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wallacek07wallacek07
in December 2012 Moms
My best friend is also pregnant but a couple weeks behind me. I don't know how to tell her that I really don't think that it will be smart to throw each other showers. I would love for each of us to help with the others shower but I don't think that I would be that smart for me ( a FTM to throw a shower for another FTM right after my baby is born) and same for her. I don't want to tell her to not throw one for me, but she is will be VERY pregnant too and I don't think that it's a good idea to deal with that kinda stress when I know that both of us can get another friend/family to take care of the showers. Am I over thinking this or should I just get over my fear of her being mad at me and just talk to her about it?
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  • pamiva1pamiva1 member

    Has it come up by either one of you? Maybe she thinks the same thing?

    If you do want to do it for each other,have your showers early so you both can enjoy it. 

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  • MrsT1108MrsT1108 member

    imagewallacek07:
    My best friend is also pregnant but a couple weeks behind me. I don't know how to tell her that I really don't think that it will be smart to throw each other showers. I would love for each of us to help with the others shower but I don't think that I would be that smart for me ( a FTM to throw a shower for another FTM right after my baby is born) and same for her. I don't want to tell her to not throw one for me, but she is will be VERY pregnant too and I don't think that it's a good idea to deal with that kinda stress when I know that both of us can get another friend/family to take care of the showers. Am I over thinking this or should I just get over my fear of her being mad at me and just talk to her about it?

    Okay, with hoping I understood this post correctly:

    If she's literally only a couple weeks behind you, what is the issue with you throwing her shower (if that is what you wanted to do) and her throwing you one (if that is what she wanted to do)?  People normally don't throw a shower for someone when they're ready to go into labor.  If you already know that you are throwing each other showers, why not talk about it and plan it for a time that works for each of you?  It's not rocket science.

    Also, you can't just tell someone else to throw your shower(s).  As has been stated on this board (and many others) numerous times, a shower is a gift.  One should not expect or demand one.

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  • WiscoMom67WiscoMom67
    I'd say just do it early!  Most showers are somewhere in the 30-34 week range, I believe, so if you have yours when you're 30 weeks and then her's when she's 31 weeks, you'd have a solid 4 weeks between the two and would only be 34 weeks when you hosted the shower.  Totally do-able, unless it involves MAJOR travel.
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  • bklynbmpbklynbmp

    Im with the early crowd.  I can't imagine anyone but my best friend throwing my shower or vice versa.  Yes, it can be stressful but it can be fun as well (Ive thrown several and enjoyed it)  Just start early and get help. 

    Unless you are 1000% sure there is someone just as good willing to take your place as host, I feel like its the best friends responsibility to take care of this.

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