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August 2012 Moms
Cheerilee
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Friend's shower invite :/
Cheerilee
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I just received the shower invitation for a friend's shower. She'd told me a month ago they were planning a baby shower. I thought she meant someone else was planning a shower but she was giving me a "save the date" type of heads up since I'm out of town. Nope, she and her boyfriend are planning their own shower. Ok, fine. I'm shaking my head, but whatever. I get the invitation for the shower and it is a kegger. To get a cup for the keg, you have to give them a pack of diapers. She also wrote "Our parents aren't helping us buy anything so please help us stock up for Baby ___! We are registered at ___." Oh dear. Then, she posts a status update saying invitations are out but if anyone who didn't get an invitation wants to come, they're welcome to - with a diapers = keg cup reminder and registry information. They also posted baby shower flyers at their work. SO many things gone wrong. I can't make the shower but I'll probably still send something because she's my friend.
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Re: Friend's shower invite :/
All I can do is shake my head at this. Seriously.
I got invited to a shower, and there was a second invite as a FB invite but I still thought that was not right...
But seriously, a kegger.. and kind of a cover charge (and expensive one) to go? Ridiculous.
Wow! I really wish I could get inside some people's heads for 5 minutes....
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Lol no, they're supplying snacks according to the invite. It starts at dinner time so dinner would have been more appropriate but I'm not sure etiquette was in the forefront of their mind
She won't be drinking (it was stated in the FB status in parentheses "obviously I won't be drinking - more for everyone else!". I can give that bonus point to her! It really is the most expensive cover charge I think I've seen since Vegas. I wonder if it's 1 pack of diapers per couple or 1 per person...
Haha from the sounds of it I can't believe it's not 'pack of diapers for a keg cup and gift off of our registry $20 minimum if you want to eat' lol!
LOL!... doubt it.
Haha how many items are 'non baby specific' ?
It's definitely the tackiest shower I've every been invited to and my extended family is PRETTY redneck and known for tacky. Every shower has been pot-luck/BYOB and I've definitely never received a thank you note from a family shower.
I only saw two items that were non-baby specific - the vacuum and a lamp. The vacuum was a Dyson and the lamp was $120. Though, if the lamp is for the nursery it's technically for the baby. I think they registered for diapers all the way from newborn to 4T Pull-Ups in preparation for the kegger.
So they expect a pack of diapers for every cup so to me that sounds like it's per person PLUS a gift because their parents aren't helping out??? UM.... whaaatt?
I would go and bring my own booze (if I wasn't pregnant that is) since it would be cheaper (I'm not a big drinker).
I was invited to a shower last year that the couple hosted themselves, invites were on facebook and it was a stop by between this time and this time, bring a gift, eat some BBQ and cake (the couple provided) and bring a gift and I thought THAT was tacky.
I've been seeing more and more people having a stop by between this time and this time shower and I think they're really tacky.
Ew. I may not be the world's biggest stickler for etiquette, but seriously? A kegger? Demands for diapers? Saying they need help because their parents aren't contributing? FB?
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Oh yes, they will have cupcakes, too. I forgot about that. I would also bring my own alcohol. I'd rather have a nice glass of red wine or pre-mixed margaritas than cheap keg beer (since I doubt they sprung for the more expensive beer).
I truly never expected something like this to come from this particular friend. I think she broke every etiquette rule there is. I understand not having money to provide for a surprise baby but still... Our LO is a surprise and we've managed to pull it together slowly (even with DH being a financial idiot and me having to hold his debit card). DH even side-eyed the kegger shower. Hopefully she sends thank you notes?
The issue isn't so much the keg as the "cover charge" attached to it. My mom had beer available at our shower and the guys definitely enjoyed it (it was co-ed - though, the guys were really off golfing). Heck, I wish I could have had one since my mom stocked up on MY favorite beer which I can't get where we currently live.
My friend is 26. I'd think by then you'd know your way around the dos and don'ts of being polite. I'm not sure how old her SO is but I would assume he's her age.