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October 2011 Moms
So, I just took another pg test
And it came up negative again. I'm feeling less anxious because that'll be the 2nd one that says negative so false negatives can;t keep happening, right? It's probably just stress. Phew!
Talk to DH about the possibility of me being pregnant again and he sees no problem with it. Ended up in a heated discussion and him going to bed at 8:30. He also refuses to have sex with a condom now. Booo. He says it sucks. I'm sure it's better that your hand.
Blegh.
On a lighter note, had an awesome day at a family's BBQ. I must confess I was drinking wine all day. LO was being a ham for everyone and showing off her clapping and talking (babble) skills. There was a relative from Long Island she specifically loved. I think it was all her bling and the way she talked. Olivia would laugh at her. It was hysterical.
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Re: So, I just took another pg test
I'm sure it's just stress. Glad that you're able to not worry about that anymore, at least.
Heh, very simple equation for him sex with condom > no sex at all.
I read your other post but didn't have a chance to respond and then other ladies gave you much better responses, but I wanted to say that I'm sorry you're going through such a rough time. I hope your H can get his act together soon! Also, if you were to dump the baby on him and say she's his responsibility for the next hour, would he step up? Because I know that you say you're keeping her with you while he escapes into his man cave, but you need his help and his daughter needs her daddy. I'd start small, leaving her with him for a set amount of time so you can accomplish something specific, then build from there.
BFP #1: July 12, 2010 Natural M/C: July 26, 2010
BFP #2: January 30 ,2011 Born: September 29, 2011
BFP #3: January 5, 2013 Born: August 25, 2013
I agree. No glove no love, baby. Especially with the no job on his part situation. Another baby would definitely not help your relationship right now and he should be able to recognize that as well.
BFP 1/18/11, EDD 10/1/11. Born at 37w5d on 9/15/11.
***BFP Chart***
"There will come a time when you believe everything is finished. That will be the beginning.
I'm going to sound like a total bush here, but....
You seem to be making a lot of excuses for you husband. Way too many. If you honestly can't leave your LO with him long enough to go to the doctor, you need to rethink your situation in a BIG way.
Either (1) he's too sick/depressed/mentally ill to function -or- (2) he's a total and complete deadbeat. You might have to hash it out with your husband's doctors/counselors to decide. I'd consider going to a few appointments with him to explain the situation to the docs and ask them if he's capable of holding down jobs, being left alone with a child, etc. Once you have your finger on the pulse of the situation, you'll have some serious thinking to do.
I don't want to come off as unnecessarily mean. I'm really, really sorry that you're going through this. I was in a similar situation a few years ago with an old boyfriend (granted, there was no baby involved). He was a very nice person. We were good friends and had a great time together. Then we moved out on our own, and it became apparent that he did NOT want to live like a grown up. I had to make the difficult decision that I couldn't live my life with an anchor tied to my ankle. It wasn't my job to support him - I was his girlfriend, not his mommy.
Doctorworm, no you're not coming off as a bush at all. I know what you're saying and I agree. I do make way too many excuses for him and I do need to stop that. Regarding his mental health, there was a talk of him going into a program for 30 days so he would be gone for about a month. I told him to go. I think he needs to. I am going to his appointment with him tomorrow and we are going to discuss everything I have been talking about this weekend, because something needs to change. I want to know more about this program he could possibly go into.
As much as it would suck not seeing him for that long, he needs it. We need it. I would end up moving in with MIL most likely while he's gone, it would save money and I could actually have some savings by the time he gets back. Plus it would give me some time to think things through and decide what he and I need to do.
I know I need to stop being a total pushover, sometimes it's just easier than an argument. That's no excuse though. I know that. I also know that even though we're living our lives as adults, he just doesn't want to follow through and actually BE an adult. To make up for it, I have been picking up that slack. I'm hoping that by goign to this appointment tomorrow we can figure some things out and get everything out in the open, then work through our issues from there.
I appreciate your input on everything, thank you all very much.