid for it. How come its work for them but not me? And people get paid to cook and clean why is this different?
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Re: you know what I am going to start telling people!
lol people can kiss my ass. I truly don't care what people think about the choices I make with my husband. I am happy how it is. I love being able to have the house clean, play with my kids, teach them things, go out to play groups, paint, and have hobbies. To me that is a pretty great life and if anyone judges me of that then it's their problem. At this moment my child is down for a nap and my other child is at a friends house so now I get also enjoy sometime to myself.
Side note just in case working moms run across this...I am not saying working moms don't get to do these things!!
It's really hard for me to feel judged by others with anything. Being a SAHM has been a challenge in this department especially. I'm finally getting to the point where I can shrug it off as "they don't have a clue" and walk away.
Bottom line though---if they want to think I sit on my butt all day, so be it. IF I DO sit on my butt all day it's none of their business anyways.
Very good description. I have a lot of family members who think that I can just drop everything to do something for/with them because I'm a SAHM. Umm no, I have things I have to get done just like you and I have to do them while watching a baby. I respect working moms and I respect stay at home moms. Both have their own set of challenges and advantages.
Well, some days I do spend a lot of time sitting on my butt...especially in the newborn/infant days when I had a baby sleeping or nursing on me every other hour. I spent a lot of time watching TV/playing on my phone while I held her. But I sat on my butt all day everyday at my last job. In fact, I felt waaay lazier then because I was required to sit at my computer all day.
DD2: Lucia (Lucy) 07/13
I feel like I live in an alternate universe than pretty much anyone else on the bump. When I get asked what I do and I say I stay home with our son, the only thing people ever say is, "cool" or "that's great" and then we move on.
I'm so glad no one I have ever encountered seems to care what I do with all my time.
I am right there with you, 99% of people have remarked to me that it is wonderful that I have made the choice to stay home and that I'm very lucky it is an option for our family. If anything, I'd say it's TB that has made me question how people may perceive my choice (not that I care), and not any actual real life experience!
This is my reality, too.
ok, so i'm a teacher...i work pt -- about 28 hours a week. i get paid pretty well, i'll have a sweet retirement package someday, i have a ton of time off, my mom is my child care, my husband works from home...we have a nice little set up. it's a lot of juggling, but i happen to think we have it all...when people say "it must be nice" or "you're so lucky," i simply agree with them because i'm confident in my choices and i feel very fortunate to be able to do what i love and be there for my kids for drop-off, pick up, volunteer in the classroom, pto, etc... it's rewarding and i love that my 6 yo daughter wants to be a "teacher and a mommy" when she grows up.
you're never going to convince a working mom that you're all those things: "wife, mom, teacher, maid, and cook" because, um, she is too! just just has to get it all done in fewer hours!!!
being a mom is hard work, and you're a mom while you're at work (thinking about my pumping days) when you're falling asleep, in the middle of the night -- ALWAYS!!! whether you bring in a paycheck or not....there are sacrifices and rewards for every choice we make...those who are the most confident, and therefore happier, are those who made their choices for themselves, not those who had no other choice but to be in the position they are in!
Same here. I've never had a negative comment about my staying home before. People usually respond with a "oh that's great", or a "oh, I wish I could stay home too". A few times I've had someone make the comment that they couldn't do that, they need to work to keep their sanity, etc. But those comments don't bother me in the least. To each their own. Staying at home isn't for everyone and I'm fully aware of that.