Husbands who travel for work

pamelaine923 · August 2012

What is the latest you feel comfortable with them going away? My DH need to go to Chicago for at least 3 nights sometime in mid-late August. I'll be 37/38 weeks.

I was only in labor with DD for 5 hours so I really doubt he would make it, even if he took a direct flight.

Too risky? I can't decide if I should demand he stay.

Manx4 · August 2012

I'd be angry if my husband was away that close to delivery honestly. He stops travel next week and even that is irritating me a bit. Mostly because it's hard to handle a toddler, work full time, maintain the house & be as big as a house all by myself. Not because I'm fearing of going into labor this early.

I'd ask him to stay closer to home starting at 36 weeks for your own peace of mind. Unless you're comfortable with him being that far away.

on_a_whim · August 2012

MH doesn't travel for work, per se, but he does work a few cities over (about 2 hours away if you consider the traffic). He also works rotating shifts - days/afternoons/nights, 7 on 7 off. This freaks me out a little, so I am clueless as to how some of you ladies with H's who travel much farther for work are coping with the idea of them not making it home in time. *shudder* I hope none of your H's have trouble getting/being home for the birth.

Before we found out I was pg, H had already chosen his vacation time for 2012... and wasn't able to change it around after the fact so we'll be playing it by ear. MH works in law enforcement (in a very large city) so there is definitely a possibility that he could get stuck on a scene where he won't be able to just up and leave. The flip side, is that if we're lucky baby will decide to come on his days off... here's hoping!

melody921 · August 2012

Once I get to 37 weeks, I'd prefer DH be close by.

AKB090609 · August 2012

I don't know what to tell you, I had asked that DH be local from 36 weeks on, but it looks like he will be in china for the two weeks prior to my edd.

I am PO'ed. His boss has and will continue to here about it from me and his former supervisor, who agrees that DH should not be gone at that time.

mrs.kapow · August 2012

melody921:
Once I get to 37 weeks, I'd prefer DH be close by.

This is my thought. MH has a potential trip at 36 wks, and I'm ok with that. But 38 wks is too close.

When did you deliver your first LO?

hmp1 · August 2012

I asked this last week. DH told his work that he won't travel in Sept (I'm due 9/28). I also told him he should try to travel as much as he can this month so come he can wait longer after the baby comes to start up again.

Kim2884 · August 2012

My DH has a 2-night trip to Dallas (we are in CT) scheduled when I'm 36.5 weeks. I am not happy about it, but I'll have to deal. It's a mandatory training that he already had to put off once, so it's not something he has much control over. But if it was 38 weeks or later, I would tell him he has to put his foot down and refuse to go.

stella_blu · August 2012

I'd say if he iF he is back by 38 weeks then let him go. With DD, DH took off starting a week before my due date and then I was a week late. At the time, he was working 2 1/2 hrs away and we were afraid he wouldn't get back and I would have no one to bring me to the hospital. We ended up wasting a lot of paid time off.

GR8TDANEMOM · August 2012

My DH is 2 hours away for 5 days in a row. I can't make him stay home because he is still on probation with the fire department and couldn't take that time off. I am praying that I go into labor during his 4 days off or that if he is working they will let him off quickly. I wish induction wasn't risky, because it would be ideal to just be induced when I knew he would be home and I wouldn't have to stress.

BarefootContessa · August 2012

DH has one trip left between now and estimated due date. He is only gone for 5 days but I'm not super comfortable with it as he will be back the day I turn 37 weeks. That being said he will only be a 2 hr plane right and then an hr drive away. The company is preparing and sending a second person with him in the event he needs to leave work there to be home. I'm hoping that being a FTM my labor will be long and we won't even have to worry about it.

In your case, I would DEFINITELY not be comfortable--especially with how short your first labor was. Do you have the ability to "demand" he stay? I know in our situation DH couldn't say no, that they just sent a second person as precaution. I'm sorry you are in this situation. NOT FUN!

jenguinbear · August 2012

I wish I had a say in the matter, but when Uncle Sam calls his sailors, they go when they are told. He gets underway when I'm almost 36 weeks. Fortunately, he's gotten it approved to leave the ship for three weeks not long after they get underway. I am keeping my fingers crossed that the baby comes when he's with me because he can't stay too long away from the ship.

herlysgirly · August 2012

MH will be gone four days, and comes back the day I turn 37 weeks. He won't travel after 37 weeks since I'll be full term. He gets a little nervous every time I get BH's now because I told him sometimes the 2nd comes a little faster. lol I'm not too worried though. If he were going to be gone any later, I would be.

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