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October 2012 Moms
Cousin "stole" my baby name. Back to drawing board...
DH and I are team green and we already picked out two names, which of course, we hadn't told anyone.
But now my cousin, who is three months pregnant, has already named her baby and sent out announcements and pictures. And of course, out of the billion names she could've selected, she chose the name DH and I wanted for our child if he's a boy.
I thought WE were being the clever ones by keeping things a secret so that we could avoid the inevitable unsolicited input from friends and family. Also, other friends said you have a better chance of getting what you need on your registry if folks don't know the baby's sex (otherwise, you'll get just clothes, I've been told repeatedly.)
Anyhoo.. Dang! Back to the drawing board on a name for a boy.
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Re: Cousin "stole" my baby name. Back to drawing board...
Honestly, I'm of the opinion that you can name your kid whatever you want and that no one can call "dibs" on a name. My SIL and I are due three months apart (she's Dec) and are naming our kids the same name.
Naming a baby can be really hard and challenging and once you and your partner finally love and agree on a name, that name becomes your baby (to me, anyways). No need to go changing it because someone related to you likes the same name.
I say this too. I think its very strange to be sending out announcements already.
Um, yes, this whole thing is odd. And so what if you and your cousin name your kids the same?
My brother and I, the only two children in the family, are having children within 10 weeks of each other.
Our spouses both want to use the name William for very valid family reasons.
So we're using them. I do not see the big deal, at all.
It's also idiotic that your cousin did that. She could very likely change her mind, fwiw.
Your right it may not even be an issue if you have a girl. And I agree, weird! sending out announcements at 3 months.
On a side note, my step sister and 2 sister in laws were all pregnant and due within 3 months of each other. I was first. I called "dips" on a few names. It ended up not being an issue, we had a girl and they had boys. I realize this doesn't help you know. Hopefully you can find another name you like, otherwise your baby is first, use the name!
This is the reason I like to share our names so that people might steer clear from using it.
But - like others have said, who cares. Use it. Sorry but your cousin sounds lame for sending out announcements when she still has 6+ months to go. Who does that? And do they even know for sure they are having a boy? Don't they all look like boys at 12ish weeks?
Agreed
Do you mind my asking what the name is?
I agree with all pp, that's just bizarre. I don't know anyone who would do that and no one gets dibs. A name is a name, if you and your SO like it, and it's a boy, use it:)
Use the name you like. If it ends up that both of you have boys with the same name, oh well. You will live with your child every day for many years, call them what you want to call them.
I think its odd that your cousin announced anything besides being pregnant at 3 months along, but since she did, nows your chance to respond with something like "Congratulations! Its obvious that I love the name you picked because thats the same name we picked for our baby if its a boy".
If she's such an AW that she went through with a fanfared announcement complete with sex and name at 3 months, she sounds like the kind of person that would be overly dramatic when she finds out the name of your son (if its a boy)....so Id avoid the chaos now by making it clear now that you didnt "steal" the name, you already had it picked out but were being more discrete about it.
This! It makes no sense to me why she would send out announcements if she doesn't even know what she's having and soo early in her pregnancy! Weird.