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Adamant627
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did you or are you finding out the sex of the baby
Adamant627
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Just curious to see what everyone is doing....my wife wants to find out cause she hates surprises and she is a big time planner for everything. I on the other hand didn't find out with my other three and don't wanna find out with our baby. I feel that if we were supposed to know the sex of the baby there would be a window letting us see. Call me old fashion but this is one thing that I would have a lot of trouble changing my mind about.
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Re: did you or are you finding out the sex of the baby
We found out gender as soon as we could. The main reason was for planning purposes. We also just really wanted to know if we were having a boy or a girl. We are both kind of control freaks, so knowing has done a lot in terms of how we are planning the room, a name, and just in how we talk to him already. We are constantly talking to him, and it is nice to be able to use his name and all the little terms associated with having a boy.
It really is a personal preference, and no way is better than the other when it comes to this.
I kind of wanted to wait until the delivery because I think it might have been cool, but my wife hates surprises and that meant we would know as soon as the OB offered. BUT I'm having a son and that is crazy awesome, so I'm cool with it.
For our first I thought about not knowing but my wife cant wait for surprises, so she said that I could still not know about the gender and she would just keep it to herself. Now we all know that would not work, and I figured since she was going to be carrying and delivering our child, she would bear the ultimate decision in that. So we found out for our first.
For our second, there wasn't even a discussion, we needed to know because since we had a boy, my wife wanted to know for sure if we were having a boy or girl, as well as I did too. Once they said it was another boy, my wife turns to me and says, "well i guess you were right that we were having another boy. so it looks like we will be trying for that girl again!"
We found out for #1 and we plan on finding out for #2 as well.
We did it primarily so we knew ahead of time, we both are planners and I liked that when I talked to my wife's belly, I could address him by name. It helped in buying a few clothing items, but we have names for 2 boys and 2 girls already in hand and we had/have the nursery already painted in a gender neutral color scheme... green for grass, blue for sky... lends itself for a number of ways to decorate.
Ok well this isn't helping my case any
. Oh well such is life
We found out early because the technician zoomed in on the legs and you could totally tell it was a boy!
You still need to do what you guys feel comfortable with and agree on. For our next one, who knows....we may want to be surprised and wait.
I think personality type plays a lot more into it than anything else. My wife and I are planners and organizers, so we are driven by that reality. Not knowing really was never an option.
We won't be able to tell you how to talk your wife into not wanting to know the sex of the baby...tell her how you feel, see if she will give in, and if not....relax knowing your having a terrific boy/girl coming and keep supporting your wife. The realization is....if she wants to know, not much is going to stop her. You just get to decide if you are on board about finding out or want to try to be left in the dark for a few months (which will be tough).
I am certain I will feel unmeasurable joy when or boy is born even though I have known his gender this whole time. I will never regret knowing ahead of time.
To each his own, but the joy will still be off the charts regardless.
I could not agree more. We walk by his room it is Jacob's room. When he kicks or punches mommy when he is feeling frisky, Jacob is kicking.
Calling our son by his name has really allowed us to be close to him together, which is nice for all three of us I think.
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We haven't found out the gender yet. I'm 14 weeks, however we both do want to know ASAP! I agree with your wife, on wanting to know. It can be very stressful not knowing because all she is thinking about is giving birth and then decorating and getting boy or girl clothes. She just want everything in its place before hand so she can come home from the hospital and just have everything set.
Good Luck!