Two weeks left but I'll still have to complain!

bigbear · July 2012

I posted before that our daycare is horrible. We were looking for other options and found one starting the week of Aug13!!

There has been so many things I"m not ok with and they are better but last week I noticed something else and first thought maybe it was an isolated thing but today was confirmed that it isn't so I'm going to say something again!

My DD can sit on her own and is rock solid, meaning she doesn't tip over. BUT that still doesn't mean you can leave her UNATTENDED in the middle of the floor, surounded by toddlers and preschoolers who are running around while you are outside in the garage disposing of dirty diapers! She's sitting on a hard concrete basement floor. She can be knocked over by another child and get hurt! I can't believe how irresponsible they are! The kids are literally running in circles around her and playing and pushing each other. I almost had a heart attack!

bigbear · July 2012

lilnightmusic:
Why did you send her to this daycare in the first place?

Well those things weren't apparent at the time we got her in the place. (Yes we did interview but I didn't know they'd have the diaper on too tight....) Then I started noticing things and they have improved on things I have pointed out. Some people don't think it's a big deal but I'm just not satisfied with the level of care they offer so I got her out as soon as I could. This past thing with her sitting I just noticed now and as already said, am taking her out...

Rsoc23 · July 2012

I do understand you have bills to pay (we all do) but maybe you could take a vacation from work until you get her in the new DC. you hear news stories about kids dying in DC because they were left alone.

bigbear · July 2012

Rsoc23:
I do understand you have bills to pay (we all do) but maybe you could take a vacation from work until you get her in the new DC. you hear news stories about kids dying in DC because they were left alone.

I have no vacation left, nor do I have an option for a leave. I had to use up all my vacation for the year while on maternity leave. And then I took the max amount of days unpaid AND have also gone into negative PTO from next year as much as I could. I would lose my job. I know this may sound awful to some but I can't just quit my job or we'd be out on the street basically. And of course my child is the most important thing and I'd die for her this instant but given all the circumstances I"m doing the best I can.

bigbear · July 2012

FarmBoysWife:
bigbear:

Rsoc23:
I do understand you have bills to pay (we all do) but maybe you could take a vacation from work until you get her in the new DC. you hear news stories about kids dying in DC because they were left alone.

I have no vacation left, nor do I have an option for a leave. I had to use up all my vacation for the year while on maternity leave. And then I took the max amount of days unpaid AND have also gone into negative PTO from next year as much as I could. I would lose my job. I know this may sound awful to some but I can't just quit my job or we'd be out on the street basically. And of course my child is the most important thing and I'd die for her this instant but given all the circumstances I"m doing the best I can.

All i can think of is the stories of babies who are put in daycare's like this- whose parents left them there and then they get seriously hurt or killed at the daycare.

I would rather be out on the street than have my child in an environment on that. I'm going to call the baby ugly (be blunt) and say this is just shitty parenting.

*No job, no amount of money, security, or financial gain is worth the safety of your child.*

Either you are lying, exaggerating, or just plain stupid. If I couldn't find day care for DS- DH or I would have to quit our jobs, we may end out on the streets too. But your child should always trump your job, anything less is mediocre parenting at best.

Flame me if you will, but this is NOT a "you have your ways, I have mine" situation. This is you making excuses for not keeping your kid safe when you know there is an issue. You KNOW there is an issue. Stop making excuses, get up off your behind, and fix it. This has been going on for like what.. a month+ if I remember right? and you have two more weeks? RIDICULOUS!!!

I challenge you to be a better parent and stop caring about a paycheck more than your child's well being.

Go ahead, flame me off the board.

Hey! You have no clue what you are talking about nor do you know everything about me, my life, child, my parenting skills etc. I am not here to explain myself nor do I need to nor do I care what you are challenging me to! I remember some of your posts from the past and could go off right now, but I'm a bigger person and won't do it.

THE END!

jnickers98 · July 2012

FarmBoysWife:
bigbear:
Rsoc23:
I do understand you have bills to pay (we all do) but maybe you could take a vacation from work until you get her in the new DC. you hear news stories about kids dying in DC because they were left alone.

I have no vacation left, nor do I have an option for a leave. I had to use up all my vacation for the year while on maternity leave. And then I took the max amount of days unpaid AND have also gone into negative PTO from next year as much as I could. I would lose my job. I know this may sound awful to some but I can't just quit my job or we'd be out on the street basically. And of course my child is the most important thing and I'd die for her this instant but given all the circumstances I"m doing the best I can.

All i can think of is the stories of babies who are put in daycare's like this- whose parents left them there and then they get seriously hurt or killed at the daycare.

I would rather be out on the street than have my child in an environment on that. I'm going to call the baby ugly (be blunt) and say this is just shitty parenting.
*No job, no amount of money, security, or financial gain is worth the safety of your child.*
Either you are lying, exaggerating, or just plain stupid. If I couldn't find day care for DS- DH or I would have to quit our jobs, we may end out on the streets too. But your child should always trump your job, anything less is mediocre parenting at best.

Flame me if you will, but this is NOT a "you have your ways, I have mine" situation. This is you making excuses for not keeping your kid safe when you know there is an issue. You KNOW there is an issue. Stop making excuses, get up off your behind, and fix it. This has been going on for like what.. a month+ if I remember right? and you have two more weeks? RIDICULOUS!!!

I challenge you to be a better parent and stop caring about a paycheck more than your child's well being.
Go ahead, flame me off the board.

From the little I've heard, it sounds as though they (the daycare) makes improvements when something is brought to their attention. I would hope that if BigBear says something they will stop leaving her child unattended. It's obviously not an ideal situation (to put it mildly) and the safety of her DD does come first, but being able to provide for your child is also a major concern.

BigBear - do you have any friends that would be willing to watch DD during this two week period? Can your husband take time off?

bigbear · July 2012

jnickers98:
FarmBoysWife:
bigbear:

Rsoc23:
I do understand you have bills to pay (we all do) but maybe you could take a vacation from work until you get her in the new DC. you hear news stories about kids dying in DC because they were left alone.

I have no vacation left, nor do I have an option for a leave. I had to use up all my vacation for the year while on maternity leave. And then I took the max amount of days unpaid AND have also gone into negative PTO from next year as much as I could. I would lose my job. I know this may sound awful to some but I can't just quit my job or we'd be out on the street basically. And of course my child is the most important thing and I'd die for her this instant but given all the circumstances I"m doing the best I can.

All i can think of is the stories of babies who are put in daycare's like this- whose parents left them there and then they get seriously hurt or killed at the daycare.

I would rather be out on the street than have my child in an environment on that. I'm going to call the baby ugly (be blunt) and say this is just shitty parenting.

*No job, no amount of money, security, or financial gain is worth the safety of your child.*

Either you are lying, exaggerating, or just plain stupid. If I couldn't find day care for DS- DH or I would have to quit our jobs, we may end out on the streets too. But your child should always trump your job, anything less is mediocre parenting at best.

Flame me if you will, but this is NOT a "you have your ways, I have mine" situation. This is you making excuses for not keeping your kid safe when you know there is an issue. You KNOW there is an issue. Stop making excuses, get up off your behind, and fix it. This has been going on for like what.. a month+ if I remember right? and you have two more weeks? RIDICULOUS!!!

I challenge you to be a better parent and stop caring about a paycheck more than your child's well being.

Go ahead, flame me off the board.

From the little I've heard, it sounds as though they (the daycare) makes improvements when something is brought to their attention. I would hope that if BigBear says something they will stop leaving her child unattended. It's obviously not an ideal situation (to put it mildly) and the safety of her DD does come first, but being able to provide for your child is also a major concern.

BigBear - do you have any friends that would be willing to watch DD during this two week period? Can your husband take time off?

Hi!

Yes, I've always said if I wasn't ok with something and not all things are life threatening! They had her diaper on too tight so I told them to loosen it up and they did. They were overfeeding her (giving her 9+Oz per feeding) I told them WTF and they went back to giving her the usual 6Oz. I also don't like that they let the bigger kids eat on the floor but didn't care as much about it either as she wasn't going to stay at the daycare that long anyway.

DH has taken time off as well, we've had a friend watch DD for one entire week and we are asking anybody we can to watch her even if for a day at a time. My husband has even gotten written up for taking so much time off. I am not a big fan of ILs watching DD but we did ask about that as well but unfortunately that always seems to be a big deal as well... So we are in a tough spot now.

But they do acknowledge what we say and improve.

jason&robin · July 2012

I'm glad you found a new option. If there was a family member or friend that could help you out, that would be great but it sounds like you are doing the best you can. I hope you can have an adult conversation with the provider and that they can correct the issues until you get baby into the new place. Sorry you are going through this.

bigbear · July 2012

jason&robin:
I'm glad you found a new option. If there was a family member or friend that could help you out, that would be great but it sounds like you are doing the best you can. I hope you can have an adult conversation with the provider and that they can correct the issues until you get baby into the new place. Sorry you are going through this.

Thanks Robin!

jnickers98 · July 2012

bigbear:
jnickers98:
From the little I've heard, it sounds as though they (the daycare) makes improvements when something is brought to their attention. I would hope that if BigBear says something they will stop leaving her child unattended. It's obviously not an ideal situation (to put it mildly) and the safety of her DD does come first, but being able to provide for your child is also a major concern.

BigBear - do you have any friends that would be willing to watch DD during this two week period? Can your husband take time off?

Hi!

Yes, I've always said if I wasn't ok with something and not all things are life threatening! They had her diaper on too tight so I told them to loosen it up and they did. They were overfeeding her (giving her 9+Oz per feeding) I told them WTF and they went back to giving her the usual 6Oz. I also don't like that they let the bigger kids eat on the floor but didn't care as much about it either as she wasn't going to stay at the daycare that long anyway.

DH has taken time off as well, we've had a friend watch DD for one entire week and we are asking anybody we can to watch her even if for a day at a time. My husband has even gotten written up for taking so much time off. I am not a big fan of ILs watching DD but we did ask about that as well but unfortunately that always seems to be a big deal as well... So we are in a tough spot now.

But they do acknowledge what we say and improve.

What do the people who referred you to this daycare think about all of this? I'd have to imagine they aren't happy to know these things are going on. Hopefully it won't happen again, but is it possible to go to them as a group and let them know this is not acceptable? That way they understand you aren't being a crazy over-protective, dramatic mom, but that this is a unacceptable practice.

Huahine · July 2012

If you wanted to find temporary care until your DD starts at her new spot, you could also check out sittercity and care.com. I found our nanny through care and I love, love, love her.

jnickers98 · July 2012

Huahine:
If you wanted to find temporary care until your DD starts at her new spot, you could also check out sittercity and care.com. I found our nanny through care and I love, love, love her.

I was going to recommend this as well. Or a daycare center.

ETA: or a neighborhood teenager or college student as LNM recommended

bigbear · July 2012

jnickers98:

Huahine:
If you wanted to find temporary care until your DD starts at her new spot, you could also check out sittercity and care.com. I found our nanny through care and I love, love, love her.

I was going to recommend this as well. Or a daycare center.

Thanks ladies! I'll check sittercity! We've been looking at centers but couldn't get a spot....

I talked to some people there but they don't think it's an issue! So here I'm a horrible mother and there I"m an over protective mother. LOL I didn't talk to ALL of the parents there but a few and I asked them what they thought of the other things and they said "eh I have two kids at home I learned that it can't all be perfect" or, if they feed him more, then i just dont feed him at a regular time". Seriously! they just don't think it's a big issue. The sitting just came up on last week Friday, DH was home with DD yesterday so then I saw it again this morning. I sitll want to talk to a mom who just started brining her baby there. She's about DDs age and see what she thinks and if she's aware of it. DD and this girl are the youngest!

jnickers98 · July 2012

You may also want to check the mpls board to see if anyone else has any suggestions. They might refer a local nanny or babysitter they use. We haven't left DD with anyone besides family, so I'm not much help.

bigbear · July 2012

jnickers98:
You may also want to check the mpls board to see if anyone else has any suggestions. They might refer a local nanny or babysitter they use. We haven't left DD with anyone besides family, so I'm not much help.

Ugh, I tried there a few times already and nothing! It's so frustrating!

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