Intro-Stillbirth at 39 Weeks

kikibelle · August 2012

Hi ladies,

Our beautiful, perfect, 7lb, 11oz son-our first child-was stillborn on July 22 at 39 weeks, 5 days. My water broke early that morning, and we were shocked to find out that his heart was no longer beating when we went into L&D triage. I went into labor on my own a few hours later and delivered him vaginally that night. The pregnancy was so easy and complication-free. I had no idea that something like this could happen-stillbirth was just not on my radar. I'm still in shock, and trying to figure out how to process all of this and slowly start to put my life back together. I am fortunate to have an amazing DH and supportive family and friends, but I can't help but feel isolated. I spent all of my pregnancy (mostly lurking) on the July 2012 moms board, and I miss their company.

Bayberry12 · August 2012

I am so sorry to have to welcome you here. I also lost my first child, a girl, at 39 weeks in April, and also had a complication-free pregnancy never imagining that this could happen. My heart breaks for you and all the pain you are in, 3 months ago I was right where you are today.

You have found a wonderful group of women here, who sadly understand everything you are feeling. Did you name your son? Did you get any answers as to what happened to you little boy? Please feel free to share as much or as little you want. We are all here for you.

jlcrhw · August 2012

I am so deeply sorry for the loss of your little one. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Huge (((Hugs))).

tuscanbride2007 · August 2012

I am so very sorry for the loss of your precious son. My heart breaks when we have to welcome a new person to this board. My daughter was born still on March 25. I was 37 weeks, 3 days when I went into labor and discovered that her heart had stopped beating. It was such a shock. I didn't really know that something like that could happen.

I hope you find comfort here. Please feel free to vent, cry, laugh, be sad, whatever feelings you have. It's a safe place with amazing women. We all have different stories, but we are all trying to navigate down the same difficult path of grief.

((HUGS))

Petunia844 · August 2012

I'm so sorry to have to welcome you here. I still remember the day I sat down and wrote my intro with tears streaming down my face, it's not something anybody wants to do. This group was a lifeline for me, and I hope we can offer you some amount of comfort and community through such a lonely and scary time.

HollyBee1022 · August 2012

I'm so, so sorry for the loss of your little boy. Your story breaks my heart. No one wants to be here on this board, but we're here to support you in any way we can -- you're not alone. I'm thinking of you and your family right now. ((HUGS!))

sloannmark · August 2012

I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your son. I hope you find comfort and support here.

jbranden12 · August 2012

I am so sorry for the loss of your son. I understand your shock, my pregnancy was a breeze until I noticed a lack of movement and went to my doctor's office where I was told that my daughter's heart stopped beating. We have not been able to determine a cause of death. She is our first child.

I also understand the lurking on your BMB. In the beginning, I tortured myself by pouring over their posts and it took a while for me to stop inflicting this pain on myself.

Check out the post at the top of the board for some suggestions for new loss mamas. I am so sorry to welcome you to our group, but I hope you can find some support here.

yosemitemom · August 2012

I am so sorry for your loss.

Heatherhah · August 2012

I am so sorry for the loss of your son. I lost my DD at 38 wks 4 days she weighed 10lbs 3 oz. it was totally unexpected and the worst thing to ever happen to our family. That was 10 months ago. We are all here for you always! You are not alone!! Huge hugs to you!! I hope you find some comfort here!! Thinking of you and your family!

Heather

pottermommy · August 2012

Siggy Warning~~~~

I am sorry for your loss. I wish you comfort and love.

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sebailey6 · August 2012

I am so so sorry for the loss of you baby boy!! We are all here whenever you need to talk. I hope you find the comfort that I have found...I come here every single day!

lrichmond86 · August 2012

I'm so sorry for the loss of your beautiful son. I hate that we're all here, but I hope that you find hope and support from the wonderful women on this board. T&P to you and DH today!

karebear57 · August 2012

I am so sorry for your loss of your little boy Julian. We are here anytime you need us. This board has been wonderful with the greatest women.

Auki13 · August 2012

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your beautiful Julian. My heart breaks every time we have to welcome a new person to this board. I hope that you can find some comfort here with us, and please just remember to be gentle with yourself as you go through the healing process. I'm glad to hear that you have a ton of support in real life, but remember we are always here for you as well. (((HUGS)))

lalaellac · August 2012

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my DD almost 2 yrs ago to stillbirth. my one warming, be prepared to have no explanation for your DSs passing. I thought for sure they would be able to ttell me why, after a textbook 39wk pregnancy, my DDs HB stopped. big ::hugs::

kikibelle · August 2012

Thank you for welcoming me here so warmly. I figured out how to upload a new ticker after I wrote my original post. We named him Julian Thomas. They told us that we most likely will never have an explanation for his death. The cord was wrapped around his neck (just once, I think), but that may or may not have been the cause. I will learn the results of a few blood tests at my 2 week PP appointment next week. I am expecting not to have any answers, and just have it called a terrible accident.

Lavender&Lillies · August 2012

I am so sorry for the loss of your son, Julian. My son, Braxton, was stillborn at 36 weeks, 6 days, after a wonderful pregnancy. We did not receive any answers to tell us why our beautiful son was stillborn. I am glad that you found this board. Supportive friends and family are so important, but this board is a great source of support from others who are going through the same pain that you are. It has helped me to not feel so alone these past 3 months and given me hope for the future.

lmielocl1 · August 2012

I am so sorry for your loss! Wish there was something I could do or say to make this easier for you but I truly know there isn't. I have been given the advice by others to take all the time you need to grieve. Cry when you need to cry and just let it out! I have personally found it helpful to cry when I need to cry. (((Hugs)))

- Leslie

~ Mommy to Aaron, 21 months and to our angel, Ethan, born sleeping at 18w on 6/15/12. Missing you so much!

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