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June 2011 Moms
babydoll22308
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Potty Training..
babydoll22308
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So i have been doing a lot of reading on Potty Training bc i may start the process around 18 months with DD. However, I want to make sure she is ready. Right now, she shows a lot of interest in the toilet/bathroom. She always has to watch me go "potty" and is always trying to play with the toilet. I always talk to her about what you do on the potty etc and occasionally put her on it (very casually-not serious potty training mode).
Claire does very well with communication, especially with understanding what I am telling her. For instance, if i tell her to go get a book, toy, doll, brush or etc she will go get it and bring it back to me. Or if she is eating and asks for milk and i say no eat all of your veggies or meat first, she will eat them then ask for her milk again. She probably understands me bc quite frankly, I never shut up! haha
My point in saying that is when i was reading about if a child is ready for potty training, one of the signs is that they should be able to follow simple instructions. So right now, that really is the only sign i see, other than her interest in the toilet. In 4 months though, she may show more signs I suppose. Do any of you BTDT mamas have suggestions? WHat worked for you?
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Re: Potty Training..
Not BTDT, and I KNOW that Ty's not ready... he does not follow instructions! But, SIL just bought niece (14 months this week) a training toilet and is going to start trying it out. I guess it can't hurt, and I'm just glad to hear that she's not expecting anything to come of it yet. She's thinks Avery is ready because she likes to sit on it, but IMO, Avery just likes to sit on chairs!
That being said, some cultures start potty training/elimination communication essentially from the beginning, so there's no harm in starting when you want. As long as you're not expecting anything to happen right away I say it never hurts to try when you think you're both ready to start!
I think that's the key. If you have expectations of it working at 18mon, you might very well set both of you up for frustration.
I potty trained DS1 at 29mon. He had hit every single milestone (except for STTN) late -- verbal, gross motor, everything. He didn't really show many signs of readiness; he liked to watch us go to the bathroom, but never asked to, didn't wake up dry, didn't seem distressed when his diaper was wet/dirty, etc. Just figured I'd give it a go and see what happened. Basically did a variation of the 3-day method and figured if I was still cleaning up a ton of messes at the end of those three days, we'd drop it for another six months. Honestly, I was just curious if he could do it. I wasn't expecting it to work and I wasn't desperate to get him out of diapers (in retrospect, diapers are SO.MUCH.EASIER. than a newly -- even 6month -- potty trained kid).
Stripped him naked the first day. He peed on the floor like twice and then figured it out. Never had any issues with pooping. We had some set-backs on day 3 when I put him in underwear, so we went back to naked for another day or two. Worked really well. He picked it up so fast; I was shocked and proud of him. He nap-trained himself a couple months later, and has recently night-trained himself, much to my chagrin (he's still in the crib and was waking us to take him to the bathroom at 0545. Nipped that in the bud by getting him up to pee at 9:30p before we go to bed). Really, he's done FABULOUSLY, much better than just about any firstborn boy's stories of potty-training that I've ever heard. A few accidents maybe the first 6wks, and that was it. I guess he was ready, but didn't ever show any of the classic signs. I was so shocked because he always did everything so late, but he is really awesome at routines/schedules, so maybe this was different than other milestones.
I will say (and thus concludes my book!) that it's a PAIN to potty train (in my opinion) a kid that doesn't have the gross and fine motor skills to do it from start to finish by themselves. That's what I meant by diapers being easier -- he needed help to fully pull down pants/underwear, empty the little potty (or, when we transitioned to the big potty -- no issues there, either -- getting up and down off the stool), pull up underwear and pants, wash hands, etc. That was so obnoxious, b/c it often seemed that it happened when I was nursing DS2 or changing him or something else. Whereas if he would have been in diapers, I would have just made him wait, you know? He has just -- in the past month -- been able to do it completely independently. Open the bathroom door, lift the seat, climb the stool, get his shorts/underwear down, pee, get off the stool, pull up underwear/shorts, flush, close door, wash hands. There's a lot of steps that they need a ton of skills for! I have almost contemplated just waiting til Sam is a LOT older to try. Although the actual potty training was a breeze, the logistics of it were a pain.
If you made it this far, you must really be interested in hearing what one person who has only ever potty-trained one child (who basically did it himself) had to say.
LOL I think that is what i struggle with in regards DD. When to decipher if she is ready. I want the experience to positive and not torture for her (for me i am sure it will be exhausting lol). However, if i try at 18 months, I am not set that it will work. I am sure it will take time. But i fully intend on holding off if she really does not seem interested at all. Thank you for your storY!
I have been working on potty training DS1 for a few months and every time I think he is finally getting it he just reverts back.
At this point with all the interest DS2 is showing in the potty training process...I think we will get DS2 potty trained before DS1 gets settled in it. I mean I know it takes longer for boys and when we started DS1 was really into it....but I am getting so sick of chasing him down and practicly forcing him to sit on the potty. He should be in big boy undies by now and everytime I put him into them he starts going in his pants again and not just an accident or two....but he seriously pees his pants everytime.
Potty training has me sooo frustrated right now. The only thing I have left as a concept of why it isn't working is because I'm the one potty training him and H isn't doing any of it. I am seriously about to leave DS1 with H for a weekend and make him do a whole weekend of pottying all by himself.
I am honestly sooo tired of trying to get DS1 set on potty training that I am ready to just put him back in diapers...I just can't play this game anymore because he doesnt want to do it anymore.
Whatever you do, invest in these thick training underpants and these plastic covers or the combination ones like these and SKIP pull-ups. I have helped potty train probably hundreds of kids (work in child care) and pull-ups are nothing but expensive glorified diapers. "Most", not all, children make no progress until I talk the parents out of pull-ups. Once they are truely ready it should only take a few days in underpants to be mostly potty trained. The training pants will help them feel the wetness but not get the pee all over your house.
I plan on potty training DD around 18months also if possible. I have time off around Christmas and want to be able to devote full days on her and not set her up for failure. I am teaching her the sign for potty/toilet now. When I got potty I tell her I am going potty and sign it. When I change her I say you went potty and sign it and then take her in to get a diaper. She can already sign it so I hope that she starts using it for diaper changes on her own and then I will know she is ready for sure. Communication is huge, she has to be able to tell you she has to go or she isn't ready.