SO looking 'down there' while you push?

valeriej6 · July 2012

DH and I were watching a pretty graphic birth video today and he claims he wants a front row seat. I know it's natural and a beautiful thing, but I just don't think I want him watching! Can't he just stay up by me? Is that a horrible thing to say?

Nikko Blue · July 2012

I feel the same way! Luckily MH doesn't have any desire to look either - although if he did, I wouldn't stop him. I really don't think I'd care at that point.

byrne15 · July 2012

With ds, I told DH not to look down there...

once it was happening he styaed up with me for 99% of the time. The dr. said once or twice, "look at his hair", or "you can see his head". DH looked quick which I didn't mind.

nopegoat · July 2012

My DF did not want to look at all. I made him watch a video and he turned green then white lol. However, when the time came he did watch the whole thing and he thought it was the coolest thing ever and wished he had a video of it. I have to admit before I was really paranoid but when the time came I didn't care who was there looking at what. I just wanted my son out of me and in my arms.

sinisforgiven · July 2012

My DH is going to assist the doctor with delivering the baby (after the head is out)

He wants to be the first one to see what it is and announce "It's a boy/girl!"... He's so excited about it, that I wouldn't dream of taking that away from him. I'm glad he's wanting to be so involved in the birth of our baby

DemoDoll · July 2012

DH and I haven't really talked about it. I always thought I wouldn't want him to look down there but now that I'm getting closer to delivering, I honestly don't care if he looks. He can decide at the time if he just wants to be up by me or if he wants to peak. His friend's have told him some pretty graphic things about their wives so I don't really think he will have a desire to look...we shall see.

WhitEm14 · July 2012

I really don't want him to look down there, and he's not too thrilled about looking either, but I think his natural curiosity will get the better of him and he'll take a peek. I don't mind if that happens. I just know having him up by my head will help me labor much easier and he's really supportive and understands that. So I know he is going to try to stay with me as much as possible.

PaisleyRuth · July 2012

Yeah, I didn't know how I would feel about it, but it actually ended up being really helpful that DH was looking & telling me things like he could see the head or see that I was making progress. He's a science/biology guy, so it didn't freak him out. I, on the other hand, did not want to see anything... they offered me a mirror but I was like heck no. I think I mostly had my eyes closed while pushing.

jesslinnn · July 2012

DH didn't want to see it and planned on staying up by my head, but once it was time to push the nurses we're like "okay you hold this leg". He ended up seeing everything! I didn't care at all at that point.

KacieLeigh · July 2012

With both of my girls I just left it up to DH if he wanted to look. He swore beforehand that he wanted nothing to do with seeing all of that. However, when the time came, he was so excited and he was down there saying, "I can see her! She's so close!" etc. graphic stuff easily makes him sick, and he didn't even flinch. As gross as the fluids and stuff are - it's SUCH an incredible, surreal moment that you just can't help but watch in amazement. It's honestly incredible.

nycteach · July 2012

My DH watched and I didn't care but I honestly didn't care about who saw what at that point.

I don't think it's a horrible thing that you don't want him to see but what's your underlying fear? That he won't see you the same way or that he'll be grossed out or something.

bigbootyjudi · July 2012

Not a horrible thing to say at all. My SO asked me where he would be standing and I told him probably somewhere in the middle; holding my hand without being right in my "area," but enough to see our LO coming out into the doctor's hands (while not watching him come directly out of me, if that makes sense). My SO doesn't have any desire to be front and center as far as watching the baby crown and what not, lol.

valeriej6 · July 2012

nycteach:
My DH watched and I didn't care but I honestly didn't care about who saw what at that point.

I don't think it's a horrible thing that you don't want him to see but what's your underlying fear? That he won't see you the same way or that he'll be grossed out or something.

Yes, that he won't see my the same way. It's shallow and completely without reason, but I can't help but feel that way. In the moment I'm sure I won't care, though.

vivianmc · July 2012

I felt and thought the same thing along with my DH before delivery of our first but during he was watching. I was coherent enough to ask him if he really wanted to be down there watching and he continued to and is fine with it as of today.

He said he will watch again with this one also! He also cut the cord for our son and plans to do same with our daughter!

I also thought if anyone else would be in there it would only be my mom but when time came I didn't care enough tokcik my sister out. They were on the side so not in full view of everything but I'm so glad they got to experience it with me.

nycteach · July 2012

valeriej6:
nycteach:

My DH watched and I didn't care but I honestly didn't care about who saw what at that point.

I don't think it's a horrible thing that you don't want him to see but what's your underlying fear? That he won't see you the same way or that he'll be grossed out or something.

Yes, that he won't see my the same way. It's shallow and completely without reason, but I can't help but feel that way. In the moment I'm sure I won't care, though.

I can understand that and I don't think it's shallow. You don't need to make a firm decision now and if you still feel uncomfortable with it in that moment, then just ask DH to come back up by you.

ematthews920 · July 2012

I don't think it's horrible. I feel the same way, and so does DH haha. I don't blame him one bit for wanting to stay up by my side and hold my hand instead of a leg.

babypaloozyvan · July 2012

I was petrified of this too, but last week during my delivery, DH did it and was so glad he did. He thought it was awesome and claims he wasn't grossed out at all. I guess we will see in 6 weeks when it's "on" again if he still feels the same way. LOL

punkrockabye · July 2012

Mine might be too nervous, but if he wants to watch and I'm not feeling like I require him to be more eye level with me, I'd have no problem with it (I don't even know what position I'll want to be in while pushing, so this is all very up in the air). But he's kind of squeamish and may prefer to stay away. He wouldn't find it gross at all but he's the type who is genuinely scared of medical type things.

AprilAngie · July 2012

I must be the minority Here because my dh will be looking when baby is born. He did with our first two am will for number three. It is an amazing experience that you will never get back. Heck when I had my first - I wanted it video tape as to this day ne'er seen a live birth....

latnprincess · July 2012

Dh did look down there for DS's birth. He wasn't down there the whole time, but he saw some stuff. I could care less. I was with my sister for her baby's birth and saw the whole thing. Its pretty wild!

bellag8212 · August 2012

I don't think it's horrible. DH has already said several times, he will not be looking anywhere in that direction. He'd probably pass out lol.

rainedrops117 · August 2012

it doesn't bother me either way - but DH will most likely be back and forth assisting me then checking the progress, repeat.

TechieGirl1 · August 2012

nope not at all. My DH can't even watch me get bloodwork done without getting lightheaded, so he will be by me. As of right now we are going to see if he can even stay in the room. he's so sweet, he just gets really upset!

hooslisa · August 2012

this is hilarious. my DH is pretty open about checking things out down there.

i know this is tmi, but we cycle A LOT. anyone who spends a lot of time on their bike knows all about saddle sores. well, i get a reoccuring one down there I asked him to look at it one time because it was so painful and I wanted to know if it could be, um, emptied. he went running to our sports closet and came out with his running headlamp so he could be better equipped for the job.

he's now my regular crotch checker outer. i'm pretty sure during delivery he'll want to be down in the action. i know if the situation was reversed i would definitely be.

gracie__r · August 2012

I never thought DH looked, but a couple years ago he told me he did with both the girls and it freaked him out. I was really surprised. I kind of think it was like looking at a train wreck for him - he just had to do it, KWIM? It doesn't bother me if he wants to. I'd never want to see it, but if he wants that image burned into his brain, go ahead I guess!

CoUnTryBB1 · August 2012

nobadwriting:
No, it's not horrible. DH will be by my side the whole time. Neither of us wants to see what is happening down there.

Same here and I have that little fear of really not wanting him to see my lady parts that way!

rp-chicago-mom · August 2012

hooslisa:
this is hilarious. my DH is pretty open about checking things out down there.

i know this is tmi, but we cycle A LOT. anyone who spends a lot of time on their bike knows all about saddle sores. well, i get a reoccuring one down there I asked him to look at it one time because it was so painful and I wanted to know if it could be, um, emptied. he went running to our sports closet and came out with his running headlamp so he could be better equipped for the job.

he's now my regular crotch checker outer. i'm pretty sure during delivery he'll want to be down in the action. i know if the situation was reversed i would definitely be.

H has done this for me as well. Glad I'm not the only one! Knowing myself I'm going to want to hear about progress so he will probably look. He's not squeamish at all. And can we say something other than "down there?"

hooslisa · August 2012

Baker_Bride:
hooslisa:

this is hilarious. my DH is pretty open about checking things out down there.

i know this is tmi, but we cycle A LOT. anyone who spends a lot of time on their bike knows all about saddle sores. well, i get a reoccuring one down there I asked him to look at it one time because it was so painful and I wanted to know if it could be, um, emptied. he went running to our sports closet and came out with his running headlamp so he could be better equipped for the job.

he's now my regular crotch checker outer. i'm pretty sure during delivery he'll want to be down in the action. i know if the situation was reversed i would definitely be.

H has done this for me as well. Glad I'm not the only one! Knowing myself I'm going to want to hear about progress so he will probably look. He's not squeamish at all. And can we say something other than "down there?"

sure! what else would you prefer? hoho, vajayjay, hooha or lady bits?

rp-chicago-mom · August 2012

hooslisa:
Baker_Bride:
hooslisa:

this is hilarious. my DH is pretty open about checking things out down there.

i know this is tmi, but we cycle A LOT. anyone who spends a lot of time on their bike knows all about saddle sores. well, i get a reoccuring one down there I asked him to look at it one time because it was so painful and I wanted to know if it could be, um, emptied. he went running to our sports closet and came out with his running headlamp so he could be better equipped for the job.

he's now my regular crotch checker outer. i'm pretty sure during delivery he'll want to be down in the action. i know if the situation was reversed i would definitely be.

H has done this for me as well. Glad I'm not the only one! Knowing myself I'm going to want to hear about progress so he will probably look. He's not squeamish at all. And can we say something other than "down there?"

sure! what else would you prefer? hoho, vajayjay, hooha or lady bits?

One of the kids in my classroom last year called it her "front butt"

rp-chicago-mom · August 2012

hooslisa:
Baker_Bride:
hooslisa:

this is hilarious. my DH is pretty open about checking things out down there.

i know this is tmi, but we cycle A LOT. anyone who spends a lot of time on their bike knows all about saddle sores. well, i get a reoccuring one down there I asked him to look at it one time because it was so painful and I wanted to know if it could be, um, emptied. he went running to our sports closet and came out with his running headlamp so he could be better equipped for the job.

he's now my regular crotch checker outer. i'm pretty sure during delivery he'll want to be down in the action. i know if the situation was reversed i would definitely be.

H has done this for me as well. Glad I'm not the only one! Knowing myself I'm going to want to hear about progress so he will probably look. He's not squeamish at all. And can we say something other than "down there?"

sure! what else would you prefer? hoho, vajayjay, hooha or lady bits?

One of the kids in my classroom last year called it her "front butt"

hooslisa · August 2012

Baker_Bride:
hooslisa:
sure! what else would you prefer? hoho, vajayjay, hooha or lady bits?

One of the kids in my classroom last year called it her "front butt"

haha. that is AWESOME!

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